Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers (23 page)

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MOVIES, WITH DIRECTORS (MOST ARE AVAILABLE ON VIDEOCASSETTE OR DVD.)

Baby Boom
, 1987 (Charles Shyer)

Beaches
, 1988 (Garry Marshall)

Because I Said So
, 2007 (Michael Lehmann)

Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood
, 2002 (Callie Khouri)

Georgia Rule
, 2007 (Garry Marshall)

Gia
, 1998 (Michael Cristofer)

Gypsy
, 1962 (Mervyn LeRoy)

Mermaids
, 1990 (Richard Benjamin)

Miss Potter
, 2006 (Chris Noonan)

Mommie Dearest
, 1981 (Frank Perry)

Mona Lisa Smile
, 2003 (Mike Newell)

Ordinary People
, 1980 (Robert Redford)

Pieces of April
, 2003 (Peter Hedges)

Postcards from the Edge
, 1990 (Mike Nichols)

Prozac Nation
, 2003 (Erik Skjoldbjaerg)

Something to Talk About
, 1995 (Lasse Hallstrom)

Terms of Endearment
, 1983 (James L. Brooks)

The Devil Wears Prada
, 2006 (David Frankel)

The Mother
, 2003 (Roger Michell)

The Other Sister
, 1999 (Garry Marshall)

The Perfect Man
, 2005 (Mark Rosman)

White Oleander
, 2002 (Peter Kosminsky)

Karyl McBride, Ph.D., LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Denver, Colorado, with over 28 years in public and private practice. She specializes in treating clients with dysfunctional-family-of-origin issues. For the past 17 years, Dr. McBride has been involved in private research concerning children of narcissistic parents, with a primary focus on women raised by narcissistic mothers. She has treated many daughters of narcissistic mothers in her private practice.

Additional information on services provided and background experience can be found on Dr. McBride’s private practice Web site at www.karylmcbridephd.com. The
Never Good Enough
book Web site, which includes a discussion forum for daughters of narcissistic mothers, can be found at www.nevergoodenough.com.

To contact Dr. McBride for speaking engagements, workshops, or further information, e-mail her at dr.mcbride @att.net.