The Art of Seduction (92 page)

Chiang Kai-shek, 88-90

keys to, 74-77

flattery by, 218, 259

Childe Harold
(Byron), 351, 352

narcissism of, 67, 73, 74, 75, 76,

march on Fiume led by, 23, 273,

China, xix, 15, 76, 88-90, 172-73,

77

328

174, 224, 267-69, 291,

politicians as, 77

public spectacles given by, 275

297-300, 311-13

selective withdrawal by, 67, 70-71,

Darvas, Lili, 123

chivalry, 36-37, 38, 329-30

73, 74, 75, 76, 77, 78, 390

d'Aunet, Léonie, 339

Choisy, Abbé de, 47-48

self-sufficiency of, 67, 71, 73,

David, King, xix, 237

Chrétien de Troyes, 329-30, 386-87

74-75, 76, 77

Davis, Ossie, 113

Christian, Linda, 398-99, 401

shadow as symbol of, 77

Dean, James, 123, 125, 127, 128

Churchill, Pamela,
see
Harriman,

space created by, 73

death, risking of, 327-29

Pamela Churchill

timing of, 78

Decameron, The
(Boccaccio), 214-17,

Churchill, Winston, 86, 115, 329

Coriolanus
(Shakespeare), 107

233-37, 362-67

Clarissa
(Richardson), 225, 315-16

courtesans, 11-12, 33, 38, 60-61, 75,

defensiveness, 57, 83, 207, 21 1, 215,

Claudin, Gustave, 60

86, 192, 194, 291, 299-300,

219, 224, 246, 247, 260, 418,

Claudius I, Emperor of Rome,

361-64, 396, 412, 436

434

136-37

courtly love, 36-37, 325-26, 333

de Gaulle, Charles, 99, 100, 101-2,

Cleopatra, xix, xx, xxi, xxiv, 7-9, 13,

Crébillon, 33

109, 114-16, 117,329

16, 184, 304, 378, 392, 412

Crébillon fils, 138-40, 401

seductive oratory of, 114, 115,

anti-seduction as defense against,

criticism, personal, 205-7, 208, 209,

253-54

145

210, 423, 424

"Delight in Disorder" (Herrick), 399

clothing of, 7, 8, 274

cruelty, 192, 349, 353, 356-57, 377,

deliverers, charismatic, 112-14

descriptions of, 8

379, 385, 390, 426

demonic performers, charismatic,

insecurity fostered by, 208

of Dandies, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47

106-7

isolation created by, 317

of Rakes, 26

Demonic Rakes, 21-24

mixed signals sent by, 192

in transgressing taboos, 349, 352,

Denon, Vivant, 213-15

mood changes of, 7—8, 9

353, 356-57

destiny, sense of, 177, 359, 365

poeticizing of, 283

Crushed Stars, 152-53

details, attention to, 38, 265-76, 425

sensual appeals of, 159

Cures for Love
(Ovid), 9, 172

banquet as symbol of, 276

theatricality of, 7, 8, 9

of clothing, 265, 268, 269, 270,

victims chosen by, 12, 172

Dandies, 3, 41-52, 75-76, 83, 153,

272, 273, 274

voice of, 7, 9, 14

192, 434

gifts in, 265, 268, 269, 274-75,

Clift, Montgomery, 51, 125, 437

aesthetic qualities in, 48-50, 51

279

clinging behavior, 415, 417, 419-20

ambiguity of, 41, 44, 45, 47, 51

mesmerizing effect of, 265,

Clinton, Bill, 26, 27, 93

bisexual appeal of, 50-51

267-69

clothing, xx, 34, 434, 436

confusion engendered by, 47

reversal of, 276

attention to details of, 265, 268,

cruelty in, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47

sensuous effect of, 265, 269-72

269, 270, 272, 273, 274

dangerousness of, 43, 44

slower pace in, 272, 273-74

of Dandies, 43, 44, 48-49, 50, 51

dangers to, 52

of spectacles, 265, 267-69, 275

of Sirens, 7, 8, 13, 14-15, 274

excitement engendered by, 47

Devil Is a Woman, The,
373

Cohn, Norman, 103

Feminine, 43-45

Dewa, 37

Cold Coquette, The
(Byron), 70

impudence of, 49, 51, 52

Diderot, Denis, xxiv-xxv

Colette, 48

keys to, 48-51

Dietrich, Marlene, 50, 121-23, 127,

complaining, 135, 293, 378, 418,

Masculine, 45-48

128, 129, 130, 192, 342, 373,

421

mental transvestitism of, 50

434

confessions, "honest," 284, 285,

nonconformity of, 46, 47, 48-49,

DiMaggio, Joe, 11, 13

287-88, 289

51

Dio Cassius, 7

con men, 66

orchid as symbol of, 51

Dionysus, 8

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Index

Diotima, 206-7, 208

Japan's
ukiyo
("floating world") as,

on suggestion, 215

Disappointed Dreamers, 150-51

435-37

on transference, 335-36

disenchantment, 415-29

mystical effects in, 434-35

on the uncanny, 126, 301-2, 304

clean quick breaks in, 415, 418,

theatricality of, 431, 434-35, 436,

Friedrich, Konrad, 297-99

425-26

439

Fröhlich, Rosa (fict.), 340-43

clinging behavior and, 415, 417,

visual stimuli in, 434

Fu Chai, King, xix, 15, 311-13

419-20

Warhol's Factory as, 437-38

Fujiwara no Korechika, 48, 65, 271

deliberate, 415, 418-20

envy, 16, 28

Fülöp-Miller, René, 104-5

disillusionment in, 40

Epton, Nina, 326, 354, 355

embers as symbol of, 428

Eros. 206-7, 208

Gallese, Duke and Duchess of, 22

familiarity in, 415, 418, 421

erotic fatigue, 117—18

Game of Hearts, The: Harriette Wilson's

inertia in, 417-18

Escher, M. C., 128

Memoirs
(Wilson), 48-49

pleasant separations in, 421-23

Essex, Robert Devereux, Earl of, 209

Gandhi, Mohandas K., 193, 358

see also
re-seduction

Euripides, xx

isolation created by, 317

Disraeli, Benjamin, 49, 57, 81,

Europa, 180-81

Garbo, Greta, 127

82-85, 93, 143-44, 210, 236

Exodus, Book of, 98

Garden of Eden, 24, 237

attention to details by, 274-75

Exotic Fetishists, 154-55

Gautier, Théophile, 49, 385

humor in persuasion by, 260

"Exotic Perfume" (Baudelaire),

Genesis, Book of, 232-33

mirroring by, 225

401-2

Genji, Prince (fict.), 63-65, 172,

poeticizing by, 284

Eyes of Youth,
43

269-71

victim played by, 292

George, Don, 419-20

dissatisfaction, perfectionistic, 140-41

Fallaci, Oriana, 374-76

Gérard, François-Pascal, 187, 188

Don Juan, legend of, xx, 19-20, 23,

falling in love, xix, xxi, xxii, 9, 36,

Gilbert and Sullivan, 189

24-25, 155, 170, 207-8, 209,

39, 44, 45, 46, 50, 76, 97, 134,

Gilda,
314

260, 400

149, 164, 205, 246, 377

Gillot, Henrik, 45

Don Juan
(Byron), 290

familiarity, 429

Gilot, Françoise, 25

doormats, anti-seductive, 134

in disenchantment, 415, 418, 421

Girard, Rene, 199, 200

doubts, 215, 282-83, 321, 323, 324,

poeticizing oneself vs., 277, 281,

Gladstone, William, 85, 93, 143-44

383, 389, 390, 393, 409, 410,

282, 284

Gleichen-Russwurm, Alexander von,

429

fear, 412, 418, 424

xxi

Drama Queens, 155

in pain mixed with pleasure, 369,

Goethe, Johann Wolfgang, 300-301,

drama saints, charismatic, 1 10-12

377-78, 379

354

Dream of the Red Chamber, The
(Tsao

Feminine Dandies, 43-45

golden age, childhood as, 53, 55, 59

Hsueh Chin), 224, 270-72

Ferenczi, Sandor, 126

Gottfried von Strassburg, 12, 190-92,

Drouet, Juliette, 339-40

festivals, 433, 434, 435

354-55

Dryden, John, 233

Fetishistic Stars, 121-23

Grammont, Count de, 137-38, 183,

Dulce y Sabrosa
(Picón), 231-34

Fiume, march on, 23, 273, 328

324-25

dullness, deliberate, 183

flattery, 22, 85, 218, 233, 259, 289,

Grant, Gary, 125, 128, 129

Dumas, Alexander, 385

376, 403

Graves, Robert, 9-11, 55-58, 231,

Duncan, Isadora, 22, 259

Flaubert, Gustave, 364-65, 385

287-88

Duse, Eleanor, 22, 259

Floating Genders, 160

Greco, Juliette, 313

"floating world" (
ukiyo
)
,
435-37

greed, 199

Eastern Love,
137, 171

Flowers of Evil, The
(Baudelaire),

anti-seductive, 142-43

Easy Street,
58

314-15, 386, 401-2

Greek Myths, The
(Graves), 9-11,

Eddington, Nora, 399-400

Flynn, Errol, xxiv, 26, 130, 192, 201,

55-58, 231, 287-88

Edward VII, King of England, 396

291, 355

Greenfield, Liah, 102

ego ideal regression, 337-38,

physical lures of, 397-402, 403,

guilt, sense of, 176, 369, 378, 379,

343-46

404

422-23, 426

Einstein, Albert, 99

Tantrism practiced by, 410

in transgression of taboos, 349,

Eisenhower, Dwight D., 124, 174,

Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, The,

355, 357

317

43

Guinevere, Queen, 329-30, 386-87

Eisenstein, Sergei, 59

Fraser, Flora, 300-301

gurus, charismatic, 109-10

Either/Or
(Kierkegaard), 24, 256

French Revolution, 70, 116-17, 174,

Gwyn, Nell, 201, 420-21

Elizabeth, Empress of Russia, 90, 91

187, 328

Elizabeth I, Queen of England, 75,

Freud, Sigmund, 70-71, 173, 182,

Hamilton, Lady Emma, 300-301,

84, 209, 346

188, 449

304

Ellington, Duke, xxiv, 182-83, 291,

Andreas-Salomé and, 76, 198, 199

Hamilton, Sir William, 300-301, 304

419-20, 421-23

on bisexuality, 50

hard sell, 443

empathy, 81, 157

on childhood as golden age, 55

Harriman, Averell, 85-87, 273, 318

environment, seductive, 431-39

disciples of, 76-77, 198, 199, 434

Harriman, Pamela Churchill, 85-87,

Casanova's creation of, 435,

on narcissism, 73, 74

273, 274, 318

438-39

on sexual taboos, 352-53

Hauptmann, Gerhart, 46

crowded conditions in, 434, 437

on spoiled children, 61

Hawthorne, Nathaniel, 74

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461

Hayworth, Rita, 313—15

impatience, anti-seductive, 134,

Jackson, Andrew, 446-48

heat, projected, 393, 395-97

137-38

Jagger, Mick, 50

heated glances, 396, 397, 402, 403

improvisation, 164, 248, 411

James I, King of England, 66, 235,

Helen of Troy, xix, xx, 11, 13

in proving oneself, 324-25

355

Hellmann, John, 124, 209

imps, 56-57, 59-61, 66

reverse parental regression and,

Hera, 9-11, 256-58, 287-88

inattentiveness, 136-37, 145

346-48

Hermaphroditus, 43-45

indifference, 409

Japan, 25, 37, 48, 50

Hermes (Mercury), 9-10, 43, 55-58

indirect approach, 177-84, 408-9

child-rearing practices in, 335-36

Herrick, Robert, 399

bland appearance in, 183

ukiyo
("floating world") of, 435-37

Hibbert, Eloise Talcott, 172-73,

bold moves after, 407-9

see also Tale of Genji, The

311-12

deliberate dullness in, 183

(Murasaki)

Hindu Art of Love, The
(Windsor,

disguising one's feelings in, 183

jealousy, 70, 76-77, 248, 390, 421,

ed.), 171-72, 411

friendship in, 177, 179-81, 182

423, 424, 425-26

Homer, 7-8, 11, 12-13, 256-58

illusion of control in, 181-82

in pain mixed with pleasure, 372,

"honest" confessions, 284, 285,

neutral distance in, 182-83

373, 374, 377

287-88, 289

reversal of, 184

triangles and, 197-98

honest courtesans, 38

sexual tension and, 182

Jeffers, Robinson, 109

Hot and Cold Coquettes, 67, 69-71,

spider's web as symbol of, 184

Joan of Arc, 102-4

76, 78

third parties in, 177, 183

Johnson, Lyndon B., 289

Hsi Shi, xix, 15, 311-13

see also
soft sell

Joseph II, Holy Roman Emperor,

Hugo, Victor, 338-40

infantile regression, 336-37, 338-40

301-2

Huxley, Aldous, 109

innocents, 54, 58-59, 66

Josephine, Empress of France, xxiv,

hypnosis, 261-62, 401, 402

"In Praise of Makeup" (Baudelaire),

13, 69-71, 74, 154, 217, 412

14

languorousness of, 12, 14, 69

Ibarruri, Dolores Gómez (La Pasioninsecurities, 48, 71, 74, 76, 77, 87, selective disclosure by, 15, 237

aria), 99-100

154, 155, 156, 163, 172, 173,

selective withdrawal by, 70, 78,

Ibn Hazm, 126, 183-84, 409

182, 193, 207, 210, 289, 291,

390

Ideal Lovers, 3, 29-40

359, 369, 377, 412, 419

tears as tactic of, 69, 70, 291-92

Beauty, 33-35

of Anti-Seducers, 131, 133, 138,

Journal of Our Life in the Highlands

in courtly love, 36-37