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67 “How bold this bacchant”: Euripides, “The Bacchae,” in
The Bacchae and Other Plays
, trans. Philip Vellacott (New York: Penguin, 1954), 207.

68 “I am not afraid”: Giacomo Casanova,
History of My Life
, trans. Willard R. Trask (Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 1997), vol. 2, chap. 2, p. 33.

68 “The same energy”: Quoted in “Juan Belmonte,” in Irving Wallace et al.,
The Intimate Sex Lives of Famous People
(New York: Delacorte Press, 1981), 524.

69 paladin in full-tilt revolt: Frank McLynn,
Robert Louis Stevenson: A Biography
(New York: Random House, 1993), 94.

69 Despite poverty, “tatterdemalion”: Ibid., 97, 101.

69 “Keep your fears”: Robert Louis Stevenson, source unknown, quoted in “Quotations Book,” http://quotationsbook.com/quote/14862 (accessed May 14, 2012).

69 We are “unhorsed”: Robert Louis Stevenson, “On Falling in Love,” in Isidor Schneider, ed.,
The World of Love
(New York: George Braziller, 1964), vol. 2, 261.

69 “sly Hermes”: Quoted in McLynn,
Robert Louis Stevenson
, 27.

70 “Love,” wrote Stendhal: Stendhal,
Love
, trans. Gilvert and Suzanne Sale (Harmondswood, UK: Penguin, 1957), 139.

70 “Eroticism is primarily”: Georges Bataille,
Eroticism: Death and Sensuality
, trans. Mary Dalwood (San Francisco: City Lights Books, 1986), 31.

71 The loved one: David Holbrook,
Sex and Dehumanization in Art, Thought and Life in Our Time
(New York: Pittman, 1972), 31.

71 Positive Psychology Center: See Christopher Peterson,
A Primer in Positive Psychology
(New York: Oxford University Press, 2006), 145; and T. Byram Karasu,
The Spirit of Happiness: Discovering God’s Purpose in Your Life
(New York: Simon & Schuster, 2006), passim.

71 Neumann thinks: Erich Neumann,
The Great Mother: An Analysis of the Archetype
(Bollingen Series vol. 47), trans. Ralph Manheim (Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 1963), 97.

72 they don’t get more lovable: Sarah Wendell and Candy Tan,
Beyond Heaving Bosoms: The Smart Bitches’ Guide to Romance Novels
(New York: Fireside Books/Simon & Schuster, 2009), 70.

72 “For the Love of God”: See “For the Love of God,” All About Romance, www.likesbooks.com/religion.html (accessed March 21, 2011).

72 “destiny of mankind”: Quoted in Ernest Newman,
The Man Liszt
(New York: Scribner’s, 1935), 32.

72 “masterpiece of God”: Quoted in ibid., 161.

72 “uncomely” loner: Quoted in Spencer Klaw,
Without Sin: The Life and Death of the Oneida Community
(New York: Penguin, 1993), 12.

73 “extraordinarily attractive to women”: Quoted in ibid., 12.

73 “eager to sleep with him”: Wallace et al.,
Intimate Sex Lives of Famous People
, 553.

73 “claiming spirit”: Klaw,
Without Sin
, 12.

73 “idolatrous attachment”: Ibid., 11.

73 “Anybody,” he explained: Quoted in ibid., 11.

73 “exemplary lover”: Ibid., 11.

74 “shone like an angel’s”: Quoted in ibid., 36.

74 “The desire to know”: Cathleen Schine,
Rameau’s Niece
(New York: Houghton Mifflin, 1993), 132.

74 Studies show women: See Ewen Callaway, “Nerds Rejoice: Braininess Boosts Likelihood of Sex,”
New Scientist
, October 3, 2008.

74 fourth-century sex manual:
The Complete K
ā
ma S
ū
tra
, trans. Alain Daniélou (Rochester VT: Park Street Press, 1994), 45.

75 “distinction of mind”: Ovid,
Art of Love
, 133.

75 easy to see the parallels: Martha Nussbaum, “The Speech of Alcibiades: A Reading of Plato’s Symposium,” in Robert C. Solomon and Kathleen M. Higgins, eds.,
The Philosophy of (Erotic) Love
(Lawrence: University Press of Kansas, 1991), 302.

75 “reached inside women’s”: Miller,
Mating Mind
, 237.

75 Dionysus brought civilization: Brown,
Hermes the Thief
, 23.

75 Irish folk hero and sex god: Norma Lorre Goodrich, “Chuchulain,” in
Medieval Myths
(New York: Meridian Books, 1966), 183.

75 intellectuals haven’t fared well: For a list of movies and novels that portray professors, especially, in this light, see William Deresiewicz, “Love on Campus,”
American Scholar
, June 1, 2007.

76 Intellectuals proliferate: In Jane A. Radway’s study, “intelligence” is ranked as the most important quality in a hero, see
Reading the Romance: Women, Patriarchy, and Popular Literature
(Chapel Hill: University of North Carolina Press, 1984), 82. For professors as an archetype, see Tami Cowden, “We Need a Hero: A Look at Eight Hero Archetypes,”
All About Romance
, May 14, 1999, www.likesbooks.com/eight.html.

76 “He made her think”: Nora Roberts,
Vision in White
(New York: Berkley Books/Penguin, 2009), 116.

76 “buns or dick size”: Norman Rush,
Mortals
(New York: Vintage, 2004), 213.

76 “Mad Hatter’s”: Quoted in Caroline Moorehead,
Bertrand Russell: A Life
(New York: Viking, 1992), 303.

76 “several enjoyable evenings”: Ibid., 388.

76 “In spite of myself”: Quoted in Miranda Seymour,
Ottoline Morrell: Life on the Grand Scale
(New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1992), 109.

76 “one genius in the family”: Quoted in Sybille Bedford,
Aldous Huxley: A Biography
(Chicago: Ivan R. Dee, 1973), 74.

77 “he made”: Quoted in ibid., 43.

77 “threw open a whole world”: Quoted in ibid., 40.

78 “gigantic grasshopper”: Quoted in Nicholas Murray,
Aldous Huxley: A Biography
(New York: Thomas Dunne, 2002), 5.

78 “he was ribald”: Quoted in Bedford,
Aldous Huxley
, 74.

78 “Intelligence”: Quoted in ibid., 627.

78 “Loving well requires”: Daniel Goleman,
Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
(New York: Bantam Books, 2006), 190.

78 “one of the best”: Quoted in Nick Paumgarten, “The Tycoon: The Making of Mort Zuckerman,”
New Yorker
, July 23, 2007, 46.

78 “fun to be around”: Ibid., 45.

78 “sheepskin jacket”: Quoted in ibid., 55.

78 “gift of intimacy”: Quoted in ibid., 55.

78 “the master of love magic”: Brown,
Hermes the Thief
, 15, 35.

79 social dexterity is now regarded: For a summary, see John F. Kihlstrom and Nancy Cantor, “Social Intelligence,” socrates.berkeley.edu/~kihlstrm/social_intelligence.htm (accessed March 24, 2011). Also see Daniel Goleman’s books:
Social Intelligence
and
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
(New York: Bantam Books, 1994).

79 None of which is new: See NPR interview with Daniel Goleman, “Is Social Intelligence More Useful Than IQ?” Neal Conan, host,
Talk of the Nation
, October 23, 2006, www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyid=6368484.

79 Two millennia ago: See Ovid,
Art of Love
, 135, 134, 128.

79 Every amorous guide: See especially
Complete K
ā
ma S
ū
tra
, 319; and Andrea Hopkins,
The Book of Courtly Love: The Passionate Code of the Troubadours
(New York: HarperSanFrancisco, 1994), 43.

79 Miller thinks: See Miller,
Mating Mind
, chap. 9, 292–340.

79 Whether through talent: Finstad,
Warren Beatty
, 38.

79 “fine divination”: Havelock Ellis, “Art of Love,” in
Studies in the Psychology of Sex
(New York: Random House, 1936), vol. 2, 544.

79 “
tacto
”: José Ortega y Gasset,
On Love: Aspects of a Single Theme
, trans. Toby Talbot (New York: New American Library, 1957), 110.

80 Dionysus soothes: Ovid,
Art of Love
, 122.

80 “I think he’s just really”: Jennifer Crusie,
Bet Me
(New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2004), 168.

80 Czech lothario Tomas: Milan Kundera,
The Unbearable Lightness of Being
, trans. Michael Henry Heim (New York: Perennial Classics/HarperCollins, 1984), 20.

80 Inconstant as he was: “David Niven,” Answers, www.answers.com/topic/david-niven?print=true (accessed October 31, 2008).

80 obscure soldier: “Sir Walter Raleigh (1552–1618),” Luminarium: Anthology of English Literature, www.luminarium.org/renlit/raleghbio.htm (accessed October 31, 2008).

80 He gave her: Robert Lacey,
Sir Walter Ralegh
(London: Phoenix Press, 1973), 43.

81 Prince Clemens von Metternich: Raoul Auernheimer,
Prince Metternich: Statesman and Lover
, trans. James A. Galston (Binghamton, NY: Alliance Books, 1940), 214.

81 “Adonis of the Drawing Room”: Quoted in ibid., 214.

81 “He is pleasing”: Quoted in ibid., 19.

81 While still at university: Margaret Nicholas, ed., “Metternich,” in
The World’s Greatest Lovers
(London: Octopus Books, 1985), 50.

81 “made every woman”: Ibid., 50.

81 “cared for all”: Ibid., 52.

81 “beautiful naked angel”: Ibid., 50.

82 “extremely handsome”: Auernheimer,
Prince Metternich
, 25.

82 “
homme à femmes
”: Desmond Seward,
Metternich: The First European
(New York: Viking, 1991), 140.

82 dominant figure: “Modern History Sourcebook: Prince Klemens von Metternich: Political Confession of Faith, 1820,” Fordham University, www.fordham.edu/halsall/mod/1820metternich.html (accessed February 7, 2009).

82 “Politics and love”: Auernheimer,
Prince Metternich
, 224.

82 “Pleasure considered”: Honoré de Balzac,
The Physiology of Marriage: Petty Troubles of Married Life
, ed. J. Walker McSpadden (Philadelphia: Avil, 1901), 62.

82 “I would like to invite you”:
Vicky Cristina Barcelona
, direc. Woody Allen, Weinstein Company, 2008.

83 To evolutionary diehards: “spandrels” is a term coined by Stephen Jay Gould and Richard Lewontin. See Paul Bloom,
How Pleasure Works: The New Science of Why We Like What We Like
(New York: W. W. Norton, 2010), xiii.

83 “having your pleasure center”: Michael R. Liebowitz,
The Chemistry of Love
(Boston: Little, Brown, 1983), 69.

83 “Love is pleasure”: Frankie Goes to Hollywood, “The Power of Love,” www.elyrics.net/read/f/frankie-goes-to-hollywood-lyrics/the-power-of-love-lyrics.html (accessed May 14, 2012).

83 default position: See Miller,
Mating Mind
, 148–176. “Hot choosers,” explains Miller, is the chooser in the mating game who can afford to pick on the basis of pleasure. See ibid., p. 149.

83 school of neo-Freudians: The 1960s neo-Marxists Herbert Marcuse and Norman O. Brown argued for a nonrepressive civilization that reinstated the erotic principles of joy, play, pleasure, and satisfaction within the reality principle. See especially
Eros and Civilization: A Philosophical Inquiry into Freud
(Boston: Beacon, 1955); and Norman O. Brown,
Life against Death: The Psychoanalytical Meaning of History
(Middletown, CT: Wesleyan University Press, 1959).

83 “the delight of mortals”: Walter F. Otto,
Dionysus: Myth and Cult
, trans. Robert B. Palmer (Bloomington: Indiana University Press, 1965), 55.

83 “everything that had been”: Ibid., 95.

83 “Pleasure” was “the image”: Alain Daniélou,
Shiva and Dionysus
, trans. K. F. Hurry (New York: Inner Traditions International, 1984), 57.

84 sex researcher Marta Meana: Cited in Daniel Bergner, “What Do Women Want,”
New York Times Magazine
, January 25, 2009.

84 Perhaps this stems: For anxieties, see Cindy M. Weston and David Buss,
Why Women Have Sex: Understanding Sexual Motivations—From Adventure to Revenge (and Everything in Between)
(New York: Times Books/Henry Holt, 2009), 45; Helen Fisher,
The First Sex: The Natural Talents of Women and How They Are Changing the World
(New York: Ballantine Books, 1999), 85–91; and Natalie Angier,
Woman: An Intimate Geography
(New York: Anchor Books, 1999), 756–780, 346–351.

84 “adorably beautiful”: See Eloisa James,
Pleasure for Pleasure
(New York: Avon Books, 2006), 43, 286–302.

84 Mary Gordon’s novel: See Mary Gordon,
Spending: A Utopian Divertimento
(New York: Simon & Schuster, 1998).

84
K
ā
ma S
ū
tra
:
Complete K
ā
ma S
ū
tra
, 65.

84 “endeavor to please”: Ovid,
Art of Love
, 123.

84 mindset is what counts: Balzac,
Physiology of Marriage
, 68.

84 “pleasure, pleasure, pleasure”: Casanova,
History of My Life
, vol. 4, chap. 2, p. 34.

85 “What’s wrong”: Quoted in Shawn Levy,
The Last Playboy: The High Life of Porfirio Rubirosa
(New York: HarperCollins, 2005), 304.

85 “head and shoulders”: William Grimes, “A Jet-Set Don Juan, Right Up to the Final Exit,”
New York Times
, September 16, 2005.

85 “the most magnificent penis”: Quoted in Levy,
Last Playboy
, 126.

85 “We were like”: Quoted in ibid., 178.

85 “I am”: Quoted in ibid., 19.

85 “Merry Monarch”: Tim Harris,
Restoration: Charles II and His Kingdoms
(New York: Penguin, 2005), 46.

85 “charm[ing] all”: Stephen Coote,
Royal Survivor: A Life of Charles II
(London: Sceptre, 1999), 46.

86 “the love of her life”: “ ‘The French Mistress’: The Interview,” The Word Wenches, http://wordwenches.typepad.com/word_wenches/2009/07/fre.html (accessed May 14, 2012).