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BOOK: What to Expect the Toddler Years
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Dr. Mark Widome for his invaluable support and assistance, particularly on matters of toddler safety and first aid. And the many others who’ve lent their expertise, including Carole Marcus, M.D., J. Rutt Reigart, M.D., Kathy Leonard, M.D., Al Mooney, M.D., Shelly Bazes, C.N.P., W. K. Frankenburg, M.D., Beverly Bresnick, Cate D’Amboise, Sara Jacobs, Ann Wimpheimer, Alan Friedman, Sue Kellerman, Wendy Sax, Barbara Braun, Susanna Morgenthau, Mimi Gelb, Eve Coulson, Aliza Cotton, Michael Rand, and the moms and dads who’ve plied us with questions at our parenting groups and seminars.

The terrific staff at the American Academy of Pediatrics, including Michael Copeland, Carolyn Kolbaba, Leslee Williams, and former staff member Michelle Weber, for helping to keep our books accurate and up-to-date.

The editors of
Contemporary Pediatrics
for invaluable assistance whenever called upon; Juliann Goldman of C.S.P.I.; and N.A.P.N.A.P.

Tameka Hall and Niurka Zameta, crackerjack assistants, who kept up with filing mountains of articles from journals and newsletters, checked phone numbers, and otherwise kept our office going.

Abby and Norman Murkoff and, as always, Mildred and Harry Scharaga for unflagging support.

Contents

F
OREWORD
: A P
EDIATRICIAN’S
P
RESCRIPTION

I
NTRODUCTION
: A T
ALE OF
“T
WO
” T
ODDLERS

B
EFORE YOU BEGIN

How to Use
What to Expect: The Toddler Years

What Your Toddler May Be Doing Now

A Note to Nontraditional Families

PART ONE: T
HE
S
ECOND AND
T
HIRD
Y
EARS

C
HAPTER
O
NE
: T
HE
T
HIRTEENTH
M
ONTH

WHAT YOUR TODDLER MAY BE DOING NOW

WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT AT THE ONE-YEAR CHECKUP

WHAT YOU MAY BE WONDERING ABOUT

Frequent Falls

Safety Warning

Bumping Into Things

Slow Gross-Motor Development

Slowpoke Walker

Ensuring a Good Fit

Selecting Shoes for the Walker

Replacing Shoes

Toeing-In (Pigeon-Toes)

The Into-Everything Syndrome

Banging on Everything

Diapering Difficulties

Appetite Slump

Milk Allergy

Food Throwing

Food Blowing

Messy Self-Feeding

Clinging/Dependence

Separation Anxiety

Parting Tips

The First Separation

Your Separation Anxiety

Resistance to the Cup

Weaning From the Bottle

Introducing Cow’s Milk

How to Wean From the Breast

When to Wean From Breastfeeding

Playyard Rejection

Cat Napping

Language Lag

Generalizing

Conversation Frustration

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT TO KNOW: Getting Your Toddler Talking

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT FOR YOUR TODDLER TO KNOW: Other People Have Rights

Other People Have Feelings, Too

C
HAPTER
T
WO
:
T
HE
F
OURTEENTH
M
ONTH

WHAT YOUR TODDLER MAY BE DOING NOW

WHAT YOU MAY BE WONDERING ABOUT

Negativism

Setting Limits

Not Taking “No” for an Answer

Food Strike

Emptying Things

The Dropsies

A Short Attention Span

Bowlegs

Toeing-Out

Flat Feet

Toe Walking

Post Crying-It-Out Trauma

A Start in Art

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT TO KNOW: Play Is the Toddler’s Work

Toys for Tots Early in the Second Year

Containing the Clutter

Buy Right

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT FOR YOUR TODDLER TO KNOW: All About Grandparents

C
HAPTER
T
HREE
: T
HE
F
IFTEENTH
M
ONTH

WHAT YOUR TODDLER MAY BE DOING NOW

WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT AT THE FIFTEEN-MONTH CHECKUP

WHAT YOU MAY BE WONDERING ABOUT

Dirty Doings

Night Waking

Keep It Cool

When the Cow’s the Culprit

Nighttime Feedings

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep

Antisocial Behavior

Early Hitting

Acquiring a Pet

Crawling Relapse

Loss of Vocabulary

Caveperson Language

Birthmarks

Birthmarks, A Year Later

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT TO KNOW: Accentuating the Senses

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT FOR YOUR TODDLER TO KNOW: Nobody’s Perfect

C
HAPTER
F
OUR
:
T
HE
S
IXTEENTH
M
ONTH

WHAT YOUR TODDLER MAY BE DOING NOW

WHAT YOU MAY BE WONDERING ABOUT

Fear of Dogs

Pet Prescriptions

No Fear of Dogs

Poor Eating Habits

Erratic Eating

A Change in Eating Habits

Switching Seats

A Towering Toddler

Stranger Suspicion

No Fear of Strangers

A Preference for Mommy

Leaving a Sleeping Toddler with a Sitter

Continued Mouthing of Objects

Bath Rejection

Readiness for Potty Learning

Book Consumption

Climbing Capers

Crooked Teeth

Crankiness From Teething

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT TO KNOW: How to Encourage Learning, Thinking, and New Experiences

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT FOR YOUR TODDLER TO KNOW: Reading Is
Fun
damental

C
HAPTER
F
IVE
:
T
HE
S
EVENTEENTH
M
ONTH

WHAT YOUR TODDLER MAY BE DOING NOW

WHAT YOU MAY BE WONDERING ABOUT

Strange Stools

Fridge Opening

Throwing Habit

Clinginess During Play Group

Setting Up a Play Group

Annoying Habits Picked Up at Play Group

Screeching and Screaming

Diaper Striptease

Continued Use of a Comfort Object

Thumb Sucking

Continued Pacifier Use

Comfort Activities

Disinterest in Comfort Habits

Whether to Tether

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT TO KNOW: Disciplining Your Toddler

Win-Win Solutions

Make Discipline a Laughing Matter

Disciplining Techniques That Work

To Spank or Not to Spank

When Spanking Becomes Abuse

Never Shake a Toddler

WHAT IT’S IMPORTANT FOR YOUR TODDLER TO KNOW: The ABC’s of P’s and Q’s—Introducing Manners

C
HAPTER
S
IX
: T
HE
E
IGHTEENTH
M
ONTH

WHAT YOUR TODDLER MAY BE DOING NOW

WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT AT THE EIGHTEEN-MONTH CHECKUP

WHAT YOU MAY BE WONDERING ABOUT

Another Baby—When?

Impatience (Now!)

Telephone Interference

Interfering With Visitors

Napping Problems

Early Rising

Bedtime Rebellion

Slumber Diary

Day-Care Separation Problems

Mealtime Restlessness

Safe Seating

Mealtime Entertainment

Mutiny on the Highway

Stroller Struggles

Shampoo Struggles

Resistance to Hand Washing

Jealousy

A Spoonful of Sugar

Early Tantrums

Toys, Playthings, and Activities at Eighteen Months

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