Too Busy for Your Own Good (62 page)

Aging and stress,
49
–50

Anger, anchoring,
91

Attitude and stress,
89
–94

Attitude toward coworkers and bosses,
152
–53

Balanced life.
See also
Home responsibilities; Work/life balance

defining,
204
–5

health tips for,
213
–20

launching,
228

master plan for,
224
–27

other people in,
220
–24

work obligations and,
206
–13

Beethoven, Ludwig van,
232
–33

Belly breathing,
85

Benson, Dr. Herbert,
193

Bill-paying, scheduling,
79
–80

Bogart, Humphrey,
165

Boredom,
30
–31,
36

Boss

personality type of,
150
,
151

tips for,
150
,
152

Brain dump (BD),
97

Breathing

belly,
85

deep,
196

four-square,
86

Bullies,
125
–26

Business trips,
166
–67

Busyness

excuses for,
14
–15,
24
–31

payoff to taming,
23
–24

quiz,
6
–8

reasons for,
14
–23

as status symbol,
4
–6

Busyness disease,
17

Busyness plague,
17

Chairs, office,
67

Chaos, admitting your,
55

Choices, problem-solving and,
57

Chores and housekeeping,
179
,
181
–83,
192
,
193

Clothes

comfortable,
87

communication style and,
144

list,
184

Clutter

at home,
185
–87

workspace,
65
–66

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT),
47

Collins, Jim,
160

Communication at work

e-mail,
70
–74,
209

importance of,
69
–70

listening skills,
94
,
152

meetings,
81
–82,
168

telephone tactics,
68
,
74
–75,
207

Communication styles

coworkers and,
142
–50

four basic,
116
–17,
144
–45

male-speak,
162
–63

personality types to be tamed,
124
–38

speaking their language,
120
–24

Complainers and whiners,
129
–31

Complaining, curbing,
90

Computer use

limiting Internet time,
77
–78,
179
–80

positioning yourself,
67
–68

Cookies, recipe for,
214
–15

Covey, Stephen,
156
,
157

Coworkers and bosses.
See also
Personality types to be tamed

attitude toward,
152
–53

boss's personality style,
150
,
151

communication styles of,
116
–17,
120
–24

relationship combinations at work,
142
–50

tips on being a boss,
150
,
152

Criticism or harsh comments, handling,
92
–93

Critics, handling,
133
–34

Cubicles, office.
See
Workspace

Dangers of being too busy

death from overwork,
47
–48

growing old before your time,
49
–50

impact of stress,
37
–42

stress myths and,
36
–37

Death from overwork,
47
–48

Delegating

at home,
181
–83

at work,
95
–96

Depression

facts about,
46
–47

symptoms of,
42

in women,
46
–47,
50

Desk yoga, silly,
98
–107

Dickens, Charles,
34

Diet,
193
–94,
213
–15

Difficult people at work

communication styles and,
116
–17

COPE with,
111
–12

as lions,
110
–11,
118
–20

personal Teflon and,
112

personality types to be tamed,
124
–38

post-battle analysis and,
138
–40

self-awareness and,
112
–15

speaking language of,
120
–24

Digital technology natives,
163
–64

Disraeli, Benjamin,
141

Drama queens (and kings),
131
–33

Driver (one of four communication styles)

description of,
116
,
117
,
144
,
145

relationship combinations and,
142
–50

successfully communicating with,
121
,
122
,
123
,
124

Edell, Dr. Dean,
213

Edison, Thomas,
25
,
63

E-mail, handling,
70
–74,
209

Emerson, Ralph Waldo,
33

Emoticons,
74

Endorphins,
51
,
192

Ergonomics,
66
–69

Excuses for being too busy

boredom,
30
–31

catching up financially,
28
–29

everyone's too busy,
30

friends and busyness,
29

happiness and success,
27

multitasking,
25
–26

not enough time,
25

overworking for family,
28

reasons versus,
14
–15

technology,
26
–27

working double overtime,
27
–28

Exercise, as stress reducer,
37
,
191
,
192
–93

Falk, Peter,
128

Family arguments,
199
–200

Family commitments,
210
–11

Family time,
178
–79

Favors, cutting down on,
222
–23

Ferriss, Timothy,
71

Finding Love (Again!)
,
220

Five-minute first aid,
43
–45

Foster, Rick,
59
,
195

Four-square breathing,
86

Frates, Steve,
163

Friends

spiritually inclined,
202

as support system,
200
–201

wise,
164
–66

Friendships

ending,
223
–24

tending,
29

Frowning,
88

Gandhi, Mahatma,
155

Gillebaard, Lola,
89

Grigsby, Jim,
124
,
139

Grudges, holding,
91
–92

Gruen, Sara,
153

Gut instincts,
96

Happiness, tips on nurturing,
27
,
59
,
195
–96,
219
–20

Happy person, sounding like,
90

Healthy living

diet,
193
–94,
213
–15

exercise,
37
,
191
,
192
–93

medical and dental checkups,
215
–17

sleep tips,
196
–97,
217
–19

Hicks, Greg,
59
,
195

High-value combinations (HVCs), defined,
146

Home organization

lists,
183
–84

purging stuff,
185
–87

Home responsibilities.
See also
Stress management at home

busy danger zone and,
174

chores and housekeeping,
179
,
181
–83,
192
,
193

family time,
178
–79

feeding and shopping,
179
,
184

rules and,
178

schedules for,
175
–77

TV time and,
180
–81

Honest employees,
160

Humor

in e-mails,
73
–74

for stress management,
89
,
198

Iacocca, Lee,
96

Imbalance detox,
225
–26

Internet time, limiting,
77
–78,
179
–80

Interruptions at work, limiting,
78

Job.
See also
Work habits, recommended; Work/life balance

altering,
207
–8

walking away from,
168
–69

Job security, dwindling,
19

Joplin, Janis,
173

Jung, C. G.,
109

Karoshi
,
47
–48

Keashly, Loraleigh,
111

Knott, Cornelia,
165

Know-it-alls, handling,
127
–29

La Rochefoucauld, François de,
83

Lamott, Anne,
173

Laporte, Leo,
164

Let-go list,
160
–61

Life events,
37
–39

Lighting, office,
68
–69

Listening skills,
94
,
152

Lists

let-go list,
160
–61

master to-do list,
76

packing list,
183

people list,
183

shopping list,
179
,
184

Love, looking for,
22
,
220
–22

Male-speak,
162
–63

Massage,
197

Master plan,
224
–27

Master to-do list,
76

McEwen, Bruce S.,
50

Mead, Margaret,
220

Meal preparation,
179
,
182

Meditation, transcendental,
195

Meetings

boss's personality and,
151

exiting,
168

TALENT for holding,
81
–82

Mentors,
164
–66

Millay, Edna St. Vincent,
53

Money problems,
20
–21,
28
–29

Morgenstern, Julie,
54

Multitasking,
25
–26

Napoleon,
232

“No people” and negative analysts,
135
–36

No
power,
157
–59

Novack, Dr. Dennis,
50

Nutrition,
193
–94,
213
–15

Office clutter,
65
–66

Office lighting,
68
–69

On the rack,
86
–87

Online time, limiting,
77
–78,
179
–80

Overcare,
21

Perfectionism,
23
,
90
–91

Perfectionist (one of four communication styles)

description of,
116
,
117
,
144
,
145

relationship combinations and,
142
–50

successfully communicating with,
121
,
122
,
123
,
124

Personality types to be tamed

basic skills for dealing with,
124
–25

bullies,
125
–26

complainers and whiners,
129
–31

critics,
133
–34

drama queens (and kings),
131
–33

exploders and loudmouths,
126
–27

indecisives and stallers,
136
–37

know-it-alls,
127
–29

“no people” and negative analysts,
135
–36

post-battle analysis and,
138
–40

saboteurs and thunder-stealers,
134
–35

unreliables,
133

unresponsives,
137
–38

Pets,
182
–83,
194
–95

Phone tactics,
68
,
74
–75,
207

Positive attitude and stress management,
89
–94

Post-traumatic stress disorder,
50

Posture and stress,
88

PRESENT, being,
231

Quiet time

at home,
181

at work,
75
,
78

Quindlen, Anna,
203

Quizzes

on busyness levels,
6
–8,
16
–17

on communication styles,
113
–15,
118
–20

on impact of stress,
37
–42

Rayner, Charlotte,
111

Reading, professional,
80
–81

Reasons for busyness

general reasons,
15

legacy,
23

love and,
22

married to your job,
19

money problems,
20
–21,
28
–29

overcare,
21

parents' shadow,
22

perfectionism,
23

RQ (Reasons Quotient) test,
16
–17

tasks master,
18

technological malfunction,
21

ten popular excuses,
24
–31

time of the essence,
18
–19