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cultural issues
64

Dahl, Roald
201
,
208

dance
see
music/dance

danger
7
,
118
,
166–7
,
214
,
216–17

Dante Alighieri
108–9

Dawood, N. J.
209

De Quincey, Thomas
182–3

Dee, John
81

Defoe, Daniel
Robinson Crusoe
201–2

den-building
189–90

Dickens, Charles
120
,
202
,
205
A Christmas Carol
202

discipline
13
,
19–22
,
33–4
,
37
,
68–9
,
122
,
162
,
182
,
193
in public places
35
,
117–18
Rousseau on
13
,
18–19
in schools
72
,
73
,
193

domestic tasks, for children
2
,
3
,
4–5
,
8–9
,
146–7
see also
child labour

Doyle, Arthur Conan
202–3
The Hound of the Baskervilles
203

drawing
134
,
187

DVDs/videos
89
,
90
in cars
128

education/school
8
,
31
,
39
,
61–76
boarding schools
69–70
community schools
74
,
75
discipline in schools
72
,
73
,
193
educational television
87
flexi-schooling
67
home-schooling
66–7
,
76
,
104
,
134
,
188–9
learning by doing
161–2
,
165–6
music lessons
104–5
,
107
,
109–10
parental involvement
67
,
75
private
69–73
,
174–5
sex education
154
state
54–5
,
70
,
73–6
,
120
,
174
teachers
71–2
,
73–5
,
76
teaching of skills
65
,
75

Education Otherwise
66

Edwards, Jonathan
119

Ehrenreich, Barbara
Dancing in the Streets
51–2
,
105–6

electronic games
40
,
42
,
167–8
,
220
see also
computers/Internet
;
playing/play

encouragement
see
praise/encouragement

Epicurus
173

Eton
70–71

Facebook
168

face-pulling
185

fairy tales
203–4
,
209–11
see also
reading/books

family, the
43
,
134–6
,
217–18
,
221–2
as a community
8
,
9
,
52
,
53
,
55
,
57–9
,
98–100
,
218
concepts of
23–4
,
36
,
53
see also
parents

family days out
99–100
,
127–31
,
132
,
134–5

farming
46–7
,
149
,
155–6

fathers
6
,
24
,
27
,
29
,
128–9
,
134–5
see also
parents

food
31
,
94–5
,
142–3
bread-making
146
home produce
147–8
,
153
,
155
,
158
junk food
131
meat
153
,
156
see also
mealtimes

food fads
141–2

friends/friendship
50–59
,
66–7

Fukuoka, Masanobu
46
on music
110–11
The One-Straw Revolution
46–7
,
48
,
49

gardening
11
,
45
,
47
,
75
growing fruit/vegetables 147–8153,
155
,
158
Rousseau on
11

German Popular Stories
204

Grahame, Kenneth
The Wind in the Willows
203

grandparents
26
,
36

Grant Museum, London
133

Greene, Graham
208
,
209

Grenfell, Joyce
120

Griffiths, Jay
144

Grimm’s Fairy Tales
203–4

Harris, Joel Chandler
Uncle Remus: His Songs and Sayings
204

Hartman, Alia
52

Hazlewood, Charles
191

helicopter parents
see
over-protective parents

Hepworth, Barbara
24

Heywood, Colin
84

Hobbes, Thomas
168

Hockney, David
Secret Knowledge
88

holidays
41–5

home decoration
136–7

home-schooling
66–7
,
76
,
104
,
134
,
188–9

Hundertwasser, Friedensreich
96
,
114–15
,
189

Hutton, Robert
106

Huxley, Aldous
40
,
46
,
71
,
76
,
106
,
179
Brave New World
159
Crome Yellow
214
,
218
The Doors of Perception
212
Island
53

Illich, Ivan
‘Taught Mother Tongue’
5–6

independence
see
self-sufficiency

International Magic
69

Internet
see
computers/Internet

Jacobs, Richard
71–2

James, Oliver
56

Janes, Sarah
120

Jerome, Jerome K.
198

John, Augustus
44

Keats, John
94
,
97

Kennett, White
The Charity of Schools for Poor Children
61

Kingsley, Charles
The Water Babies
205

Kipling, Rudyard
The Jungle Book
79
,
205

language
see
words/language

Lawrence, D. H.
8
‘Education of the People’
3–4
,
62
,
63
,
65
on motherhood
28–9

Lear, Edward
206
,
207
A Book of Bosh
207
‘The Jumblies’
206–7

Lewis, C. S.
207–8

Libertine, Eve
72

liberty
193
see also
discipline

Liddell, Alice
200

Liedloff, Jean
117
The Continuum Concept
92
,
101–2
,
161–2
,
113–14
,
167
,
176–8
,
216
,
226–7

Lloyd, John
172
,
175
,
176

Locke, John
on conversation
145
on dancing
104
on mealtimes/food
143–4
Some Thoughts Concerning Education
30–33
,
34
,
35
,
37
,
41–2
,
50
,
51
,
56
,
68
,
74–5
,
103
,
122
,
193
on swimming
116–17
on toys/games
82–3
on work
164–6

loneliness/isolation
50–51
,
54
,
215
,
218

love
180–81

Mabey, Richard
Food for Free
46

magic
69
,
187

manners
37
,
139
,
140–41
,
148
for adults
140
in conversation
144–5
A. S. Neill on
139
,
140
,
141
table manners
138
,
139
,
140–41
,
144–5

Manning, Mark
17
,
122–3

market economy
5

materialism
see
consumerism

McLuhan, Marshall
88

mealtimes
138–48
eating together
139
,
144–5
John Locke on
143–4
as a ritual
141
table manners
138
,
139
,
140–41
,
144–5
timing of
144
see also
food

medicine(s)
32–3

Mevlana Jalalu-dinn Rumi
105

Mill, James
173

Mill, John Stuart
76
,
173

Milne, A. A.
208

Ministry of Sound, The
107

Mitford, Nancy
27

money/economics
155–6

morality
21–2
,
61
,
65
,
120–21
,
122
,
204
,
205

Morpurgo, Michael
203

Morris, William
130

mothers
23
,
24–30
,
35–7
,
117
ideal concept of
24–5
,
27
,
29
,
36
,
37
D. H. Lawrence on
28–9
media image of
30
,
36
in medieval period
121
Rousseau on
27–8
as working women
6
,
25–6
,
27
,
34–5
,
36–7
see also
parents

museums
130
,
133

music/dance
10
,
102–12
,
120
,
122–3
lessons in
104–5
,
107
,
109–10
John Locke on
104
religious
105–6
Rough Music
192
singing
10–11
,
103
,
108–9
,
111
,
112
,
191–2
the ukulele
109–10
,
200

Nabakov, Vladimir
133

nannies/au pairs
26–7
,
98
,
99

Natural History Museum, London
130

natural world
39–49
,
114–15
,
168–9
see also
farming
;
gardening

nature/nurture debate
31
,
55–7

Neill, A. S.
58
,
59
,
68
,
69–70
,
81
,
121
,
122
,
164
on manners
139
,
140
,
141

noise-making
190–91

nudity
120–21

Office of Christian Parents, The
20–21

organized activities
89
,
113–18
see also
playing/play

Orwell, George
71
,
198–9

outside activities
32
,
39–49
,
53–4
,
66
,
124
,
125
,
168
blackberry-picking
45–6
camping
44–5
,
55
den-building
189–90
gardening
11
,
45
,
47
,
75
,
147–8
walks
183–4
see also
playing/play

over-protective parents
2–8
,
33
,
117
,
118
,
166–7
,
213–14

paedophiles/child abduction
118

parents
6–7
,
176–8
,
180–87
fathers
6
,
24
,
27
,
29
,
128–9
,
134–5
as good/bad
23–38
mothers
see
mothers
natural parenting
39–49
,
114–15
negative attitudes in
170–79
as over-protective
7–8
,
33
,
117
,
118
,
166–7
,
213–14
as over-worked
7
,
17–18
as perfect
29
self-sufficient
5
,
6
sex for
92
,
94
,
125
sleep deprivation
91–3
,
96
,
97–8
,
101
stressed
17–18
see also
family, the

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