Everyday Calm: Relaxing Rituals for Busy People (4 page)

Before you touch that doorknob, avoid unwanted stress by making sure all important items are packed with you. Taking this extra minute may save you hours later. Before stepping into the vast unknown, go through this final checklist:

1. Have I got my keys, watch, wallet, and cash?

2. Do I know how to get where I am going?

3. Do I need to mail any letters or return library books?

4. One last look to make sure all is in order.

Take a breath, step out, and have a great day . . .

Attention all road warriors: Put your temper in cruise control! Rush hour can be one of the greatest challenges of the day. The primal desire to hit your horn is always inviting. But don’t let the stress ruin your day. Become a master of your emotions:

If there is no danger, stay off the horn.

Take a breath, scream, or yell if you like.

Forget those rhapsodies of roadside revenge.

Practice letting go of the overwhelming tension.

Imagine that the driver in front of you is a close friend.

For the advanced commuter: Try smiling and waving to nearby motorists.

Tension can rise as you race toward work on the train or bus. One way to step out of the morning commuter funk is by performing a random act of giving. When you see someone in need, rise to the occasion and offer your seat. Don’t take no for an answer. Notice the rush of good feeling that comes upon you. Don’t be shy as fellow commuters shower you with good vibrations and warm wishes.

Take a break and feel renewed.

If you find yourself lacking calmness and clarity, take a two-minute break to de-stress. Stop what you’re doing, turn the phones off, and sit quietly. For two minutes you will do nothing but breathe and relax. Your mind will be chattering, but tell it to be quiet. Keep returning to your deep, relaxing breaths. Each time you get caught in busy thoughts, return to your breathing. Your muscles may feel tight, so let the breathing help relax your body. When the two minutes are complete, notice your state. As you return to your day, go slowly and use this calm that you found as a tool for efficiency. You may get sudden realizations or remember forgotten appointments; take time to write them down. Whenever you feel overwhelmed, try this quick fix; don’t forget how easy it is to feel so good.