Not Ready for Mom Jeans (2 page)

Sara started squirming and we released each other. “Time’s up,” Jake said, and smiled. “C’mon, Miss Chunk, let’s get you ready for your big day,” he whispered into her ear. He leaned over and kissed the top of my head before leaving the bedroom.

Thank god for Jake. He’s the only way I’ll be able to get through this. I’ll just lean against him and hopefully he can support both of us, like the stake that holds up a tomato plant. Firmly planted in the dirt next to me, he will remind me of all the reasons why this decision was made so long ago.

During my maternity leave, I didn’t really allow myself to wrestle with the psychological ramifications of going back to work. It was simply something I planned on doing because I loved my job and we needed the money. No sense in getting emotional about it.

I swallowed hard as I put on my Miss Piggy pants and held my breath as I zipped them up. I cast a rueful glance at my pre-pregnancy pants, tucked high into a corner of my closet. They taunted me with their low waistbands and slim stitching:
Don’tcha wish your Miss Piggy pants were hot like us? Don’tcha?

I burst into tears as I pulled the Lycra up around my hips.

“What’s wrong?” Jake said with alarm as he ran into the bathroom.

“Still fat. I’m still fat,” I said as I grabbed more than a handful of butt chunk. I didn’t dare look over my shoulder at the Sara weight still lounging around my midsection.

Jake’s eyes softened and he walked over to me. He gently removed my hand from my ass and put it around his waist. “You look great. You’re the only person who thinks you look fat.”

“Whatever. I am,” I grumbled as I gave him a quick squeeze. I gulped hard and thinly smiled. “I’ll just stand next to Mule Face at the office and feel like Miss America.”

“There you go. Just do that.” Jake nodded, proud of himself as though he’d specially placed Mule Face / Annie in my office for this reason.

After two hours of prep, Sara and I were physically ready for the first day of day care.

“I love you. Things will be great,” Jake said as we stood in the parking lot of our apartment building. I nodded and he leaned in and kissed one of Sara’s tiny hands. “And you, I don’t want any reports of sneaking out or games of spin the bottle at day care, OK?”

I managed a rueful smile at his joke.

“You’re going to be great. I know it; you’ll fall right back into the routine,” Jake said. He reached into his messenger bag and pulled out a brown paper bag. “Now this,” he said with a laugh, “is for your first day back to work. Big day, you know.”

“What?” I said as I pulled the bag from his hands. I peeked inside and saw an apple, some Wheat Thins freely floating around the bag, and a crudely made sandwich. “You made me lunch? I’m not starting kindergarten.” I laughed.

“An apple, some crackers, and a jelly sandwich. We’re out of peanut butter. Need some quarters for the vending machine so you can get a drink?” His eyes twinkled as his eyebrows rose. He pretended to search his pockets for change.

“You’re a nerd,” I said as I gave him a tap on the arm. I started to move away when he pulled me toward him, which made it awkward since my arm was nearly ripping out of its socket thanks to the World’s Heaviest Car Seat and Child Ever in my left hand.

“It’ll be great,” he said as he kissed me on the forehead.

I smiled and looked down at Sara. “Your dad is weird.”

I loaded Sara into the car and the clouds soon returned as I drove away. Each second of the drive increased my anxiety by a thousandfold, so by the time I was a block away I nearly pulled a U-turn into oncoming traffic and headed home. Every rotation of my tires echoed thoughts in my head like:
I can’t do this. She’s too little. I’m not only a horrible person, I’m a horrible
mother.
Who leaves a two-month-old with strangers? Oh, wait, I know—an abusive mother who values her material goods and her job over her child. Do I even like my job enough to leave my fragile, defenseless infant with people I’ve never met and who probably are secret baby snatchers who will sell her on the underground adoption market?

I pulled into the parking lot of the day-care center and wept. Many times during my leave, I would shoot invisible daggers at Jake while he blissfully slept in bed next to me, oblivious to the Clare versus Infant battle raging outside. Yet, in that moment, I just wanted to drive home with Sara, put her back in her cradle swing, throw on my sweatpants, and turn on
Oprah.

I mean, how will they know that 11:00 a.m.–12:00 p.m. is Afternoon Dance Party, when we twirl around and listen to Sara’s favorite song, “I’m Too Sexy” by Right Said Fred? How will they know that stories about Champagne Wayne, our alky neighbor, are what make her laugh the most? Who will be there to pretend to be a monster and gnaw on her chubby toes?

Who will whisper that they’re in this together, that they’re on the same team, that napping is the greatest thing ever when she won’t go to sleep?

I started the car back up and then remembered one teeny-tiny detail:
money.

It helps to have money for things like electricity, food, clothing, and diapers. And no job equals Clare and Jake living on the bench outside our apartment building. Which I’m sure would be fabulous accommodations in the summer, but seeing as how it’s March, I don’t think that’s an option for us.

So, I lugged the car seat out of the car, dried my tears on a burp cloth, and brought my two-month-old daughter to day-care.

I cried as I drove to work.

10:00 A.M.

My eyes are burning out of their sockets. Not because of tears over Sara, although I’ve spent the past hour obsessively watching the webcam on our day-care center’s Web site, making sure she’s not being handed over for a stack of hundreds to some random couple, but because of Mule Face’s outfit today. She’s donned a fabulously tacky eggplant polyester pantsuit, no doubt purchased from her favorite store, Dressbarn. The material hugs every roll and contour of her enormous butt and the jacket button looks like a person dangling off the edge of a cliff, hanging on for dear life.

Side note: What genius came up with the idea to name a women’s clothing store Dressbarn? Besides Mule Face, most women I know would rather not shop at a place that has any connation to obese farm animals. They should just go ahead and call it Fat Girl Fashions 4 U. Although I guess I should be slightly more introspective and forgiving, since I’ll probably have to shop in the Big Girl section now, thanks to the extra twenty pounds still lounging around my midsection. Thankfully, Jake is either an Academy Award–winning caliber actor or he really hasn’t noticed my new muffin top.

When my muffin top and I walked through the door of Signature Events, Mule Face, as expected, acted like I had been gone for several millennia. I had left my job as an event planner at Chicago’s most prestigious firm only three months ago, yet my coworker Mule Face / Annie couldn’t resist an opportunity to capitalize on my discomfort.

“OH. MY. GOD. Everyone, look who’s here!” She smiled wide, giving me a great shot of the raspberry doughnut she’d just shoved into her mouth. Raspberry seeds were stuck in between the abnormally large veneers that had inspired her moniker. She quickly surveyed me up and down. “You look great! You probably only have what, twenty-five pounds or so to lose?”

I sighed wearily at her. “More like twenty, but thanks, Annie.”

“We-ell. Don’t be surprised if you don’t take it off. I read somewhere that women keep on an average of ten pounds per child. Just be prepared!” She wagged her finger at me, her corkscrew-curled hair bouncing around her hot pink lips.

“Thanks. Will do. I’m not worried.” I started to walk toward my office, praying she’d stop eye-raping me with her too-tight pantsuit.

“So, aren’t you going to ask me how the Parkview Hospital fundraiser went?” Mule Face asked me as she followed me down the hallway. The Parkview Hospital fundraiser was my client’s event, and it nearly killed me to turn the reins over to Mule Face when I went on leave.

“OK. How did it go?” I stopped walking and faced her.

“Fantastic! They said they were so impressed with how it was handled this year and it was much more organized than in previous years.” She smiled sweetly at me.

I bristled. “I’m glad it went well. I was sorry I had to miss the event this year.”

“Get in here, MOM!” Christina’s voice bellowed from her office.

I turned around the corner and appeared at my boss’s office.

“You look fabulous. Can’t even tell you’re probably getting five hours of sleep a night.” Christina stood up from behind her desk and I noticed she had on a pair of Christian Louboutin pumps I would prostitute Jake to buy.

“Thanks. Last night it was more like three hours, but who’s counting other than the exhausted girl inside of me who is still wondering what ‘sleeping through the night’ means.” I exhaled loudly and smiled slightly.

“Well, I know you have a mile-high pile on your desk, so I’ll let you get to it,” Christina said as her phone rang. She walked back to her desk, her high heels sinking into the carpet. “Just try not to fall asleep during the day,” she said as she reached for her trilling phone.

“Sounds like a plan,” I said, and walked over to my office. It was so strange walking in there again for the first time since having Sara. The last time I left here, I was just a really pregnant, swollen lady. Now I’m walking back into it as a mom.

I sat down at my desk and looked at all of the neat piles of files stacked on top of one another and remembered how I carefully arranged them the day before I left. I looked at the Post-it note on my computer that read, “Call florist for Shepard wedding,” and a strange pang ripped through my stomach. I felt like Ebenezer Scrooge traveling with the Ghost of Christmas Past, only it was Clare Finnegan and the Ghost of the Super Pregnant Woman.

It’s like I went away on an extended vacation, only I came back a different person. It wasn’t like I just took a margarita-soaked sabbatical and played Pictionary for a few weeks. No, I’d spent the last two months in Parental Boot Camp. With activities like “See how many nights in a row you can go without sleep before you think your cat is your husband” and “Time how quickly you can eat a meal one-handed before cramping and/or choking.”

As I opened my planner, three blank months straddling the pages with scribbled dates, a tiny part of me started to feel better. I’m good at my job and I love it. It’s wonderfully fulfilling to pull off a huge event and hear complimentary feedback from a client. Not to mention, I’ve worked hard for all of this, for every success.

Letting the tiny glimmer of acceptance soak into my bones, my body relaxed into my desk chair. Until I heard Christina’s voice.

“Don’t forget we have that meeting with the Leukemia Foundation’s staff about their golf outing at eleven. They’re having the event in September at the Chicago Club,” Christina yelled through the wall between our offices after she hung up the phone.

I completely forgot about that meeting. What the hell was I thinking to schedule a meeting the day I got back from maternity leave? Not just any meeting, a meeting with a new client where I have to pitch new ideas and appear as though I’ve had more than a few hours of loosely arranged, jumbled sleep.

If this new client wants to judge my efficiency, they should come over to my apartment around three in the morning. I can successfully make a bottle, pee, soothe Sara’s screams, turn on the television, and shove a bottle into her mouth within four minutes. But I doubt any of those things qualify.

I opened up my e-mail and shook my head a little, still trying to clear the morning cobwebs. I had 257 e-mails. I paused for a minute, hand frozen on my mouse, before I quickly closed my Outlook. I pulled a framed picture of Sara out of my bag and set it on my desk next to my computer. I sighed and opened my e-mails back up.

I was so engrossed in reading about the latest office mandates and debates on which kind of copy paper to purchase thanks to everyone repeatedly hitting Reply All to every freaking e-mail, I jumped when my phone rang.

“Clare Finnegan,” I said, my voice still not quite in Office Mode.

“So, how’s it going?” My mom.

“Sucks, but what can I do? Leaving her this morning was tough.” My Working Mom Determination wavered a little at the sound of my mom’s voice.

“I know, it gets better though.” My mom’s voice was soft.

“When?” I said as I stared at Sara’s picture.

“Just give it a few days. Remember, you guys were all in day care and you turned out fine.” I could hear her clicking on her laptop in the background. Always working and multitasking, my mom’s the Vice President of Development for Indux Software.

I snorted. “Is that really what you think?”

“What?” The clicking stopped.

“That your children are normal. I mean, I turned out OK and Mark can be fine on the days when he’s not acting like a post-college moron with his drunk friends, but Sam? Sorry. She doesn’t fall on the spectrum of normal on
any
day.”

My mom sighed, “Yeah, I know, but she’s eighteen, cut her a break.”

“Please. I can’t discuss Sam and why you think I should brush it off when she asks me if my stretch marks have faded or if I fit into any of my Seven jeans and, if not, could she please have them.” I tapped my pen against my desk like a drumstick, accentuating my point to, well, nobody.

“All right, all right. Forget it. But I promise, it does get easier”—she paused—“just as soon as you realize you only really need a few hours of sleep and lots of caffeine to function.”

“Mom, I’m not you. I can’t survive on four hours of sleep, nor do I want to. I have no desire to be Superwoman.” My mother was the quintessential 1980s working mom: shoulder pads, blouses with weird necktie bows, socks and running shoes over her panty hose while she walked into the office. Her favorite movie, to this day, is
Baby Boom
—wherein Diane Keaton struggles with managing her demanding corporate job with a child.

It’s no wonder my mother bought me Working Woman Barbie when I was eight—the only Barbie I was allowed to own. All I know is that I didn’t understand why Barbie’s office skirt reversed into a minidress and her briefcase morphed into a handbag for “after work.” Looking back, maybe she really was a “working girl” after all.