Around the World in 80 Girls: The Epic 3 Year Trip of a Backpacking Casanova (64 page)

Twenty questions that will get her imagination going and quickly build rapport and comfort.

1. If you could lead someone else’s life for a week, who would it be?
 

2
. If you could have any job in the world with no chance of failure, what would you want to be? And don't say "Princess".
 

3
. What would you do if you were the opposite sex for one day?
 

4
. If you would be ruler of the world from now on, what would you change?
 

5
. If you could have three wishes, what will they be?
 

6
. If you win five million dollars in a lottery tomorrow, what would you do with the money?
 

7
. If from tomorrow on, you had no fear of anything, what would you do?
 

8
. Which day in your life would you want to do over again and would you change anything?
 

9
. If someone invented a pill so you don’t need to sleep anymore, what would you do at night?
 

10
. If you could be the best at any skill, what would it be? (for example: singing, dancing, acting, sports, writing)
 

11
. If you could travel in time, would you go backwards or forwards in time? And to what date would you go?
 

12
. If you had no chance of failure, you can be anybody or anything in the world, how would you want your life to look?
 

13
. What do you have going for you besides your good looks? Look around here, there are a lot of pretty girls, what sets you apart?
 

14
. Would you call yourself a good girl or a bad girl? Why?
 

15
. If you could choose a superpower, which one would it be?
 

16
. Who do you think lies more? Man or women? And who is better at it?
(Actually, women train men to lie, because every time they ask us if they look fat in a new dress or whatever, we HAVE to lie!)
 

17
. If you could commit any crime, and get away with it, what would it be?
 

18
. If there’s one country you could go for a few months, which one would it be? Why ?
 

19
. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
 

20
. What has been your worst date ever? Why?
 

Use
these questions and have fun with the answers. You will never seduce a girl with facts and logic so keep the conversation light and fun. Fun is the keyword: don’t be too serious and don’t go through the list as if you were interviewing her. It’s an excellent way to find out anything about her personality and it shows you’re not only interested in getting in her pants. Of course you and I are and this will help you get there. Don't be too shy or embarrassed to ask the deeper questions, but don't start off with them. I usually start with question nr 6. It’s a fun way to fantasize about things or you can call her out as a shopaholic. Be prepared that she will ask you the same, so think of good answers to give for the whole list or the ones you choose to use.
 

Golden tip

No matter what you're talking about, always look for opportunities to talk about sex, love and relationships. Her willingness to talk about these subjects is a good indicator on how open she is for sex and how fast she is willing to escalate.
 

Use
these questions a lot and you will see results quickly. My style is to have fun and make fun of the girl a lot. Be tough in certain subjects, be soft on others. I sometimes laugh if I hear myself talk unbelievable bullshit. Train yourself, practice makes perfect. You can ask these questions to anyone, so practice. You have nothing to do during the day? Ask the questions to some ugly girl in a hostel. Practice a fun vibe. When you make fun of a certain thing with your date you can use it as a recurring joke. One of her wishes (#5) is ridiculous? Make fun of it when you see her the next time.

These questions work best with educated women. I found out that girls who are not that educated or well-traveled have trouble answering most questions, so stick to the simple ones with them.

Be ready to get a surprised reaction when you start asking a question like those listed above. If she asks or shit-tests you by saying “Eh? what?” or just gives you a dumb look then throw it back at her and say something like: “Or I can just ask you a boring question like ‘What’s your favorite color’ ” and wait for her reaction.
 

Remember
that girls do not expect dreamy subjects but secretly love them. I have received impatient looks from girls just waiting for me to ask another dreamy question (whilst knowing they are being gamed). Getting called out may happen, but I wouldn’t think too much about it. I used to worry about the same thing until I realized that it never really happens and when it does happen, there’s still no reason to worry about it. Just give a ridiculous reaction to it. Say something like “All right, you got me. I’m secretly doing research for Playboy magazine after photographing naked girls got too boring for me.”
 

You
don’t care because players don’t care and live in a world of abundance. There are cute girls everywhere. As a guy you get more interesting year by year. Girls get older year by year. If you are a couch potato who never chases girls or does nothing interesting with his life, you will get old soon too. So, do something about it.

A few no-
go areas

It’s
still possible to talk about these subjects but I would keep it to a minimum if you’re inexperienced in picking up girls. Especially with foreign chicks who are not used to the western style of humor.
 

Weird sex
:
talking about sex is good, but don’t try to impress her with knowledge about anything that’s considered perverted by most people. Talking about a threesome should be the borderline. Do not ask about how many partners she’s had or tell them about yours. If you are a cool guy, than she already knows you have (many) girls in your life.
 

Status or wealth
:
a cool guy doesn’t openly flash cash or talks about how much his house/car/watch/clothes costs. It should be obvious to the girl already that you have money. If you’re kind of broke, don’t make a secret of it.
 

Violence
:
do not try to impress her by telling her about kicking some guy’s ass or how people are scared of you. Don’t make a scary impression on her either or act the opposite: a wimp. Again, it should be obvious that you’re a man, not some wimpy guy.
 

Blood and gore
:
horror movies, things in the news that are shocking like rape or child abuse. Do not try to show the girl how much of a caring guy you are or how much you are offended by certain things.
 

Bad past relationships
: come on, nobody wants to hear you whine about how you broke up or got your heart broken. Don’t complain about past relationships either. No one likes a complainer and she will think you will do the same with her.
 

Politics
:
do not act like a green environmental guy or have strong opinions on immigration or human aid. Girls are softer on those subjects and don’t think as logically or realistically as most guys (unless they’re softies). A lot of foreign girls are not really up-to-date or, quite frankly, have a clue about what’s going on outside their own country.
 

Religion
:
always a touchy subject, avoid it or mention that you are not religious.
 

Racism
and racial jokes
should be obviously avoided or treated with caution.
 

Cursing
: a cool guy doesn’t need to curse to underline his words. It’s a sign of weakness. Once or twice is OK but don’t make it a habit.
 

And
the most important one is:
don’t
talk about things that are gross or sickening like dirty toilets, diseases, weird conditions or disgusting things about food like the time you ate a rotten egg or stepped on a cockroach with your bare feet and saw his guts coming out. This will put an image in her head picturing you in this situation. She has to be sure you won’t tell a gross story when meeting her friends or family, so she won’t be embarrassed by you. Remember that girls think emotionally, not logically.
 

One
mistake a lot of guys make is that they don’t recognize the signals girls are giving them. You have eyes and ears, so use them. You have to watch her reaction and act upon it. If she’s not comfortable talking about certain subjects then drop it and move on to something else. The right mindset is that you have to assume that the girl likes you and talk to her like she’s an old friend you haven’t seen in a while.
 

Be
relaxed, you’re not in real hurry and you won’t die if she doesn’t like you from the start. The most important thing you have to remember is that you’re a fun guy with a fun life. The girl will put her guard up unless you are a fun guy to hang out with and you know how to build rapport with her. This goes for night-life gaming also.

DHV – Demonstration of Higher Value

Talking about the cool people, events or exciting stuff you know is a huge DHV for a lot of girls, since the hottest girls are very value-oriented, so the more value you or your life has, the more value you have to them.
 

Instead
of telling several short DHV stories it is also possible to tell a major DHV story in which you display a lot of high-valued characteristics. It is important that it sound genuine and not over-the-top. Use a story that is party true so you don’t mix up the details. I used something that is partly made up by old school PUA Style (the gypsy part) and something from my own experience. It may sound like utter bullshit to you because men have a logical and solution-focused brain but girls think on an emotional level. Don’t try this with a cold-hearted, short-haired career businesswoman.
 

Ask
her:
“Do you believe in magic or spirituality?”

She
will either say yes or no but will probably ask why.
 

“Well, it’s a long story but two years ago when I was
travelling in Russia for a couple of months, I met a Russian girl in the train to …. It was love at first sight and we had a few amazing and very romantic days together. Unfortunately I had to leave the country since my visa had run out and I had no way of extending it.

She was a beautiful girl and I kept in touch when I continued
travelling in Japan and South Korea. We emailed all the time and I was proud to have a Russian girlfriend who was a bikini model when she was a bit younger. My friends back home warned me about a possible scam but I had been at her place and knew she had a good job as an accountant.

We met again in China; she came to a small border town just across the Russian/Chinese border and I sat two days in the train to see her. We had a great weekend together but had to say goodbye again. We kept in touch again and she visited me in Thailand half
-a-year later. She had saved up all her money to see me again.

We spend three weeks together, traveled across Thailand and had a heartbreaking goodbye after. I was almost ready to give my trip up and thought about living in Russia.

Six months later we met again in the Philippines and spent two weeks on a tropical island together. We had a great time but the love between us had dimmed down a bit. My strong feelings for her were not completely gone but it was just different. She was very disappointed and cried for months.

We broke up but she still tried to convince me to see again in South America. I asked her not to come because I didn’t want her to spend all her savings on me again.”
 

So
far this is all true. (I guess I’m a pretty cool guy after all.) What I didn’t tell is all the banging of other girls I did. In real life I would add some more details to make the story more believable but you get the drift. From now on I start telling the fairytale:
 

“So here’s the crazy thing. When I was
travelling in Argentina I started dreaming about her at night. I had already had a Brazilian girlfriend but I kept seeing Julia in my mind. It was almost like a vision. The dreams felt real and I felt like I could almost touch her. I even felt her presence next to me when I woke up.

I developed strong feelings for her again. I didn’t know what to do and decided to call her on Skype.

After some talking she admitted something to me. Well, I know it sounds crazy but this is what she told me: she couldn’t get me out of her mind and was determined to get me back. She took a bus to a very small village a few hours away from her city. She visited an old gypsy woman and the gypsy witch put a love attraction spell on me. This happened around the same time as I got the dreams. I must say I freaked out a bit when she told me this and asked her to stop it and break the spell. I don’t want anyone to influence my mind, it was almost scary. It stopped the next day and the dreams haven’t returned since.”
 

“What do you think? Can this be real or what happened?”
 

Almost
all girls will take this seriously and talk about some spiritual thing that happened to her. This story builds some very high value. Girls will read between the lines and see what a great guy you are.

Let’s
see what she heard in this story:
 

I
traveled alone in Russia for months, which means I’m adventurous. I picked up a beautiful Russian girl who was a bikini model before. We had romantic days together and she now knows I had sex with her very shortly after meeting her. She can now figure out figure the romance and sex must have been really good because the Russian girl fell in love with me. She was so crazy about me that she spent all her money to see me again in unknown exotic destinations twice.

We
emailed all the time, which means I keep in touch with girls I meet. She works as an accountant, aka she is intelligent. I was almost willing to give it all up for love. She cried for months after losing me. She desperately tried to see me again in South America and was willing to spend her money again. She went to a gypsy to put a spell on me.

These
are all big-time DHVs and real value builders.
 

There
are a few minor DHVs in the fictional part of the story. By now the girl you’re telling the story to is thinking
My God, what kind of guy is this? He must be very special
. I know all you non-believers are thinking: “What a load of crap!” But this stuff really works if you know how to bring it.

The story she heard contains things all women love: an almost Hollywood-like love story, drama, mystery and lots and lots of pre-selection. It’s almost like a soap opera. That’s why stories like this work well in countries where soap operas play a major role in a girl’s life, like in South America or South East Asia. The level of fairytale drama they endure in only half an hour of telenova soap is unbelievable. You can add more DHVs by adding extra details in between the story. In this case I could describe the things we did on the holiday, parts of my travelling, the old gypsy woman.

Even
if the girl laughs at you and doesn’t believe the gypsy part, she has still heard all these value-building things about you. Keep a straight face and shrug your shoulders. Just say: “I’m not sure what happened but I’m telling you the truth.” Shrug your shoulders and try to change the subject. Never ever admit it wasn’t true.
 

You
can make your own DHV story. It can be anything as long as you add values like love, excitement, drama and pre-selection to it and don’t make it sound too obvious you’re telling a story where you highlight all the positive things. You need to convey that you are a sexual person. You should feel confident when talking about sex. Make sure you add an element that displays that you have limited time, so she is pressed for time if she wants to get with you.

Sit
down and think of something in your life that you can spin into a DHV story. You can use the gypsy part of the story if you want and combine it with your own story. Write it down and practice your storytelling. It has to be something which is partly true and the details of which you can remember all the details . You can wake me up in the middle of the night and I can tell this story. That’s because 90% of it is true.
 

If
you are an excellent liar then make up a good DHV story that isn’t true. If you’re only in the city for a few days then you can tell the girl pretty much anything.

Learn how to tell a good story with the right facial expressions, body movements and tone of voice. Speak slowly and you will not lose her attention. Use vivid language and words that are easy to understand. It’s hard for people to create a mental image of your story if they don’t understand what you’re saying. Talk with passion and it doesn’t matter anymore what the subject is. A passionate man is an attractive man. Even Adolf Hitler, possibly the most evil man on earth, had his share of female admirers.

Golden tip

Last but not least, a tip that will drive girls crazy and keep them re-approaching you in any setting. This should be done if you already know the girl for a bit (anything longer than 10 minutes of talking) and should be said in a flirty manner.
 

Me:
“You know, there are 3 things I really like about you.”
 

Girl:
“Hmm, what are they, tell me!” (Already curious)
 

Me:
“Well, the first thing I like about you is the way you smile/look/smell…” (Whatever)
 

Girl:
“Oh, well thanks. What more?”
 

Me:
“The second thing about you is the way you move/walk/talk/dance…” (Whatever)
 

Girl:
“ah ok, what’s the third thing?” (Or something similar)
 

Me:
“well, it’s just how you…. Nah, I can’t say it. Maybe you get angry. Forget it…” (Put a big grin/smile on your face)
 

The
girl will go mad all right. She might ask you to tell her 10 times. She’s dying to know. She might walk away but she’ll come back later and ask again. I’ve had girls call or text me in the middle of the night.

You can keep this up a long time and sometimes pull her into a date this way. If you have to say something eventually, make something a bit insulting or funny. Say something like: I just love how your nose wiggles when you laugh.
 

This
works in clubs but especially in places you visit more than once, like a bar or restaurant. It works well on bar maids and waitresses, receptionists, girls working in a store. It’s easy to pull off and girls abroad don’t know old-school tricks like this.

When a waitress walks past you in the bar or restaurants a few times, say this with a flirty smile:

Me:
“Hey you again? You like being close to me/hanging out around me, do you?”
Girl: “Haha”
Me: (make some small talk and then say) “I think you will return soon, I can see it in your eyes.”
Girl: “hahaha, blablabla…”
Me: (later) “See, you are back again. I knew you couldn’t stay away.”
 

If
she likes the bit of flirting, when you’re done eating/drinking/buying something say this:

Me:
“You know what, you’re a nice girl. I think I’m gonna call you later.”

Girl:
“You think so? But you don’t have my number.”

Me:
“You’re right.” (take out your phone and hand it over to her, don’t ask) “Put your number in there.”
 

If
she doesn’t want to give you her number, say this:

Me:
“Hmm, what? I can’t hear you. Speak slower. So your number is 555…?”
 

A
lot of times she will give you the number anyway but chances are higher on a flake.

The
last two tips are also very doable in a club setting with a normal girl.
 

Another
one for a waitress is:
 

Me:
“You know what? You’re a bad girlfriend. I can’t remember the last time we kissed. You know what? It’s over between us.”
 

Or
(this one works in a club too)
 

Me:
“You know what? You are a bad girlfriend! I’m breaking up with you. Tomorrow I’m coming by your place to have break-up sex and to get my CDs.”