Out of Time (41 page)

100
  Ibid., p. 128.

101
  Stanley Fish,
Is There a Text in This Class?: The Authority of Interpretive Communities
, Cambridge, MA, Harvard University Press, 1980.

102
  Grace Paley, ‘Goodbye and Good Luck’, in
The Little Disturbances of Man
, New York, New American Library, 1973, p. 9.

103
  Ibid., p. 18.

104
  Grace Paley, in Grace Paley and Robert Nichols, ‘Here’,
Here and Somewhere Else: Stories and Poems
, New York,
The Feminist
Press, 2007, p. 46.

105
  Diana Athill,
Somewhere Towards the End
, London, Granta, 2008, p. 35.

106
  Ibid., pp. 31, 84–5.

Chapter 4. The Ties That Bind

1
  Lisa Baraitser,
Maternal Encounters: The Ethics of Interruption
, London, Routledge, 2008, p. 66.

2
  Mark Doty,
Dog Years
, London, Jonathan Cape, 2008.

3
  May Sarton,
The House by the Sea: A Journal
, New York, Norton, 1977.

4
  May Sarton,
Journal of a Solitude
, New York, Norton, 1973, p. 6.

5
  Sarton,
House by the Sea
, p. 221.

6
  May Sarton, quoted in Silvia Henneberg,
The Creative Crone: Aging and the Poetry of May Sarton and Adrienne Rich
, Columbia, University of Missouri Press, 2010, p. 9.

7
  May Sarton,
As We Are Now
, London, The Women’s Press, 1983.

8
  Kathleen Woodward, ‘May Sarton and Fictions of Old Age’ in Janet Todd, ed.
Gender and Literary Voice
, pp. 108-27. New York, Holmes & Meier, 1980; Anne Wyatt-Brown, ‘Another Model of the Aging Writer: Sarton’s Politics of Old Age’, in Anne Wyatt-Brown and Janice Rossen, eds,
Aging and Gender in Literature: Studies in Creativity
, Charlottesville and London, University Press of Virginia, 1993, pp. 49–60; Barbara Frey Waxman,
To Live in the Center of the Moment: Literary Autobiographies of Aging
, Charlottesville and London, University Press of Virginia, 1997; and Henneberg,
The Creative Crone
.

9
  May Sarton, interview by Janet Todd, in Janet Todd, ed.,
Women Writers Talk
, New York, Homes and Meier, 1983, p. 14.

10
  May Sarton,
Collected Poems: 1930–1993
, New York, Norton, 1993, p. 369.

11
  Henneberg,
The Creative Crone
, p. 36.

12
  May Sarton,
Plant Dreaming Deep
, New York, Norton, 1968, p. 183.

13
  May Sarton,
At Seventy
, New York, Norton, 1993, pp. 9–10, 37, 217–18.

14
  Heilbrun,
The Last Gift of Time
, pp. 75–6.

15
  Sarton,
Plant Dreaming Deep
, p. 183.

16
  Sarton,
Journal of a Solitude
, p. 13.

17
  
World of Light: A Portrait of May Sarton
, documentary film, dir. Marita Simpson and Martha Wheelock, New York, Ishtar Films, 1979.

18
  Alix Kates Shulman,
Drinking the Rain: A Memoir
, London, Bloomsbury, 1995.

19
  May Sarton,
At Eighty-Two
, London, The Women’s Press, 1996, pp. 41, 84.

20
  Sheila Rowbotham,
Women’s Consciousness; Man’s World
, Harmondsworth, Penguin, 1973. For a reassessment of these arguments see Segal,
Making Trouble
.

21
  Michèle Barrett and Mary McIntosh,
The Anti-Social Family
, London, Verso, 1982, p. 80.

22
  Robyn Stone et al., ‘Caregivers of the Frail Elderly: A National Profile’,
The Gerontologist
27: 5 (1987), pp. 616–26; Martha Bruce et al., ‘Major Depression in Elderly Home Health Care Patients’,
American Journal of Psychiatry
159 (2002), pp. 1367–74.

23
  Alix Kates Shulman,
Burning Questions
, New York, Knopf, 1978.

24
  See Alix Kates Shulman, ‘A Marriage Disagreement, or Marriage by Other Means’, in Rachel Blau DuPlessis and Ann Snitow, eds,
The Feminist Memoir Project: Voices from Women’s Liberation
, New Brunswick, Rutgers University Press, 2007, pp. 284–303; Alix Kates Shulman,
To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed
, New York, Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2008.

25
  Shulman,
To Love What Is
, p. 157. Further page references are given in the text.

26
  Alix Kates Shulman, ‘Caring for an Ill Spouse, and for Other Caregivers’,
New York Times
, 9 May 2011.

27
  John Bayley,
Iris: A Memoir of Iris Murdoch
, London, Harper Collins, 1999, p. 62.

28
  Genelle Weule, ‘Male Carers Need Care Too’,
The Pulse
, 11 February 2010.

29
  Elizabeth Bishop, ‘One Art’, in
Elizabeth Bishop: Poems, Prose, and Letters
, New York, Library of America, 2008, p.166.

30
  Jane Rule,
Memory Board
, New York, Naiad Press, 1987, p. 37. Further page references are given in the text.

31
  Elinor Fuchs,
Making an Exit: A Mother-Daughter Drama with Machine Tools, Alzheimer’s, and Laughter
, Waterville, ME, Thorndike Press, 2005, p. 283.

32
  Ibid., pp. 283, 285.

33
  Judith Levine,
Do You Remember Me?: A Father
,
A Daughter and a Search for Self
, Waterville, ME, Thorndike Press, 2004, p. 195. Further page references given in the text.

34
  David Rothschild, ‘The Practical Value of Research in the Psychoses of Later Life’,
Diseases of the Nervous System
8 (1947), pp. 125–8; Tom Kitwood,
Dementia Reconsidered: The Person Comes First
, Buckingham, Open University Press, 1997.

35
  Joanne Koenig Coste,
Learning to Speak Alzheimer’s: A Groundbreaking Approach for Everyone Dealing with the Disease
, New York, Mariner Books, 2004.

36
  Andrea Gillies,
Keeper: A Book About Memory, Identity, Isolation, Wordsworth and Cake
, London, Short Books, 2010, pp. 289–90.

37
  Ibid., p. 357.

38
  Ruth Ray,
Endnotes
, New York, Columbia University Press, 2008. Further page references given in the text.

39
  Margaret Gullette, ‘Leaping Across the Abysses of Ageism’,
Journal of Aging, Humanities, and the Arts
3: 4 (2009), p. 305.

40
  Ibid., p. 307.

41
  Eve Sedgwick,
A Dialogue on Love
, New York, Beacon, 2000, p. 175.

42
  Eve Sedgwick,
Touching Feeling
, Durham, NC, Duke University Press, 2003, p. 24–5.

43
  Ibid., p. 24

44
  Doty,
Dog Years
, pp. 3, 214–15.

45
  Donna Haraway,
Companion Species Manifesto: Dogs, People and Significant Otherness
, Chicago, IL, University of Chicago Press, 2003 p. 16.

46
  Angela Carter,
Wise Children
, London, Chatto & Windus, 1991, p. 232.

47
  Martin Amis, quoted in Caroline Davies, ‘Martin Amis in New Row Over “Euthanasia Booths” ’,
Guardian
, 24 January 2010.

48
  Quentin Crisp,
The Naked Civil Servant
, London, Flamingo, 1968, p. 211.

49
  Philip Roth,
Patrimony: A True Story
, New York: Simon & Schuster, 1991, p. 99–100. Further page references given in the text.

50
  Roth,
Everyman
, pp. 160, 128–9.

51
  Richard Adelman, ‘John Updike Packing’,
Journal of Aging, Humanities, and the Arts
4 (2010), p. 68.

52
  Philip Larkin, ‘The Old Fools’, available at
www.poetryconnection.net
.

53
  John Updike,
Self-Consciousness
, New York, Alfred A. Knopf, 1989, p. 238.

54
  John Updike, ‘The Full Glass’, in
My Father’s Tears and Other Stories
, London, Penguin, 2009, p. 276.

55
  Ibid., p. 281.

56
  Suburban adultery is one of the main themes of Updike’s famous ‘Rabbit’ series, beginning with
Rabbit, Run
, New York, Knopf, 1960.

57
  Updike, ‘The Full Glass’, pp. 291–2.

58
  John Updike,
Endpoint and Other Poems
, New York, Alfred A. Knopf, 2009, p. 24. Further page references are given in the text.

59
  Updike,
Self-Consciousness
, p. 211.

60
  Updike, ‘The Accelerating Expansion of the Universe’, in
My Father’s Tears
, p.148.

61
  Updike, ‘Free’, in ibid, p.36.

62
  Updike, ‘The Full Glass’, p.283.

63
  Updike,
Self-Consciousness
, p. 217.

64
  Beauvoir,
The Coming of Age
, p. 540.