Flaws:
Needs to be around women.
Has trouble maintaining male friendships.
Has trouble committing to women and career goals.
Is searching for the impossible ideal of a woman who can be both his mother and his wife.
Is irresponsible and flighty.
Can be unambitious and unmotivated.
If the Woman's Man is hurt or betrayed by a woman, he may turn into the Seducer. As the Seducer he lures women away from good as well as bad relationships, causing havoc in their lives and leaving them alone to pick up the pieces when he's finished with them.
He has a pattern of excessive emotionalism and attention seeking. He has a low tolerance for problems and has rapidly changing emotions behind a face that remains stoic and unreadable. He's a ticking time bomb that no one knows about until he explodes. He is exceedingly sensitive to criticism and is overly concerned with his appearance.
He may become a stalker, obsessing about the one woman who won't return his favors. His dreams turn to fantasies about her, and he acts out his hurt on her.
He thinks he displays intense love for a woman. He feels he treats them well, and they owe him something. He does everything for them, risks everything for them, and if they want to leave him he won't stand for such treatment. He feels that “no other man is there for them like I am.”
May be a stalker if rejected.
Loves to play head games with women, coming on strong and then leaving them cold.
Likes to be the one to end relationships.
Often ends relationships when the woman seems to love him the most.
Will be with several women at once and often chooses to be with friends and sisters at the same time to create more turmoil in their lives.
Feels entitled to attention from the women he helps.
Thinks when a woman says no she's deliberately trying to hurt him — he'll show her who's boss.
Is a ticking time bomb no one knows about until it's too late.
Is extremely sensitive and can't handle rejection.
His face remains stoic, not giving away his anger to warn anyone.
Often mistakes obsession with love.
Sam Malone (Ted Danson) in
Cheers
Jesse Katsopolis (John Stamos) in
Full House
Will Truman (Eric McCormack) in
Will & Grace
Chandler Bing (Matthew Perry) in
Friends
Nick Marshall (Mel Gibson) in
What Women Want
Robbie Hart (Adam Sandler) in
The Wedding Singer
Harry Burns (Billy Crystal) in
When Harry Met Sally
Ted Stroehmann (Ben Stiller) in
There's Something About Mary
Johnny Castle (Patrick Swayze) in
Dirty Dancing
Dex (Donal Logue) in
The Tao of Steve
Nickie Ferrante (Cary Grant) in
An Affair to Remember
Ferris Bueller (Matthew Broderick) in
Ferris Bueller's Day Off
Roger Thornhill (Cary Grant) in
North by Northwest
Will Shakespeare (Joseph Fiennes) in
Shakespeare in Love
Jack Dawson (Leonardo DiCaprio) in
Titanic
Count Vronsky in
Anna Karenina
by Leo Tolstoy
Count Dracula in
Dracula
by Bram Stoker
Mikhail in
Dark Prince
and
Dark Gold
by Christine Feehan
Leo in
I Know This Much Is True
by Wally Lamb
Billy the Poet in
Welcome to the Monkey House
by Kurt Vonnegut
John Willoughby in
Sense and Sensibility
by Jane Austen
Alec d'Urberville in
Tess of the d'Urbervilles
by Thomas Hardy
Porthos in
The Three Musketeers
by Alexander Dumas
Surrounded by light, Osiris walks across the earth carrying transformation and wisdom wherever he goes. He illuminates all he comes into contact with. He is the divine child and the divine consort. Killed by his own brother, he relied on his sister Isis to resurrect him. He loves humans so much that he sacrifices himself every year, giving the earth his body in winter and being reborn again in spring. He is life and death.
The Messiah is the archetype of androgyny. Both the male and female version of this archetype are identical except for the fact that the male preaches and shows the way to love and enlightenment while the female is the way to love and enlightenment.
The Male Messiah archetype can also contain any of the other archetypes, which will help him to achieve his goals in this lifetime. For example, William Wallace (Mel Gibson) in
Braveheart
is a savior of his people who embodies the Ares/Protector archetype to go to war and achieve his goal of freedom.
Also, the Male Messiah may not know of his connection to the Divine, but he may just be driven to accomplish something important. In this respect he isn't working on a spiritual goal. It seems his whole life is for one purpose and that purpose affects the lives of thousands of people. Think of Jeffrey Wigand (Russell Crowe) in
The Insider
, who gives up his wife, his children and his career to fight the big tobacco companies. He may have been reluctant at first, but soon he realizes this is the reason he was born. He stands up, changes lives and finds his life purpose.
As Male Messiahs, Obi-Wan Kenobi (Alec Guinness) and Luke Skywalker (Mark Hamill) both seek to battle the evil of the dark side.
The Male Messiah has the ability to see the whole picture when it comes to problems. He never jumps to conclusions or gets involved in the gossip or drama of everyday life.
He respects all religions and belief systems. He gives freely of himself because he knows what he puts out comes back to him threefold.
The Male Messiah is more accepted by the masses as a spiritual authority figure because of his gender. He has the opportunity and ability to speak out and be active about his views. But as a male he may be looked down upon if his message is about the feminine traits of love and compassion.
Robin Hood's stealing from the rich to feed the poor makes him an example of the Male Messiah archetype.
What Does the Male Messiah Care About?
Being born male, the Male Messiah doesn't have firsthand knowledge about the inequalities that exist in the world, but if he is of a minority race he'll learn this lesson quickly and be concerned with creating harmony among all people — think of Malcolm X.
He cares about himself as well as others. Every living thing is a manifestation of the Divine to him.
He cares about others recognizing their own divine nature, and he wants to teach others how to become like him.
He reveres healing the soul above healing the body. He can't take away the pain of another who needs to learn from his experience even though he may be a gifted healer.
He may not realize his Divine connections but be born with a strong pull toward a goal and a willingness to sacrifice himself for it.
What Does the Male Messiah Fear?
The Male Messiah fears people will be led astray by those on the wrong path, or by their own desire to please the senses or dull the senses with mind-numbing activities.
He fears he won't be taken seriously and his message will be devalued.
He fears he'll run out of time to fulfill his mission or that he'll have to watch others suffer.
What Motivates the Male Messiah?
The aesthetic need to be connected to something greater than himself motivates him as well as his pursuit to give and receive unconditional love.