Trans-Sister Radio (2000) (8 page)

Of course, I circled all the deliciously filthy parts, too.

BANKS:
That particular strategy worked well: Dana's girlfriend understood what the pre-operative transsexual was trying to tell her ... and that the lifestyle in the offing wasn't for her.

STEVENS:
Fortunately, she knew herself well enough to know that what I was driving at wasn't going to be her cup of tea. And so we broke up. But we're still friends.

BANKS:
And my mother? How did you tell my mother?

STEVENS
(sighs audibly): Badly. Oh, Lord, Carly: really and truly badly.

Chapter 7.

allison

AT FIRST I THOUGHT HE WAS JOKING.

Then I thought it was a fabrication to let me down easy: We were about to break up.

And then I began to fear I was insane, because I was in love with a lunatic.

The mind, I can tell you, reels. It reels, then recoils. It begins a retreat into a series of images and ideas that are clearly related to the news you've been given, but not exactly relevant. He is sick, he is ill, he is deranged. He needs help.

No, he is beyond help, he is way too far gone. He is a deviant beyond therapeutic salvation. He is delusional.

Then: He can't possibly be serious. He is, outwardly, much too normal for that sort of surgical mutilation.

But because you don't instantly stop loving a person--our history, albeit a short one, didn't simply evaporate on that ledge at the edge of the woods--you begin to wonder about yourself. You wonder first how you missed all the signals, because certainly the signals were there. They had to be.

Hadn't your ex-husband warned you?

And then you begin to consider the possibility that, on some level, you didn't miss a thing. You heard the hints, and you understood them. But you didn't care, because, deep down, you are
that way
, too.

Whatever
that way
is.

Finally you just get sick. At least I did.

I didn't vomit, but I did put my head between my knees and stared down at the white and silver and gray of the rock, and allowed the waves of nausea to roll over me. And when he tried to touch me, when he tried to rub the back of my neck, I believe I told him to get his hand off me.

His
disgusting
hand off me.

I was angry, and I wanted to hurt him.

Before Dana told me his plans, we had a glorious late summer together. His course ended on the first day of August, and he wouldn't be in a classroom again for over a year.

And so we were like two teenagers for the entire month: four-plus weeks with no jobs to attend to, and really very little responsibility. Oh, I was going by my own classroom for an hour or two every day--getting the room the way I wanted it, revising my lesson plans, weaving what I had learned the past year into my curriculum--but I've never viewed my August responsibilities as work. I'm too excited about the imminence of a new semester, and the arrival of my new students.

And so Dana and I went to movies and dinner two and three nights a week, we read on my terrace in the afternoons, we went for hikes all over the state.

My best friends--women, all--told me they no longer saw me, and the single ones confessed they were jealous.

Dana and I were making love, it seemed, all the time. I'd never had a lover as attentive as he was, I'd never been with a man who was so relentlessly focused on me. My pleasure. What I wanted. We didn't spend a whole night together until the second Saturday in August, but as I recall, we saw each other every single day up until then that month, and almost every time we were together, we would find a moment alone to seduce each other. Once, in a largely empty movie theater in Middlebury, of all places, when our interest in the film was starting to flag, he crouched between my legs on the floor of the cinema and pushed up my dress, and I shocked myself by coming in public.

I would never have allowed a man before Dana to do such a thing. I would certainly have been incapable of an orgasm.

But--and this matters in ways that say much more about me than about Dana--he was the first man I'd ever been with who had absolutely no hair on his chest. (At the time, of course, I assumed it was simply genetic. I hadn't a clue it was hormones and electrolysis.) There was something about Dana that was at once exotic and safe and--almost like an aura--tender. He was, without question, the most unthreatening man I'd ever been with.

We spent lots of time with Carly, too. I knew I was going to miss her madly when she went away to college, and I was prepared to spend considerably less time with Dana in those weeks if the two of them hadn't gotten along. But they had. Dana, obviously, spent a large part of his professional life around teenage girls, and he was at once completely at ease with my daughter and capable of making her comfortable with him. The three of us went biking on her days off, we went to band concerts at the gazebo on the green. Dana had a friend with a sailboat, and he still remembered enough about sailing from his childhood in Miami that he took us across Lake Champlain one day, and bought us lunch at a marine restaurant on the New York side of the water.

And though he never actually went shopping for clothes with us, he did accompany us twice to the mall, when we embarked upon shopping expeditions in the weeks before Carly was due at school.

I know now he was indulging one of his favorite whims. While Carly and I were picking out sweaters and shirts and jeans, he was at a lingerie store. Ostensibly he was there to buy something slinky for me--and on both occasions he did--but he spent most of his time just rubbing silk and nylon and spandex against the sensitive skin on the palms of his hands.

Will and I drove Carly to college. I thought it was inappropriate for Dana to join us, and he agreed. Though there was no question in my mind by those last days of August that I had fallen in love with Dana, he had still been a part of my daughter's life for barely a month.

I had assumed there was a pretty good chance that Patricia would take the day off and join us, too. I hadn't relished the prospect, though that certainly wasn't because I disliked Patricia: I simply took pleasure in the notion that the family unit that would send Carly off into the world on her own would be the very same one that had conceived her in the first place, and nurtured the newborn that was now almost five and a half feet tall.

A week before we were to leave, I asked Will if Patricia was going to come along, and the idea that she might seemed to surprise him.

"No, I think she thought it would just be us," he'd said. "Besides, I'm pretty sure she has depositions that morning."

And so the last Friday in August, the three of us piled into Will and Patricia's massive Explorer. It was the first time we had been alone together in an automobile in almost a decade. Once, two years earlier, the three of us had been in a car with Patricia, when we were driving to and from Will's father's funeral. But Carly hadn't even been old enough to be one of my students the last time the Banks family had soloed inside an automobile. Almost reflexively, therefore, I hopped into the backseat before Carly: I didn't want my daughter to feel like the little kid in the back on her first day of college.

Since much of the freshman class had considerably longer drives before them than we did, we didn't leave until late morning. Carly didn't want to be the first kid on campus.

For most of the two-hour trip she was quiet, and Will and I babbled about our memories of our freshman year--though we did not, I noticed, discuss the fact that we had met soon after we'd arrived at Middlebury, and were seriously involved by the spring. Since our stories were meant to offer Carly one final booster shot of confidence, we both focused instead on how we had met the different adults around her who had been our friends for over two decades, and the strategies we'd employed to manage a workload that seemed, at first, overwhelming.

Occasionally, I studied the boxes and suitcases that were piled beside and behind me and inventoried their contents in my mind. I think I was trying to reassure myself that Carly had everything she could possibly need.

By the time we arrived, the unloading was well under way. It was early afternoon, the sun was warm, and I felt impossibly old. The Volvos and minivans stretched like wagon trains along the thin roads that surrounded the lower campus, and snaked between the renovated barns and white clapboard dormitories. We parked on a patch of grass perhaps thirty yards from the entrance to Carly's new home, and I focused on the parade of consumption and privilege of which we were a small part so I wouldn't wind up weeping because my child was leaving home and I was irrevocably middle-aged.

Instead I joked about the skis and snowboards that sparkled in the summer sun, and the Frisbees and tennis balls that coursed through the air all around us. I noted the different makes of computers that were carried in by fathers and sons, and the easels and butterfly chairs that were carted inside by mothers and daughters. There were endless boxes of CDs and CD players, televisions and VCRs and--protruding from the pockets of sundresses and shorts--their black plastic remotes.

And, of course, there were armloads and hangers of clothes. Like those remotes, frequently they were black, too, because this was, after all, Bennington. Carly's new friends would have hair that was purple and orange and green, some would have literally dozens of studs in their ears. But their clothes would largely be black. Some would, in fact, dress like a close branch of the Addams Family.

"There's Morticia," Will observed at one point, when Carly was not within earshot. Sure enough, wandering toward the front door of the dorm with a silver mountain bike in her arms, was a young girl with waist-length black hair wearing an ankle-length sheath the color of soot.

Will and I were younger than many of the parents, but that helped little as I stood in the frame of the door to Carly's room and watched her decide where on the bureau to put her coffeemaker, or in which drawer she should place her bras and panties and socks. And though I managed to say good-bye to her without crying, Will and I were barely beyond the stone pillars at the edge of the campus when I could feel my eyes starting to tear.

Sometimes we joked about age on the way back to Bartlett, and sometimes we reminisced about how little the ritual of the first day of college had changed in a generation. Sometimes I just sat back in the seat and closed my eyes behind my sunglasses and tried not to think about how awful it would be when I got home and saw so much of Carly's life gone from her room.

We'd been in the car a little over an hour when Will surprised me by bringing up what he described as my new beau. Both times he'd dropped by my house in August, Dana had been there.

"I wouldn't have guessed he was your type," he said, shrugging.

"The ponytail?"

"That's part of it."

"Sometimes you need a change."

"And he's so theatrical."

"Theatrical?"

"He's always using his hands when he talks."

Certainly I knew what Will was driving at, but Dana's sexual orientation wasn't a question in my mind. I hoped if I ignored the insinuation, he would understand that I didn't want to discuss my new boyfriend with him. And so I simply stared at the hills that rolled up toward the mountains to the east.

"Look, I know it's none of my business," he went on when I was silent. "But you know how much I care for you."

"You're right. It is none of your business."

"But I can't help myself. I want you to be happy."

"Then you'll change the subject. Or you'll let me change it."

"Can I say one more thing?"

"Not if it's about Dana."

"Well, I'm going to, I have to. And it's the last thing I'll say, I promise. But some people I know at the university think he's a tad odd. They say he's changed over the last year or two."

"I really don't care to discuss this."

"They say he's started to look different. They say--"

"They?
Who are
they?
Is
they
your idiot friend in the Poli-Sci Department? The one who does your Wednesday-morning radio commentaries? Well, of course she's not going to like Dana. She's a baby step away from bombing Planned Parenthood!"

"Oh, she is not."

"She is! And if she's your
they
, I just don't care."

"And if she's not alone?"

"I still don't care."