Do Dead People Watch You Shower? (9 page)

In spite of
the fact that it’s always a very emotional experience for me, I do enjoy visiting these kinds of places and hearing the stories there. At the Alamo, even just walking in the dirt around the fort was a very moving experience. You can feel the horses, the men, smell and taste the very blood. I don’t think you need to be psychic to experience this—it’s so strong. When I visited the Anne Frank House in Amsterdam the souls surrounding that place were completely overwhelming to me. Actually, I could feel the souls throughout the old part of the city. Amsterdam is breathtakingly beautiful. Walking in the streets, along the canal, in the very stones of the buildings, they all hold the vibrations of the history that has taken place there, you can feel the energy. Apart from the beauty, I, and others, I’m sure, can’t escape the energy of all the souls still lingering there. Both the innocent and the evil. Those who were killed and those who killed. When I do a reading, I am emotionally removed and uninvolved. But this is a very different experience for me. I do get very emotional. At the Anne Frank House, I was just crying and crying. A woman said to me, “Are you all right? Did you lose your family?” This is the downside of being a medium, I guess, this extreme sensitivity to others and what happens to them. I just have such extreme empathy. But this is not something that just I can feel. So many feel drawn to places like this. Our souls are drawn to connect with these stories.

And if you’re wondering whether I heard from Anne Frank while at the house, the answer is no, she’s not there. The spirit who was Anne Frank is a Master and would not be held in limbo in that way, attached to a place. She had a mission and a purpose in that lifetime and she accomplished that. Her life was brief, but what she accomplished was so powerful that it continues to resonate to this day. She has moved on.

Anything we have
touched will retain some energy. Old things and old places naturally have more, and by “old places” I mean places where people have been for a long time, or where events with a lot of intensity have taken place, where a lot of human emotion was spent, so to speak. Joy, awe, sadness, horror. You can tell the difference between the energy in an old home and the energy in a brand-new, just built suburban development home. The new home has no emotional patina, far less energy than a place that has been around for years and has had “history” made within it. Also, old objects, especially ones that have been handled a lot, will have this energy. Clothes that have been worn will have this. Judy Garland’s ruby slippers are in the Smithsonian Institution now, but just imagine if you could get them out of that glass case and touch them. What if you could step into them! If I were a size five, that would be totally awesome!

Yes, definitely. Not
talk, exactly, language is irrelevant. They communicate by thought, telepathically. Thought is universal. If you are thinking “I’m hungry,” that thought is the same no matter what language you speak. Over there, spirits talk in heavenly IM.

Oh yes. Bear
in mind that on the Other Side we may have grandparents or other ancestors we never even met on earth, who crossed before we were born, so we knew them only in spirit, and now we are meeting them in spirit again. There are also souls with whom we have no family or friend connection, but even these we will “know” instinctually and would relate to and communicate with as another human being (albeit in spirit form). The best way I can explain this is, think about if aliens came and colonized the earth. We’d recognize and relate to other humans, as opposed to the aliens, as fellow earthlings. We may not know them personally, but we think of them as “like us,” and if we wanted to ask directions from someone it’s more likely we’d ask another earthling than an alien. We’d just feel more comfortable. Over there, everyone is “like us.”

No. Our five
senses are “of the body,” and of course the dead are “of the spirit.” They can’t smell or taste anything, but they don’t eat anything anymore so it’s really not like a loss; it’s no big deal. They can’t feel anything themselves, but they can touch us. It’s not a physical touch, like with a finger. It’s energy, so it feels like a small electric shock—not strong enough to hurt anyone, but enough to startle you.

It’s pretty much
instantaneous in terms of travel time. It’s as quick as thought. In fact, it is thought. They simply change their thoughts to another place or person, and there they are—right where they want to be. The psychic autobahn!

Absolutely—just like the
air is always with us. If you are taking a bus, they are going. If you’re flying, they’re going—first class without paying extra for their ticket.

At one of my big shows there was a woman who was looking for her father. He came through right away and I asked her, “Are you going on vacation?” And she didn’t really know what I was talking about and then I said, “Are you going to Hawaii? Because your father says he’s really excited about going with you to Hawaii.” What really happened was he was showing me an image of a lei and that symbolized Hawaii to me, so I said, “Are you going to Hawaii?” In a way when I do readings I’m always putting the pieces of a puzzle together so they will make sense for the person I’m talking with. But it’s an art not a science—like if I see palm trees and a beach, I think of Florida. But it might be the Bahamas—I don’t really know. Or if I hear a snippet of the song “Blue Hawaii,” maybe it has something to do with the person going to Hawaii. But it also could be that they just like Elvis! So when I asked this woman if she was going to Hawaii, she said that her son lived in Hawaii and they went there fairly often, and yes, she was going to Hawaii soon, but it wasn’t really a vacation, which is why she didn’t know what I was talking about at first. That was just my assumption, in trying to piece the puzzle together. My point is, whether for a vacation or just a regular visit, her father was going, just the same!

Meanwhile, as I told her that her father was excited about going on the trip I saw the pained and shocked look on her husband’s face—it was like “Oh, great! Your
dad
is coming with us?” He was probably thinking, “Does that mean your dad can watch what we’re up to behind closed doors?
Real
romantic.” But since I’ve already answered that question, what he might also have been thinking was, “Why can’t he go visit your sister in Baltimore and give us a little alone time?” The thing is that—if she
had
a sister in Baltimore—her father wouldn’t have to choose between them, he could be with both. God is in all places at all times. When we are here, we’re
part
of God, but when we go back, we are
one
with God. We’re energy. Hawaii, Baltimore, New Jersey, or the North Pole—we’re everywhere at once.

I have met
souls who are from the 1800s, for example, but it’s not that they are traveling back in time. That’s just the last time they were here. If you are in the Light of God, if paradise to you is being in a Roman city, you have the ability there to be in Rome and do as the Romans do. You can go to another century if that is what you prefer.

I know that
they know things that will happen in the future, that have to do with our destiny, and also they have told me some things about how our technology will develop. But can they actually go to the future? They don’t travel ahead; they have information that is all-knowing involving the future.

Nothing. It’s like
trying to put clothes on the invisible man. You can’t do it. Sometimes they will appear to me in clothing, just so they will be recognizable to the person receiving a reading—for instance, it’s very common for someone to show me a uniform of some kind, whether it’s for a particular job or the military, or maybe I
hear
(but don’t actually see) that this person was a real snappy dresser. But for the most part they are commando. They are an energy form. They are like a shadow. And shadows don’t like to be burdened by Prada or Louis Vuitton purses. Anyone can tell that
I’m
not dead yet. I have never met an accessory I did not like! Bring on the bling! Gimme the bangles, baubles, and beads—and while you’re at it, the Chanel sunglasses! Then help me hide the credit card bills from my husband.

No, they leave
that to John! As much as I love dressing up and wearing big jewelry, John is the real clotheshorse and fashion police in our family. He’s very particular about his appearance and if we go to the mall I better not even ask him to carry a bag from Sears!

I remember right after I first went public, I was asked to do a private Halloween party and John offered to drive me. I thought it would be nice to have him along because I was a little unsure of myself and thought he’d be good moral support. But as soon as I got in the car, John looked over at me, eyeing my sweater. It was black, decorated with a big orange pumpkin on the front. (I also had on these really cute, dangly ghost earrings for the occasion.) He says, “Is that what you’re wearing?” and I knew by his tone that it was not what he would recommend. He clearly thought a pumpkin sweater was not appropriate attire for a hired psychic. I got a little huffy; I said, “Well what would you suggest, John? Do you think I should maybe be wearing a turban? Maybe a bunch of beads or a medallion? Did I forget my crystal ball?” He knew to let it drop.

When we arrived at the party I discovered that I was not the only psychic for the event. Two of us had been hired, and when I saw the other one I almost burst out laughing. That one would have had John’s seal of approval. Full regalia: turban, medallion, crystal ball.

Not to me.
No color, no size, no shape. Only on rare occasions when they are trying to give me a clue as to their identity that I can pass along to someone I’m doing a reading for. But even then, it’s more a mist or haze.

They can tell
what we might be feeling at the moment. They feel total joy and complete forgiveness. There is no room for anger, sadness, or fear on the Other Side. I can only relate it to when something so amazing happens and you are overcome with so much happiness that you forget everything that had been bothering you. You are simply beyond any type of negativity. Your mother-in-law cannot faze you. Your boss cannot make you mad. You are too happy for that. That level of happiness and joy is what They are constantly experiencing. They don’t sit around thinking, “Oh, she is
so annoying
,” or, “Geez, I can’t
stand
him.” They don’t have time for all of that. Annoyances and angers are not acknowledged. They choose joy and love and forgiveness—even when it comes to mother-in-laws (or so I am told).

Not as such.
But I do think that even on that side there can be an experience of sorrow in the soul—at least when we first get there—which can come from realizing that we had a chance and screwed it up. Other souls will try to help a given soul get over that. Someone who was an alcoholic on this side and maybe ruined his own life and made other people miserable will realize his past mistakes when he crosses over and may be extremely upset about how he lived his life. He’ll see all of his errors and all the pain he caused and it will take him a while to get over this.

At one of my big shows I did a reading for a woman who wanted to know whether her ex-husband had even made it to the Other Side. Clearly she thought he might have been relegated to some “other” place. He did come through—she was pretty surprised when I told her that, in fact, he actually was there—and he was apologizing like crazy, saying that she had been right. I didn’t know what he was talking about (although she said that she did); I had the sense that maybe he took bad advice from someone he trusted, it seemed like a family thing. But the understanding I got was that he had treated her very badly, really put her through hell. Over there, he realized the error of what he had done and wanted her to know how sorry he was.