A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire (28 page)
Authors: Ogi Ogas,Sai Gaddam
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But there is another intriguing element to cuckold erotica. Look over this list. It shows the most common two-word phrases in cuckold stories on Literotica.
Most Common Phrases in Cuckold Stories
Much of cuckold porn consists of a well-built, well-hung black man having sex with a man’s white wife while he watches. Many cuckold porn sites exclusively feature black cuckolders, such as Interracial Hotwife, My Wife Went Black, and Black Mother-Fuckers. In Craigslist ads posted by couples seeking a man, nearly one-third specify they want a black guy. On Fantasti.cc, fifteen of the top twenty-five videos tagged “cuckold” feature black men and white wives. Of particular interest in cuckold porn is the black penis. It’s inevitably large, and always elicits high praise from the wife when compared to the husband’s smaller organ. Why is there such a strong interest in watching black men have sex with cheating wives? There’s a clue in a genre of porn without any wives—or even any women. Gay porn.
“Black guys are hot,” explains Rocco. “They’re the ultimate in ‘you’re going to suck me off,’ the ultimate in ‘I’m going to throw you down and mandhandle you.’ They’re the ultimate tops. Big, strong, dominant, with a huge dick.” In Chapter 7, we saw that the fourth most popular category of gay sexual searches is
blacks
. Gay men search for
blacks
even more than they search for
penises
or
anal
. Why? One clue can be found in gay porn. On It’s All Gay, in videos containing a white man and a black man, black men are tops about seven out of eight times.
blacks
. Gay men search for
blacks
even more than they search for
penises
or
anal
. Why? One clue can be found in gay porn. On It’s All Gay, in videos containing a white man and a black man, black men are tops about seven out of eight times.
As revealed by online videos and stories, the black man possesses one very special quality in the imagination of both gay and straight men:
dominance
. But why would a straight man get
more
turned on by watching a dominant, masculine man have sex with his wife? What makes a man’s sexual desire overcome his sexual jealousy? The science of biology offers one intriguing answer to this question.
dominance
. But why would a straight man get
more
turned on by watching a dominant, masculine man have sex with his wife? What makes a man’s sexual desire overcome his sexual jealousy? The science of biology offers one intriguing answer to this question.
Sperm competition
.
.
Sperm competition refers to a variety of physiological and behavioral adaptations that enable a male’s sperm to compete head-to-head with other males’ sperm in the battle to impregnate a female’s egg. These adaptations are found in a dazzling variety of species. The giant testicles of the chimpanzee, which can blast out an enormous volume of sperm, is one such
physiological
adaptation. Female chimpanzees have sex with multiple males while ovulating, so a male that can produce more sperm has a better chance of dislodging other males’ sperm and a better chance of his own sperm surviving future matings. Many biologists hypothesize that the bulbous head and extended length of the human penis is another physiological adaptation. Its shape is very effective at shoveling out the sperm of any rivals. Perhaps the inevitable flaccidity men experience after ejaculation is intended to prevent men from shoveling out their own sperm.
physiological
adaptation. Female chimpanzees have sex with multiple males while ovulating, so a male that can produce more sperm has a better chance of dislodging other males’ sperm and a better chance of his own sperm surviving future matings. Many biologists hypothesize that the bulbous head and extended length of the human penis is another physiological adaptation. Its shape is very effective at shoveling out the sperm of any rivals. Perhaps the inevitable flaccidity men experience after ejaculation is intended to prevent men from shoveling out their own sperm.
Dogs, deer, and kangaroos exhibit
behavioral
adaptations for sperm competition. If males from these species sense that a female might be exposed to sex with other males, they will exhibit premature ejaculation, more vigorous thrusting, and multiple ejaculations. Mice, owls, and beetles adjust the number of sperm they release in response to sperm competition cues. The motility of their sperm and the force of their ejaculation also depend on the perceived risk of male competition for a female. Male stickleback fish will release more sperm if they see a
video
of another male.
behavioral
adaptations for sperm competition. If males from these species sense that a female might be exposed to sex with other males, they will exhibit premature ejaculation, more vigorous thrusting, and multiple ejaculations. Mice, owls, and beetles adjust the number of sperm they release in response to sperm competition cues. The motility of their sperm and the force of their ejaculation also depend on the perceived risk of male competition for a female. Male stickleback fish will release more sperm if they see a
video
of another male.
A man getting aroused by the psychological cue of cuckoldry is another
behavioral
adaptation. If a man believes that his sexual partner may have been with a rival, this adaptation drives him to have sex with her as quickly and as vigorously as possible. One hotwife describes her cuckolded partner’s physical response: “My steady boyfriend, nicknamed IFuckAmy, is mentally strong and physically weak. He is definitely monogamous and he picks my boyfriends—they are always physically well built and fit. He watched me fuck the same guy a few times. I can tell that IFuckAmy is jealous but when he fucks me afterwards, I also noticed that his load is strong and heavy and he cums fast.”
behavioral
adaptation. If a man believes that his sexual partner may have been with a rival, this adaptation drives him to have sex with her as quickly and as vigorously as possible. One hotwife describes her cuckolded partner’s physical response: “My steady boyfriend, nicknamed IFuckAmy, is mentally strong and physically weak. He is definitely monogamous and he picks my boyfriends—they are always physically well built and fit. He watched me fuck the same guy a few times. I can tell that IFuckAmy is jealous but when he fucks me afterwards, I also noticed that his load is strong and heavy and he cums fast.”
In many species, the more dominant the potential rival, the stronger the sperm competition cue and the more intense the arousal, perhaps because dominant males tend to ejaculate more vigorously than submissive males. Since black men are frequently perceived as more dominant, they may activate the sperm competition cue more effectively. British psychologist Nicholas Pound even speculates that the erect penis and the “money shot” are both visual cues of sperm competition that trigger arousal. If Pound is right, this would also explain why large penises play such a prominent role in cuckold porn, especially large black penises. (It would also underscore the penis’s special role as a visual cue in the male brain.)
Sperm competition cues may also help explain another popular genre of male-targeted online porn:
group sex
. On the Web, group sex porn has exploded into a variety of subgenres. There are the straightforward “gang bang” sites featuring one woman and multiple men, such as Gang Bang Squad, Gang Bang Arena, and Her First Gangbang. There are “orgy” sites such as Teenage Group Sex, Orgy World Girls, and Anal Party Orgies, which feature staged group sex scenes with professional stars. There’s a surging genre of “party” porn such as Frat House Fuck Fest, Party Hard Core, and In the VIP—sites that portray real college parties or nightclubs where girls have raucous sex in front of large crowds, often with multiple partners. A similar “reality” group sex genre features amateurs having group sex without any audience, such as Dare Dorm, Russian Orgy, and Frat House Hazing.
group sex
. On the Web, group sex porn has exploded into a variety of subgenres. There are the straightforward “gang bang” sites featuring one woman and multiple men, such as Gang Bang Squad, Gang Bang Arena, and Her First Gangbang. There are “orgy” sites such as Teenage Group Sex, Orgy World Girls, and Anal Party Orgies, which feature staged group sex scenes with professional stars. There’s a surging genre of “party” porn such as Frat House Fuck Fest, Party Hard Core, and In the VIP—sites that portray real college parties or nightclubs where girls have raucous sex in front of large crowds, often with multiple partners. A similar “reality” group sex genre features amateurs having group sex without any audience, such as Dare Dorm, Russian Orgy, and Frat House Hazing.
Nicholas Pound conducted a series of studies using videos portraying “polyandrous sexual activity” (in other words, gang bangs and group sex). He discovered that men are consistently more aroused by multiple men than by multiple women or by a man and a woman. Another piece of online evidence for sperm competition cues in group sex porn is the marked asymmetry in the
gender
of group sex participants. Many Web sites feature large numbers of men but only one woman, such as 6 Buck Orgy, 10 Man Cum Slam, and 15 on 1. But the site with the highest female to male ratio is Fuck Team Five. This site’s videos feature between three and five professional actresses who often please one lucky guy. But, tellingly, the videos just as often show the Fuck Team actresses with groups of guys.
gender
of group sex participants. Many Web sites feature large numbers of men but only one woman, such as 6 Buck Orgy, 10 Man Cum Slam, and 15 on 1. But the site with the highest female to male ratio is Fuck Team Five. This site’s videos feature between three and five professional actresses who often please one lucky guy. But, tellingly, the videos just as often show the Fuck Team actresses with groups of guys.
Though
threesome
Web sites featuring two ladies and one man are certainly popular, Fuck Team Five is the only multi-female, one-male gang bang site on the Alexa Adult List. In contrast, there are 381 multi-male, one-female gang bang sites on the list. (There are a number of multi-female, one-male sites within a genre known as CFMN: Clothed Female Naked Man. However, this genre specifically portrays a man getting teased, dominated, or humiliated by a group of clothed women, and thus appeals to a different psychological cue: submission.)
threesome
Web sites featuring two ladies and one man are certainly popular, Fuck Team Five is the only multi-female, one-male gang bang site on the Alexa Adult List. In contrast, there are 381 multi-male, one-female gang bang sites on the list. (There are a number of multi-female, one-male sites within a genre known as CFMN: Clothed Female Naked Man. However, this genre specifically portrays a man getting teased, dominated, or humiliated by a group of clothed women, and thus appeals to a different psychological cue: submission.)
On PornHub, in the three hundred most-viewed group sex videos, there are forty-four videos with three or more guys and one girl; there are twenty-five videos with three or more girls and one guy. The extremes of the group sex genre are also revealing. There are dozens of “mega–gang bang” videos featuring more than one hundred guys having sex with a single woman. In contrast, there are no videos featuring a guy having sex with more than a dozen women, not even if we include CFNM porn. (Of course, this might also say something about how much easier it is to round up one hundred guys to be in porn than it is to find one hundred willing girls, especially considering that the guys would be willing to do it for free. But if you’re a straight male, ask yourself—would you pay to see one guy have sex with a hundred women?) There’s also a gender difference in sexual fantasies about group sex. Men fantasize about group sex more often than women do—and imagine larger numbers of
males
in group sex fantasies than women do.
males
in group sex fantasies than women do.
One final piece of evidence from the Internet supports the existence of a sperm competition cue in the male brain. In gay porn, gang bangs are also extremely popular. Gay men even appear to exhibit the cuckold cue. “Sometimes I fantasize about walking in on Thor with another guy. It really gets me hot thinking about it and we’ve role-played it before,” explains Rocco. “Of course, if it really happened, I’d cut his balls off.”
SHE’S GOTTA HAVE ITLong before the Internet, male-targeted pornography featured shrieking, shivering female orgasms. Howling moans and vocal encouragement culminate in a moment of egregious ecstasy that often seems as artificial as the one famously faked by Meg Ryan in
When Harry Met Sally
.
When Harry Met Sally
.
Why does porn contain such conspicuous signals of female pleasure? It’s certainly not for the female viewers. “I just don’t get how these women are supposed to be having orgasms because some guy shoots a big load on her face?” complains one woman. Another woman put it even more succinctly: “Yeah, right.”
The women are moaning and swooning for the men. Female sexual pleasure is one of the most potent psychological cues for male arousal. Indeed, this may be the most common cue across all varieties of online porn. “Seeing and hearing a woman who is truly turned on like crazy has to be the biggest aphrodisiac I can think of for me,” lauds one man on reddit. “If this happens in porn, and it rarely does, I find it to be fucking amazing.”
But true pleasure might be hard to find, according to Stephen Yagielowicz. “While I suspect that most fans believe that the girls are actually having orgasms (just as most guys believe they always give their lover an orgasm), I also suspect that many performers are thinking about the new shoes they will buy. It’s like bigtime wrestling: some believe it’s all real, from the hits to the back story. Same with porn.”
Because of men’s desire to believe, women who lack typical male visual cues can still excite men through the energetic expression of sexual pleasure. One example is porn superstar Sasha Grey, who crossed over into mainstream filmmaking in Steven Soderbergh’s
The Girlfriend Experience
. Sasha Grey is skinny, flat, and lacking in feminine curves, yet she has a large and devoted male following. This enthusiasm is apparent in the comments section on the porn star review site FreeOnes:
The Girlfriend Experience
. Sasha Grey is skinny, flat, and lacking in feminine curves, yet she has a large and devoted male following. This enthusiasm is apparent in the comments section on the porn star review site FreeOnes:
“No tits, too damn skinny but god damn i will watch her vids all day.”
“I totally am into fake Blondes with huge fake tits, but this girl knows how to suck and take a facial. Don’t know what it is, maybe she likes it that much, and it is showing . . . that might be why I am turned on by her actions . . .”
“Sasha actually puts enthusiasm into her work. No one works it harder than she does on the set. I’d kill to be with a girl with that much energy.”
Indeed, the surest way for a female porn star to increase her popularity is to be known for having authentic orgasms. Any casual discussion of porn actresses on forums or comments inevitably finds intricate discussions of whether favored stars have orgasms or not—and those that attain consensus that their orgasms are real, such as Sasha Grey, Nina Hartley, Chloe, Cytherea, and Jenna Jameson, tend to have the most devoted fans. Gay men are also aroused by conspicuous signs of sexual pleasure from their partner. Gay porn contains as much moaning and groaning and dirty talk as straight porn.
On Fantasti.cc, we analyzed ten thousand comments on one hundred top-rated videos. The third most common type of comment is acknowledgment of the woman’s pleasure. For example, “She loves it!”, “Look at how excited she is,” “Would more cocks make her even happier?” (The most common type of comment is praise for a woman’s attractiveness. The second most common type of comment is variations of “What a delightful piece of anatomy.”)
Why are men so interested in determining the authenticity of a woman’s sexual pleasure—even when the objective odds of her experiencing bona fide pleasure are low, such as when a man ejaculates on her chest? And conversely, why do men get so upset when they believe a woman is faking pleasure? Perhaps for the same reason that the male brain is designed for sexual jealousy: to ensure a woman’s fidelity.
In order to figure out if a woman was faithful, men’s brains developed their own detective skills. But unlike Miss Marple’s chatty agency filled with a variety of sleuths, the male detective is more like an obsessive and irascible private investigator, permanently hired for a single task: determining whether a woman is cheating on him. Men are wired to pay attention to whether his partner is engaged and responsive during sex. If a woman seems apathetic or distant, that triggers suspicions. The private investigator starts asking questions. If I’m not turning her on, then who is?
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