Motherless Daughters (58 page)

threat of, and fathers

See also Abandonment

Relationships. See Love (looking for); Mother-daughter relationships; Mother loss (and relationships); other specific topics

Reorientation

Resentment

in adolescence

and birth order

and illness

and mourning

and siblings

toward fathers

Revenge

Rich, Adrienne

Robbins, Martha A.

Roosevelt, Eleanor

Roth, Geneen

Rothenberg, Rose-Emily

Rowell, Victoria

Russell, Colleen

Ryan, Meg

Ryder, Robert G.

Sadness

and abandonment

and adults

and anger

and children and adolescents

postpartum

The Second Sex

Secondary loss

Secunda, Victoria

Security

and abandonment

and achievement

and attachments

and close relationships

emotional

and fathers

and gender identity

and mother loss

and siblings

Self-esteem

and abandonment

and adolescents

and cold parental caregivers

and doulas

and fathers or other surviving parent

and female mentor

and mother loss

and relationships

and school experiences

Separation

and later relationships

from mother, as middle-aged adult

from mother, as young adult

from mother, in adolescence

from mother, with motherhood

and oldest child

physical

September 11, 2001, terrorist attacks

Sex See also Love (sex as); Women (with women)

Sexual revolution

Shame

and abandonment

and mother loss

Shoplifting

Shostak, Linda

Siblings

and adult mother loss

and birth order

and comfort, protection, and support

and experiences of mother loss

losses of

as mothers

number raising other siblings

and orphans

percentage of interviewees who have

relations between, and mother loss

step

See also Brothers; Sisters

Silence

in families

and fathers
See also
Fathers (not talking about loss)

Silverman, Phyllis

Simmons, Ruth

Simpson, Nicole Brown

Sisters

and experiences of mother loss

as mothers

relations between, and mother loss

See also Siblings

Sleeping problems

Smart Girls, Gifted Women

Smiley, Jane

Sontag, Susan

Spock, Benjamin

Stein, Gertrude

Stephen, Julia

Stepmothers

and birth order

“evil,”

and father-daughter relations

and mother substitutes

as new mothers

problems with

and sibling experiences of mother loss

Stowe, Harriet Beecher

Suicide

and anger

and children and adolescents

of daughters

father not talking about it

fear of repeating mother’s

and feelings of rejection and abandonment

and lesbianism

percentage of mother losses by

reactions to

and trust

Support groups

Swander, Mary

Terr, Lenore

Terrorism

Therapy

and abandonment

and compulsions

and early mother loss

of fathers

and idealized mother image

postpartum

Thomas, Dylan

Toman, Walter

Transference

Trust

and fathers

and mother loss

and suicide

Twain, Mark

Twain, Shania

War casualties

Warshak, Richard A.

Wellesley College

When Food Is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy

When Parents Become Partners

When You and Your Mother Can’t Be Friends

Williams, Evelyn

Winfrey, Oprah

Withdrawal

and adolescent mother loss

and adult mother loss

and early mother loss

of fathers

and later relationships

of school-age children

Without You: Children and Young People Growing Up with Loss and Its Effects

Wolfenstein, Martha

Womanhood

and other women

Women

and female life stories

friendships of

movement of

normal losses of

older

with women

Women and Their Fathers

Woolf, Virginia

Worden, J. William

Wordsworth, Dorothy

Zall, Donald

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HOPE EDELMAN has a bachelor’s degree in journalism from Northwestern University and a master’s degree in creative nonfiction writing from the University of Iowa. Her articles and essays have appeared in numerous publications, including the
New York Times
, the
Chicago Tribune
, the
San Francisco Chronicle
, the
Washington Post
, the
Dallas Morning News
,
Glamour
,
Child
,
Parenting
,
Seventeen
,
Real Simple
,
Self
, and
The Iowa Review
. She is the recipient of a
New York Times
Notable Book of the Year designation and a Pushcart Prize for creative nonfiction. Currently an associate faculty member in the MFA program at Antioch University-LA, she lives with her husband and their two daughters in Topanga Canyon, California.

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