Female Ejaculation (47 page)

For most mammals other than humans, rear entry is the only option. Rear entry affords some of the deepest reach. Because the vagina is angled up, the deeper the penis penetrates, the greater the chance of hitting deep G-spots. The higher the man rides behind his beloved, the more he can aim at a shallow G-spot.

Rear entry postures allow a man more freedom of movement than his lover. However, the receiver can swivel, sway, and raise her butt to guide the penis to her sweetest spots. By closing or spreading her legs, she can regulate the tightness of the fit. She can also easily play with her clitoris in this position. Experiment with pillows underneath the receiver to adjust the angle of the fit.

One disadvantage of the Cow Position is that communication is more difficult. You can’t see each other or maintain eye contact. Since penetration that’s too deep can be painful, you also need to be careful to lengthen strokes gradually and gently.

Standing, she bends over while supporting herself with her hands on the bed or floor, or she gets on her knees and supports herself with her hands, elbows, or shoulders while he stands or kneels behind her.

The woman lies flat on her stomach or on a pillow that rests under her hips, face down on the bed. He kneels behind her or lays flat on top of her with his legs inside or outside of hers.

While she’s on her side, he kneels behind her or lies on his side and spoons her so that they cup each other with knees bent while he’s tucked against her back.

The advantage of side-to-side postures is that both lovers can vary their thrusting without the effort of supporting themselves. She doesn’t have to depend on him or vice versa. The receiver’s hips are free enough that she can direct the angle of thrusting to address her G-spot most directly. The man can adjust his thrusting by moving one or both of his knees up toward her. Both can lie next to each other or at right angles in order to redirect the penis toward her G-spot.

The woman lies on her back with the man lying at right angles to her with his legs intertwined with hers (the popular Scissors Position), or she can put her legs over his hips or lift her knees to her chest.

She lies on her side with legs drawn up toward her chest while the man kneels behind her.

They face each other on their sides with their legs straight or intertwined, one over the other’s hips or with him between her legs.

These postures are generally called the “Missionary Position” because it was used by the Europeans who tried to convert Polynesians when they tried to bring Christianity to the Pacific. The Polynesians thought the man on top position was funny because they so much preferred squatting lovemaking postures.

Mostly, the man superior position has wide freedom of movement, and the woman below has little. Uninventive use of the missionary position often misses the receiver’s G-spot due to its typical angle of penetration.

There are adjustments for The Giver Position, however, that allow for good G-spot contact. If he holds her bottom in the air and she raises her hips with pillows, it can work well. Or she adjusts the vagina’s orientation with various leg adjustments. By raising her hips, she can direct the penis to the front wall of the vagina and often to the G-spot.

While on top of her with her legs together, he can move his legs inside, outside, or on top of hers with his weight on his hands, elbows, or knees. These variations of the classic Missionary Position with her legs together compensate for imperfect penis-vagina fit but don’t allow much opportunity to guide the penis to the G-spot.

The French call half-facing variations of the Missionary Position the “Flanquette.” This is where his body is swiveled to one side of hers. He can put one leg between hers or both to one side, while she places one leg across his thigh.

She opens her legs wide with her knees up or down or wrapped around him as he lies on top and supports himself on his hands or elbows.

As the receiver raises her legs more and more, she initially directs the penis deeper, then deep against the vagina’s front wall, and then further and further toward the vagina’s opening. She does this by bending her legs back, raising her knees, and placing them on his chest or shoulders. For many women, this is great for G-spot play.

In these postures, the man kneels, squats, or sits between the woman’s legs. With these adjustments of the old Missionary Position, different angles and depths of penetration can be reached. In almost all cases, she’s on her back with her legs or hips raised.

To compensate for a too-tight fit, she spreads her legs with her knees or bottom up while he kneels between her legs, possibly supporting her.

In these wide open variations with him kneeling, her legs hold him between her thighs with her legs in the air on either side of his waist or crossed around his back.

She puts one or both feet or her knees on his chest to raise her hips and adjust her orientation for maximum G-spot contact, possibly crossing her feet or knees, while he kneels before her.

To raise her hips even higher, she puts one or both legs or feet on his shoulders, alternating them, or crossing them.

In these more acrobatic variations, she rests one or both feet on his head or forehead for maximum elevation.

Yab-yum means mother-father because the Hindu creation myth portrays the woman sitting on the man’s lap with the fruits of their lovemaking dripping down and creating the universe.

Sitting lovemaking postures are some of the most intimate and energetically satisfying, but they’re demanding physically. The delight of yab-yum provides great motivation to go to the gym regularly or develop greater flexibility with yoga postures.

Most sitting postures don’t allow much freedom of movement, so they aren’t the most likely for G-spot contact. He needs a strong and lasting erection, and she needs strong PC muscles to milk a waning penis. If both lovers have flexible hips, adjusting the angle of penis entry is possible. If he has strong PC muscles, he can apply wonderful pressure to her G-spot steadily or by tapping.

In the classic intercourse posture, he sits in lotus position with one leg crossed over the other, half-lotus with one leg underneath and the other crossed in front, or with legs straight, while she wraps her legs around his back. Yab-yum is also fun on a chair with her facing toward him or away from him.

By kneeling, squatting, or sitting, lovers can straddle each other, approximating yab-yum by wrapping one or both legs around their partner.

From yab-yum or straddling, the woman holds one or both legs in her hands and raises them as he supports her leg(s) in the crooks of his elbows, or she rests them on his shoulders.

From yab-yum, both lovers lean back, supporting themselves with pillows or their arms, with her legs on either side of his hips or on his shoulders. Alternatively, both can rest their legs on each other’s shoulders.

From the leaning posture, both hold each other’s arms, swing to and fro, or lie flat on their backs.

Standing postures are exciting, but they require the greatest strength and agility. Knee bending is essential for thrusting, and pelvic rocking is a must for G-spot contact. We just wouldn’t put this one anywhere near the top of the list for G-spot stimulation.

Lift-off requires the greatest exertion for these postures. A reasonably strong man with a lighter woman can enjoy some ecstatic minutes standing, walking, or even dancing.

With both standing, they face each other and support themselves against a wall while entwined. He can also hold one of her legs against his hip.

With both standing, the woman is suspended from his body while she sits on his joined-together hands. He can also hold her up with his hands under her thighs, or he can hold her above his waist by supporting both of her widespread legs in the crooks of his elbows.

She sits or lies on her back on the edge of a bed or table while he stands between her legs with her legs stretched out at his sides, wrapped around him, or high in front of him.

One way to make the standing position more comfortable is to buy a love swing. This is basically an adjustable hammock open on one end that you suspend from the ceiling or a collapsible metal frame. The woman lies fully supported on her back with her butt at the edge of the fabric. Good love swings include stirrups for her feet and a center bar that she can grab with her hands. He can move in and out or pull her to and fro onto his penis by holding the swing’s sides.

After your initial experimentation, we urge you to repeat these practices often to keep your lovemaking fresh, alive, and creative. If you approach each intercourse session with a clear mind, open heart, and childlike exuberance, you’ll have lots to play with forever, and you’ll
discover lots about your G-spot that might even lead to ejaculation during intercourse. Wouldn’t that be a thrill?

Remember, though, that the G-spot can be quite shy. It needs to be carefully and lovingly coaxed into showing itself, and this is even truer during intercourse. As we’ve said on many occasions, every couple is different, every fit is unique. Let’s not forget to mention emotional variables, relationship issues, and comfort in communicating about sex. Everything is open to change in the moment.

Ancient Indians weren’t that interested in finding the woman’s G-spot and turning her into a multiply orgasmic lover. So, their descriptions don’t indicate how well they’ll work for you and your partner in finding her G-spot. Only practice and your attention to sensation will answer that question for you.

We’ve discovered that level of turn-on and engorgement has a lot to do with how well Jeffre’s G-spot is stimulated during intercourse. It isn’t solely about position, but that’s very important, of course.

We hope you never stop experimenting with one another. Ride with it, play with it, and thoroughly enjoy it.