8 Ways to Make Her Come Orally (2 page)

Don’t compare your girl’s vulva to ones that you see in
Penthouse
,
Playboy
, or pornography. Many of the women featured in these magazines go through surgery to make themselves look picture perfect.

Pubococcygeal (or PC) Muscle

This is a hammock-like muscle stretching across the floor of the vagina from pubic bone to tailbone; it controls urine flow and contracts during orgasm. If she—and you, because men have it, too—exercises that muscle, it will become stronger, enhancing sexual pleasure and intensifying orgasm for both of you. With a strong PC muscle, she will be able to “grip” your penis, and even pull it in and out of her vagina.

Doing Kegel exercises builds that muscle. For women, regular Kegels keep the vagina toned after childbirth and postmenopause. Kegel exercises to strengthen the PC muscle are essential for every woman and man. Doing them is the absolute bottom line requirement for good sex. Not only does a strong PC make your orgasm more likely and more intense, it also facilitates multiple and extended orgasms. So do them!

For Her: How to Find Your (and His) PC Muscle

Locate your PC by stopping and starting the flow of urine. Once you have located the muscle, begin with a short Kegel sequence.

Contract the muscle 20 times at approximately one squeeze per second. Exhale gently as you tighten only the muscles around your genitals (which includes the anus), not the muscles in your buttocks. Don’t bear down when you release. Simply let go. Do two sets twice a day. Gradually build up to two sets of 75 per day.

Then add a long Kegel sequence.

Hold the muscle contraction for a count of three. Relax between contractions. Work up to holding for 10 seconds, then relaxing for 10 seconds. Again, start with two sets of 20 each and build up to 75.

Once you are doing 300 repetitions a day of the combined short and long sequences, you will be ready to add the push-out.

After relaxing the contraction, push down and out gently, as if you were having a bowel movement with your PC muscle. Repeat gently. No bearing down.

Now create Kegel sequences that combine long and short sequences with push-outs. After a month of daily repetitions of 300, you should have a well-developed PC muscle. You can keep it that way simply by doing sets of 150 several times a week.

A Variation for Her: The Kegel Crunch
Vary your Kegel routine by doing them while exercising. For example, do Kegels as you perform pelvic crunches. Contract your PC as you pull in your stomach muscles. Release both at the same time.

A Variation for Him: Add Weight

As your PC muscle grows stronger, you can perform your exercises with first a damp handkerchief, then a face cloth, and finally a hand towel draped over your penis.

HER SEXUAL RESPONSE CYCLE

There are general stages of arousal common to all of us, yet specific to each of us. Paying attention to her sexual response cycle and flowing with her moods is the art of love-making and what will make you the best lover she has ever had. Women’s moods are so intricate that this could be a lifelong practice with the same woman.

Noted Female erogenous Zones

• Clitoris

• Cervix

• Vagina

• Anus

• Neck

• Ears

• Breasts

• Nipples

• Thighs

• Back

• Lips

• Hips

• Stomach

• Buttocks

• Shoulders

• Hands

• Collarbone

• Feet

• Backs of the knees

• Lower back torso

• Armpits

Signs of Early Arousal

• Heart rate increases and her blood pressure rises

• Body muscles tense

• The vagina begins to lubricate

• Nipples and clitoris swell as they become engorged with blood

Approach

At this stage you want to psychologically and physically engage the female form. The scenerios in this book are a creative way for you to initiate this phase. Approach her with the intention of authentic appreciation, relecting back her own beauty. Long, slow strokes and gradual builds are generally desirable at this initial stage. Initiate physical contact with:

• Soft kisses

• Relaxed eye contact

• Light touches

As She Becomes More Aroused

• Breathing deepens, and she may moan or gasp

• Muscle tension increases, toes may curl, and spasms might show on the feet, face, and hands

• She sweats

• As the vagina swells with blood, the genitals appear darker

• The clitoris becomes larger

• Her breasts may even increase in size to become more full

• Her body flushes with a red tone

Approach

• Incorporate a rhythm

• Establish patterns and sets

• Apply pressure

• Increase pace

SEX FACT

On average, a woman needs twenty minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. The average guy needs two to five minutes of stimulation to the head of the penis via thrusting in intercourse or manual masturbation. Not fair, huh?

• Direct contact to clitoris and surrounding erogenous spots

• Sucking works well to direct energy

• Create gaps or moments of no stimulation

• Be present watching and listening to what she likes

• Hold on to her as she approaches orgasm

During Orgasm

• She has muscle contractions and loses control. Depending on the intensity, she may have between three and fifteen contractions occurring at 0.8-second intervals. She may also experience contractions in other parts of her body such as the sphincter

• Her body may become rigid at the highest point of orgasm

• Some women ejaculate fluid

• Sex flush becomes brighter and more noticeable

Approach

Some people use cunnilingus as the appetizer, others the entrée. Women do not need to repeat the entire cycle to orgasm again. Once they are in the orgasm phase, they are highly orgasmic.

• Be grounded and steady, holding her in place

• Maintain contact to her clitoris and stimulating areas

• Apply pressure or sucking to the clitoris combined with light tongue strokes, which intensify orgasm

After the Last Orgasm

The refractory phase is an important part of the oral experience. Interrrupting this phase would be the same as cutting any of the other phases short.

• The clitoris and nipples become very sensitive

• “Sex flush” disappears

• Increased amounts of oxytocin, the “cuddle hormone,” are released into the body

Approach

How long should you stay in this phase? Ideally, until she breaks free from your embrace, but twenty minutes is a safe amount of time.

• Slow down direct stimulation to erogenous zones to a stop

• Be present with her

• Hold and caress her

• Celebrate her

SEX FACT

Any place can be an erogenous zone. Sex researcher Alfred Kinsey found that some women could reach orgasm by having their earlobes nibbled or eyebrows stroked.

Increase Orgasmic Intensity with Sensual Indulgences—Plus Cunnilingus

There are many ways to indulge your lover. Whatever surprises and treats you have in store for her, make them more memorable by including cunnilingus.

•
The Whole Donut Massage
,
Give her a massage that includes the whole donut, even the hole—and don’t forget her happy ending.

•
Morning Thunder
,
Give her breakfast in bed and a new mouth move.

•
The Royal Treatment
,
Service your slightly kinky queen and reap the rewards later.

•
Light Her Fire
,
Build her a roaring fire—and go down on her in front of it. That’s a luxury any woman will love.

•
Wet and Wild
,
Hot tubs are sexy. Can you hold your breath underwater and lick her at the same time?

•
The Harlequin Special
,
Read out loud from a romance novel together—orgasms included.

•
Wake-Up Call
,
Become her human alarm clock with your tongue.

•
Thrill Her from Head to Toe
,
After you paint her toes, suck them … and keep sucking.

THE WHOLE DONUT MASSAGE