A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire (44 page)
Authors: Ogi Ogas,Sai Gaddam
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111
half of women’s fantasies reflect the desire to be sexually irresistible
Ellis & Symons (1990).
half of women’s fantasies reflect the desire to be sexually irresistible
Ellis & Symons (1990).
112
Women frequently fantasize about being a stripper
Strassberg & Lockerd (1998). Forty-seven percent of women reported the fantasy of “seeing themselves as a striptease dancer, harem girl, or other performer,” and 50 percent had fantasized about “delighting many men.”
Women frequently fantasize about being a stripper
Strassberg & Lockerd (1998). Forty-seven percent of women reported the fantasy of “seeing themselves as a striptease dancer, harem girl, or other performer,” and 50 percent had fantasized about “delighting many men.”
112
“If a woman’s got a pretty body”
Levy (2006).
“If a woman’s got a pretty body”
Levy (2006).
112
sexting
http://www.thebostonchannel.com/news/18688245/detail.html
, retrieved September 12, 2010.
sexting
http://www.thebostonchannel.com/news/18688245/detail.html
, retrieved September 12, 2010.
112
Real Sex for Real Women
Berman (2008).
Real Sex for Real Women
Berman (2008).
113
a parallel between female irresistibility and a sexual cue in the female rat
Meana (2010).
a parallel between female irresistibility and a sexual cue in the female rat
Meana (2010).
113
Both pacing and the reward for pacing are controlled by software
Becker (2008). Also Meana (2010): “Bancroft deftly reviewed research suggesting that in the proceptive phase, female rats are in control, darting and hopping around the interested male, thereby pacing the frequency of his mounts. These sexual contacts have been shown to be rewarding (as evidenced by the conditioning of place preference) to the female rat, quite apart from intromission.”
Both pacing and the reward for pacing are controlled by software
Becker (2008). Also Meana (2010): “Bancroft deftly reviewed research suggesting that in the proceptive phase, female rats are in control, darting and hopping around the interested male, thereby pacing the frequency of his mounts. These sexual contacts have been shown to be rewarding (as evidenced by the conditioning of place preference) to the female rat, quite apart from intromission.”
The female giraffe also performs a kind of pacing.
http://www.bio.davidson.edu/people/vecase/Behavior/Spring2004/breedlove/matingsystem.html
.
http://www.bio.davidson.edu/people/vecase/Behavior/Spring2004/breedlove/matingsystem.html
.
113
Anorexia and bulimia
Becker (2008).
Anorexia and bulimia
Becker (2008).
113
Women express much greater body image self-consciousness
Meana (2010).
Women express much greater body image self-consciousness
Meana (2010).
114
“One Rape, Please (to go)”
http://www.viceland.com/int/v14n8/htdocs/rape.php
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
“One Rape, Please (to go)”
http://www.viceland.com/int/v14n8/htdocs/rape.php
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
114
widespread prevalence of female coercive fantasies
Critelli & Bivona (2008).
widespread prevalence of female coercive fantasies
Critelli & Bivona (2008).
114
an understandable source of discomfort and hand-wringing
Meana (2010),
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=all
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
an understandable source of discomfort and hand-wringing
Meana (2010),
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=all
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
Leitenberg & Henning (1995): Thirty percent of women had the fantasy “I’m a slave who must obey a man’s every wish,” and 22 percent had the fantasy “I’m made to suffer before a man will satisfy me sexually.”
114
“Arousal is not consent”
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=all
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
“Arousal is not consent”
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=all
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
114
Christine Monson’s 1984
Stormfire
“Because as I’ve said before, if the hero had a beer gut and one droopy eye with caterpillar eyebrows, the woman would be screaming her head off and running for the sunset. But if the hero is a ‘dark Irish devil’ with all the beauty of a fallen angel and abs like rock-hard nuggets of goodness, the woman would be screaming her head off and running for the sunset but not upset if she gets caught by him again.”
http://www.ripmybodice.com/2010/04/05/even-with-1-ball-more-alpha-than-the-rest/
.
Christine Monson’s 1984
Stormfire
“Because as I’ve said before, if the hero had a beer gut and one droopy eye with caterpillar eyebrows, the woman would be screaming her head off and running for the sunset. But if the hero is a ‘dark Irish devil’ with all the beauty of a fallen angel and abs like rock-hard nuggets of goodness, the woman would be screaming her head off and running for the sunset but not upset if she gets caught by him again.”
http://www.ripmybodice.com/2010/04/05/even-with-1-ball-more-alpha-than-the-rest/
.
115
It’s the wish to be beyond will
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=all
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
It’s the wish to be beyond will
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=all
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
115
Literotica is the single most popular English-language erotic story site
More on the history of erotic stories on the Web:
http://www.asstr.org/~JournalofDesire/v3n2/Jekyll-SexStories.html
.
Literotica is the single most popular English-language erotic story site
More on the history of erotic stories on the Web:
http://www.asstr.org/~JournalofDesire/v3n2/Jekyll-SexStories.html
.
116
Harry Potter stories on AdultFanFiction.net
Top sexual tags for Harry Potter stories on AdultFanFiction.net, scraped in May 2010:
Harry Potter stories on AdultFanFiction.net
Top sexual tags for Harry Potter stories on AdultFanFiction.net, scraped in May 2010:
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a fan fiction story by Miss Stephanie
http://hp.adultfanfiction.net/story.php?no=600025374
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
a fan fiction story by Miss Stephanie
http://hp.adultfanfiction.net/story.php?no=600025374
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
116
“the explosion that was building within him”
One reader admiringly comments on Miss Stephanie’s story, “He may be a psychopath, but a HOT psychopath. Damn. I like how he pulled his cock out of her and slapped her clit with it. Nice visual.”
“the explosion that was building within him”
One reader admiringly comments on Miss Stephanie’s story, “He may be a psychopath, but a HOT psychopath. Damn. I like how he pulled his cock out of her and slapped her clit with it. Nice visual.”
117
a scene in
Legally Blonde
Other movies that feature enhanced male sex appeal due to faked female interest:
She’s Out of My League
,
Love Don’t Cost a Thing
,
Sex Drive
,
American Pie
,
Year One
,
Along Came Polly
,
The Heartbreak Kid
. Also worth considering: Rachel Uchitel, one of Tiger Woods’s mistresses, is still attracted to Tiger despite—or because of?—all his other mistresses.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/sport/golf/tigerwoods/7962948/Rachel-Uchitel-wants-to-rekindle-Tiger-Woods-romance.html
.
a scene in
Legally Blonde
Other movies that feature enhanced male sex appeal due to faked female interest:
She’s Out of My League
,
Love Don’t Cost a Thing
,
Sex Drive
,
American Pie
,
Year One
,
Along Came Polly
,
The Heartbreak Kid
. Also worth considering: Rachel Uchitel, one of Tiger Woods’s mistresses, is still attracted to Tiger despite—or because of?—all his other mistresses.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/sport/golf/tigerwoods/7962948/Rachel-Uchitel-wants-to-rekindle-Tiger-Woods-romance.html
.
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the virgin’s Magic Hoo Hoo captures his full attention
Similar narratives:
The Golden Touch
by Laura London. The heroine is a vicar’s daughter, the hero a famous musician. She also wrote one called
The Lightning That Lingers
, about a librarian and a (male) stripper. Very charming books, and surprisingly un-rapey for the early eighties.
There’s Perfect
, by Judith McNaught. The heroine is a librarian, the hero a film star on the run.
Rock Star
by Roslyn Hardy Holco. The heroine is a librarian, the hero is a rock star.
The Good, the Bad and the Sexy
by Emily Carmichael. He’s a movie star, she owns a ranch.
the virgin’s Magic Hoo Hoo captures his full attention
Similar narratives:
The Golden Touch
by Laura London. The heroine is a vicar’s daughter, the hero a famous musician. She also wrote one called
The Lightning That Lingers
, about a librarian and a (male) stripper. Very charming books, and surprisingly un-rapey for the early eighties.
There’s Perfect
, by Judith McNaught. The heroine is a librarian, the hero a film star on the run.
Rock Star
by Roslyn Hardy Holco. The heroine is a librarian, the hero is a rock star.
The Good, the Bad and the Sexy
by Emily Carmichael. He’s a movie star, she owns a ranch.
118
Former Playboy playmate Kendra Wilkinson
Abridged from
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/07/12/hugh-hefner-i-have-sex-tw_n_643303.html
, retrieved on August 20, 2010.
Former Playboy playmate Kendra Wilkinson
Abridged from
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/07/12/hugh-hefner-i-have-sex-tw_n_643303.html
, retrieved on August 20, 2010.
119
“Omega” heroes
Knight (2007).
“Omega” heroes
Knight (2007).
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“It sounded very Muggle”
http://hp.adultfanfiction.net/story.php?no=600025374
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
“It sounded very Muggle”
http://hp.adultfanfiction.net/story.php?no=600025374
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
120
a type of discussion known as “meta”
http://www.angelfire.com/falcon/moonbeam/terms.html
.
a type of discussion known as “meta”
http://www.angelfire.com/falcon/moonbeam/terms.html
.
120
“the thing that unequivocally sucked me in”
http://cesperanza.livejournal.com/174095.html
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
“the thing that unequivocally sucked me in”
http://cesperanza.livejournal.com/174095.html
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
121
pop singer Beyoncé
Beyoncé, “Why Don’t You Love Me?”
pop singer Beyoncé
Beyoncé, “Why Don’t You Love Me?”
121
“nature designed women to be lovable”
Roy Baumeister, “Is There Anything Good About Men?”American Psychological Association, Invited Address, 2007.
http://www.psy.fsu.edu/~baumeistertice/goodaboutmen.htm
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
“nature designed women to be lovable”
Roy Baumeister, “Is There Anything Good About Men?”American Psychological Association, Invited Address, 2007.
http://www.psy.fsu.edu/~baumeistertice/goodaboutmen.htm
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
122
the greatest sexual self-delusion in men
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/12/17/common-shit-tests/
.
the greatest sexual self-delusion in men
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/12/17/common-shit-tests/
.
122
The male brain is designed for sexual jealousy
Symons (1979).
The male brain is designed for sexual jealousy
Symons (1979).
123
falling in love with the heroine represents an emotional deflowering
Wendell & Tan (2009).
falling in love with the heroine represents an emotional deflowering
Wendell & Tan (2009).
124
“sex is judged not to be worth the risk”
Meana (2010).
“sex is judged not to be worth the risk”
Meana (2010).
124
reason why fetishes are so much more common in men
Laws & O’Donohue (2008).
reason why fetishes are so much more common in men
Laws & O’Donohue (2008).
124
focus attention on female sexual plasticity
Baumeister (2000). “The greater consensual lesbianism in prison (as compared with consensual homosexuality among imprisoned males) would be interpreted by the selective control explanation as a sign that prison frees women from the compulsive heterosexuality enforced by society, reinforcing greater female erotic plasticity.”
focus attention on female sexual plasticity
Baumeister (2000). “The greater consensual lesbianism in prison (as compared with consensual homosexuality among imprisoned males) would be interpreted by the selective control explanation as a sign that prison frees women from the compulsive heterosexuality enforced by society, reinforcing greater female erotic plasticity.”
125
Anne Heche
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anne_Heche
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
Anne Heche
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anne_Heche
, retrieved on August 30, 2010.
125
found that high sex drive in women
Lippa (2006).
found that high sex drive in women
Lippa (2006).
126
FanFiction.net
has consistently maintained one of the highest stickiness rating of
any
Web site
http://www.zdnet.com/blog/itfacts/nielsen-stickiest-brands-in-august-2003/4699
,
http://www.internetnews.com/stats/article.php/3096631/Traffic-Patterns-of-September-2003.htm
,
FanFiction.net
has consistently maintained one of the highest stickiness rating of
any
Web site
http://www.zdnet.com/blog/itfacts/nielsen-stickiest-brands-in-august-2003/4699
,
http://www.internetnews.com/stats/article.php/3096631/Traffic-Patterns-of-September-2003.htm
,
http://books.google.com/books?id=ZKv43-YsSvQC&pg=PA123&lpg=PA123&dq=fanfiction.net+stickiest&source=bl&ots=K-2GU-YJ6a&sig=eSdMXqUDuQZQBEo2THmjlIDUkwQ&hl=en&ei=sR-NTIbyKoO88ga3t53ICw&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=3&ved=0CB4Q6AEwAjgK#v=onepage&q=fanfiction.net%20stickiest&f=false
,
http://www.clickz.com/clickz/stats/1713182/top-us-parent-companies-stickiest-brands-web-december-2008
,
http://www.clickz.com/clickz/stats/1703722/top-us-parent-companies-stickiest-brands-web-february-2009
.
,
http://www.clickz.com/clickz/stats/1713182/top-us-parent-companies-stickiest-brands-web-december-2008
,
http://www.clickz.com/clickz/stats/1703722/top-us-parent-companies-stickiest-brands-web-february-2009
.
126
Men, however, are eminently capable of mentally partitioning sex and romance
Fisher et al. (2002).
CHAPTER 7Men, however, are eminently capable of mentally partitioning sex and romance
Fisher et al. (2002).
128
The average length of the gay penis
Bogaert & Hershberger (1999). Gay men are thicker too: straights have a penis circumference of 4.80 inches, while gay men have 4.95 inches.
The average length of the gay penis
Bogaert & Hershberger (1999). Gay men are thicker too: straights have a penis circumference of 4.80 inches, while gay men have 4.95 inches.
131
“This kid that is here now is so fucking hot”
http://thorandrocco.wordpress.com/
.
“This kid that is here now is so fucking hot”
http://thorandrocco.wordpress.com/
.
133
the gay interest in masculinity appears to be as fixed and inflexible
APA (2009),
Report of the American Psychological Association Task Force on Appropriate Therapeutic Responses to Sexual Orientation
.
the gay interest in masculinity appears to be as fixed and inflexible
APA (2009),
Report of the American Psychological Association Task Force on Appropriate Therapeutic Responses to Sexual Orientation
.
133
converting homosexual desire into heterosexual desire through conditioning
Moan & Heath (1972).
converting homosexual desire into heterosexual desire through conditioning
Moan & Heath (1972).
133
opposes such ill-advised and ultimately unethical attempts
APA (2009),
Report of the American Psychological Association Task Force on Appropriate Therapeutic Responses to Sexual Orientation.
opposes such ill-advised and ultimately unethical attempts
APA (2009),
Report of the American Psychological Association Task Force on Appropriate Therapeutic Responses to Sexual Orientation.
133
a binary “gender cue”
Ponseti et al. (2006).
a binary “gender cue”
Ponseti et al. (2006).
134
the one hundred top-rated video clips on Gaytube
The hundred top-rated videos were retrieved on October 21, 2010.
the one hundred top-rated video clips on Gaytube
The hundred top-rated videos were retrieved on October 21, 2010.
135
the seven most popular categories of gay sexual searches
See Dogpile data description for more information. Dogpile gay sexual searches:
the seven most popular categories of gay sexual searches
See Dogpile data description for more information. Dogpile gay sexual searches:
136
Tom of Finland
http://www.eroticarts.com/
.
Tom of Finland
http://www.eroticarts.com/
.
137
Below are two lists
Gay stories consist of all stories in the category
gay
on Nifty, scraped in February 2010. Fanfic stories consist of stories across multiple fandoms on
AdultFanFiction.net
scraped in March 2010. The genres scraped were:
anime
,
books
,
buffy
,
comics
,
Barry Potter, movies
, and
television
. These genres contained the most stories.
Below are two lists
Gay stories consist of all stories in the category
gay
on Nifty, scraped in February 2010. Fanfic stories consist of stories across multiple fandoms on
AdultFanFiction.net
scraped in March 2010. The genres scraped were:
anime
,
books
,
buffy
,
comics
,
Barry Potter, movies
, and
television
. These genres contained the most stories.
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