Female Ejaculation (44 page)

According to the
Kama Sutra
, the best match for lovers, called
equal relations
, is with corresponding genitals: large with large, medium with medium, and small with small.

In old Indian terms, the three possibilities are:

With equal relations, penetration is easy. The woman doesn’t need to open or contract her vagina. The man need not aspire to athletic postures to compensate for different sizes.

The
Ananga-Ranga
says: “When the proportions of both lovers are alike and equal, then satisfaction is easy to achieve. The greatest happiness consists in the correspondence of dimensions.”

Unequal relations, according to the
Kama Sutra
, are between lovers whose genitals are of different sizes. The more unequal, the more difficult it is to achieve satisfaction.

Of course, these labels aren’t really important. We’ve included them so that you’ll be aware of how much compensation you need.

A baby is much bigger than the largest penis. Vaginas were designed to expand tremendously to allow for birth, so we know the potential exists to accommodate Highest Unions with pleasure instead of pain.

With High and Highest Unions, lubrication is of the utmost importance, however. Three of your most vital guidelines are wet, Wet, WET!

If you’re a Hare Woman (smallest) or Horse Man (largest), you’ll likely be in this tight lovemaking situation often. If so, be sure you use lots of commercial water-based lubricants to assist.

We believe much of the difficulty with High Unions is insufficient warm-up. This is a situation in which you definitely can’t rush into a quickie. You might need up to an hour or more of ample loveplay to insure that the vagina is totally hot, open, and thoroughly engorged.

In High Unions, you want to choose sexual positions and postures that allow the receiver to spread her thighs to make the vagina’s inside space bigger. Makes sense, doesn’t it? All you need to do is to become familiar with the positions that work best in each situation. In the next section, you’ll find a large variety of wide open positions and postures that create extra room for a large penis in a small vagina.

To allow High Union penetration to be as comfortable and pleasurable as possible, consider The Receiver Position (woman on top), Transverse Position (side-to-side), the Her Legs Wide Posture of the Giver Position (man on top), and the Wide Open Posture of the Kneeling Giver Position.

Fortunately, there are also great ways that both men and women can use to compensate for Low and Lowest Unions. They all work better after both have dedicated themselves to regular PC practices. We’ve already mentioned pompoir, the skill of a woman with strong vagina muscles trained for gripping and milking the penis. The better the receiver can pump her PC muscle, the better for Low Unions.

As the
Kama Sutra
states about the largest vagina: “The elephant woman contracts her sex to receive a small caliber.” The
Ananga-Ranga
says that the woman must “strive to close and constrict her vagina until it holds his penis as, with a finger, opening and shutting at her pleasure, and finally acting as the hand of the girl who milks the cow. This can be learned only by long practice.”

Don’t worry that this long practice is a burden without reward. The stronger a woman’s sexual muscles, the easier her orgasms come, the more powerful they are, and the more likely she is to ejaculate ecstatically. Worth the exercise? You bet!

Women, if you’re feeling singled out, don’t. This isn’t sexist work. Men who build strong PC muscles can develop stronger, harder erections. With enough strength, they can apply more pressure where it counts on the G-spot. If you’ve ever experienced pulsing finger pressure on a G-spot, imagine that being applied by an erect penis. It sure puts a delicious bounce in your step. Again, men can receive the payoff through longer stamina, stronger orgasms, and prostate health.

In simple terms, when a woman’s vagina is larger than the penis, use positions, postures, and variations in which she tightens her thighs. For Low Unions, avoid the wide open variations that make too much space inside. The Cow Position (rear entry), The Giver Position (man on top), and Kneeling Giver Position are some that can help.