Plan to repeat this practice with several new options each time. Even after years of intercourse, we still find new variations that we enjoy and want to explore further.
Once you’ve explored everything you want, you’ll know what you prefer based on the desired effect at different times. For example, on different occasions, you may want to:
Heighten your sensation
Slow your peaking
Increase G-spot pressure
Deepen your intimate connection
Push for orgasm
ORDER OF EXPERIMENTS
What’s the best order for experimenting? There’s no standard. Maybe you’ll want to try to reach the G-spot with some familiar postures first. Then, in later sessions you can bring in more inventive and challenging variations to find out how they feel. You may be pleasantly surprised.
While practicing different variations within a posture, give some attention to your transitions:
What flows best from one to the next?
Do you want to gradually move into another variation that only requires a slight adjustment?
Do you want to try something radically different to change the mood?
Do you want to simply bask longer in the pleasure created by what you’re doing right now?
As before, begin each practice session by agreeing which postures and variations you want to try.
THE RECEIVER POSITION (WOMAN ON TOP, MAN ON HIS BACK)
One of the best positions for G-spot play is with the man on his back and the woman on top facing toward him. This makes it easy for her to control the depth, angle, speed, pressure, and rhythm of the thrusting.
She can move fast, slow, deep, shallow, up and down, and side to side. The woman is in charge of extending loveplay or pushing for orgasm. She can push his legs together or apart, varying the tightness of the fit of his penis. In some variations, she can lean over to kiss him, rub her clitoris on his pubic bone, or pleasure her clitoris herself.
Because the woman is in the driver’s seat, we call it The Receiver Position, since the receiver has most of the power, acts as the initiator, and her energy leads.
Many of the following postures can be varied by the man extending his legs out straight, raising his knees or hips, or bending his legs with knees open.
KNEELING FORWARD POSTURE
With the woman kneeling over her lover while facing towards his head, she can sit upright, lean forward, or lean back.
SQUATTING FORWARD POSTURE
When the woman squats over her lover while facing toward his head, she can bounce up and down with her feet on the bed or on his thighs.
LAYING FORWARD POSTURE
With the woman laying forward and facing toward the man’s head, she can lay flat on top of him with her legs inside or outside of his.
SITTING ON TOP POSTURE
In the variations of this posture, the woman sits on top of the man facing toward him, away from him, or sideways with her legs on top of his body.
FACING BACKWARD POSTURE
When the woman faces backward toward the man’s feet, she can sit over him or kneel while leaning forward, backward, or rocking.
PRACTICE:
THE RECEIVER POSITION EXPERIMENTS
1.
PREPARE WITH THE FIVE S’S
Supplies, Showering, Setting, Stretching, and Settling.
Discuss the Partnering Questions. We’ve suggested that you discuss which postures of The Receiver Position you want to try first. Let’s say you decide to explore the Kneeling Forward and Squatting Forward Postures this time.
Agree on any signals or alert words that you want to be prepared to use.
2.
LOVEPLAY
Ritually undress each other, whispering endearments and compliments as you reveal each body part. Exchange whatever loveplay excites you both. Give your beloved a soft, slow sensuous massage. Play with the penis and the vagina using your hands, mouths, and tongues. Use the four cornerstones of supreme bliss to ensure that both of your inner energy channels are hot, full, and flowing.
3.
INTERCOURSE
Slowly move into lovemaking, emphasizing one of the variations of the first posture you’ve agreed on. Experiment with different speeds, angles, pressures, and rhythms. Stay conscious of all of your sensations. Adjust within the posture variation for maximum contact with the G-spot. Pause occasionally, communicate, and enjoy, but be willing to shift when your body or partner needs a change.
4.
NEXT VARIATION
When you agree that you’ve fully explored the first variation and thoroughly enjoyed all its pleasures, try the others you have decided upon in the same way. Without changing your primary posture, move into different variations by adjusting your leg positions and weight distribution as described above.
5.
NEXT POSTURE
When you agree that you’ve fully explored all of the listed variations for the posture and enjoyed them to their fullest, check in to see how you’re both feeling. If you’re still energetic and hot to trot, try one or two more postures in the same way. Watch that you don’t rush through each variation without smelling the flowers. Remember, pleasure is your goal, not completing any agenda, and that includes ejaculation.
6.
ORGASM
If you’ve been filling your pleasure balloons and flying higher and higher by exchanging orgasmic energy, you may come to the conclusion that loveplay doesn’t require explosive orgasm for a sense of completeness. But if you want to have an orgasm or ejaculate, go for it all the way and enjoy it fully!
7.
CLOSING
When you’re ready to wind down, maintain intimacy physically and emotionally. When the penis is removed, cover the vulva or each other’s hearts with your hands to keep your sweet connection alive. Touch each other softly and gently. If you want, talk about what you experienced, what you liked and didn’t like, and what you’d like to try next time. Share your appreciation for each other. Spoon, hug, kiss, and synchronize your breathing.