Cut Cords of Attachment (24 page)

5. In recording cord dialogue, never make a pronouncement about the type of abuse, e.g., “She smacked you across the face a lot, didn’t she?” You have been reading energy, not a cosmic transcript.

6. During Step 10, ask questions to find out what happened to the client. How were the encoded patterns expressed?

For example, you could ask, “Was this rage from your ex on the level of an argument or was anything more intense involved?”

A client might respond that the cordee was drunk or yelled or threw things. Sometimes intense emotion is “all” that happened. In every case, here is what matters most: The cord that contained this toxic flow of energy is gone for good.

How do you know when a situation is bad enough to technically qualify as abuse?

You don’t have to.

Are you Judge Judy? Or are you simply a healer who has been invited to help to remove toxic energy?

Keep it simple, Smarty. Let your client be the one to bring up the word “abuse” if he chooses.

CORD SAMPLE: The Perfect Wife

Who would have suspected physical abuse? Karen never mentioned it. She just asked me to cut the cord to her husband. At the time of this session, over 20 years ago, I knew very little about physical abuse. It never occurred to me that someone who looked so picture perfect could be involved in such misery.

Before diagramming this cord, though, I had taken the precaution of using the technique to “Get Big.” So my limited personal experience didn’t keep me from learning the truth. This was my first writing of cord dialogue that included physical abuse.

1. Karen: I’ll keep up appearances, okay? Nobody needs to know what has happened between us. Let’s make a new beginning, so everything can be alright from now on.

2. Husband: I love you for being so beautiful.

3. Husband: You’re too beautiful. You’re too nice. It drives me crazy sometimes and I want to destroy you.

4. Karen: What’s wrong with me? What do I have to do to be good enough? Then you won’t need to punish me any more.

5. Husband: I feel like such a sinner. I feel so guilty.

6. Karen: I forgive you. Let me help save you. You didn’t really mean to hurt me. I know that.

Karen gained a lot of benefit from cutting that cord. She returned for several sessions with me, releasing other cords with related emotional themes.

Fifteen years later, she came back, more beautiful than ever. By now, my client was divorced from the abusive husband and happily married to a new man. It was a delight to read her aura. Karen had made a wonderful recovery.

Choose a Comfortable Distance

A wise man once said, “It’s noble to look deeper into life. Only don’t look so deep that you throw up.”

How deeply will you look when diagramming a cord? Your goal is to receive information, not to personally feel it. Also, you are not in the business of analyzing where the patterns came from or applying psychological labels (unless, as a trained psychotherapist, you already happen to own that skill set).

Well, relax. Television has trained you well about choosing how deep to go. Viewers get used to watching a show, following a plot line. You know that you don’t have to feel every blow, nor develop every disease. Depending on the show and your mood, you are always in control over the depth of your involvement.

Once you understand this concept of
comfortable distance,
your intention to help yourself or a client will automatically position your mind-body-spirit appropriately.

One of the major differences between psychological healing and Rosetree Energy Spirituality is the underlying sound quality. Eavesdrop on psychological therapy and you will hear fear or pain. A client
must
be willing to go there, making contact with the most unpleasant patterning, be it conscious or subconscious.

Sometimes psychological healing is the only way to remove certain patterns.

Whatever a healer’s skill set for emotional and spiritual healing, ideally it will be supplemented by holding a certain type of space for the client, making it safe to do work at depth.

How can a client find the strength to succeed at healing really nasty old STUFF? If you listen, you can hear it: Courage.

This is a distinctive, can-do vibration. “I am determined to heal, whatever it takes.” No doubt this sound brings tears to the eyes of our guardian angels.

Where does that courage come from?

• Commitment can bring forth the necessary strength to do tough emotional work.
  
• Or sometimes desperation becomes mixed with persistence and becomes courage.
  
• In other cases, a client finds extra courage when she senses that one final push can remove certain problems once and for all.
  

Courage sounds beautiful to the deep listener. But in your sessions of Rosetree Energy Spirituality, the underlying sound may move you even more than the hidden sound of courage. You may hear a sweet silence or, even, joy.

Don’t mistake that gentleness for superficiality. Case in point: The kind of healing you are learning to do with the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment. Underlying joy in your session isn’t merely some feel-good emotion, happy talk where everyone pretends that everything is magically all right. Cord cutting is
real.

So is the support of Divine Beings. They bring a deep joy to the practice of Rosetree Energy Spirituality, along with a transcendent emotional security. Sometimes this is called
bliss.

Courageous Explorer, feeling that support deep down will add greatly to your effectiveness as a healer. Opening up heart and soul as a listener can amplify the sound of truth within.

Engaging in Rosetree Energy Spirituality will protect you, not just your client. At Step 10, we’ll develop even greater appreciation for the differences between the complementary approaches of psychological healing and Rosetree Energy Spirituality.

Chapter 12
Discuss the Pattern

12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment

Step 1. Create a Sacred Space

Step 2. Make an Energy Sandwich

Step 3. Activate the Aura

Step 4. Choose Which Cord to Cut

Step 5. Locate the Cord

Step 6. Give Permission

Step 7. Remove the Cord

Step 8. Bandage to Rebalance

Step 9. Write the Dialogue Box

Step 10. Discuss the Client’s Logical Consequences with the Cordee

Review Cord Items

Logical Consequences from Cord cutting

Deepening Understanding of Rosetree Energy Spirituality

To help clients:
Position Yourself Clearly

Productive Search for Logical Consequences

Special Care with Cords to Trusted Professionals

Smash Fantasy, Fix Reality

Pay Attention to the Put-In

Discuss Any Sexual Problems Delicately

Invite New Forgiveness

Step 11. Discuss the Client’s Logical Consequences for Other Relationships

Step 12. Assign Homework

LET’S GET PRACTICAL

Having arrived at Step 10, you are ready to cut a fourth minor cord of attachment.

1. Quickly doing Steps 1-9, you may take your cues from our summary of the 12 Steps on the previous page. (Of course, you can always review by rereading earlier Steps.)

2. Take your time to master Step 10, slowly doing your “Official Reading” of the chapter.

3. Pick up your pace again at Steps 11-12.

See how time flies? Healing dances!

Show Your Stuff as a Healer by Doing Step 10

Step 10 brings a special kind of validation. What was circulating in that cord of attachment?

Be prepared for surprises, whether “the client” is someone else or yourself.

As the client, put aside knowledge of past events while you read out the Dialogue Box. Alternate being “the healer” with being “the client.” For that role, you wear a different hat. (If it helps you to literally change millinery during Step 10, go for it. Don your gay apparel of baseball cap, bike helmet, whatever.)

If you practice by helping a friend, you won’t need to remove any hats. But you may need to put aside an overwhelming sense of ignorance. Usually, when you begin Step 10, all that you will know about your client’s relationship to the cordee is:

• The
  type
  of relationship, e.g., spouse, boss, parent
  
• Whether the cordee is now living or dead.
  

Consequently, Courageous Explorer, your situation as healer could be likened to the proverbial glass with 50 percent water.

Will you react defensively, viewing that glass as half empty, thinking “Uh-oh, now I’m being tested”? Or will you trust that the glass is half full, offering a unique opportunity to validate your client?

Personally, I consider it a plus when I bring dazzling ignorance about that corded relationship to Step 10. After I read out cord items, many a client has gasped in astonishment, “How could you know?”

The answer, of course, is that cords of attachment are real. Yes, they contain real information that repeats 24/7. Yes, a complete stranger can describe it when that stranger has skills.

Furthermore, when a cord’s contents have been accurately described out of (seemingly) nowhere, this can really impress a client. If the cord items were encoded as energy, maybe it really is possible that they have just been removed permanently.

Go ahead. Convince your client by telling the truth.

Validate the Truth

Whatever ugly pattern dominated that cord, this never was who your client really was, deep down, as a person. To some extent, you have clarified that by doing the Before Picture. Another major step of progress was cutting the cord itself.

Now, at Step 10, you will remove the final layer of illusion, a “sense of cord” mistaken for “sense of self.”

If you are validating the truth for yourself, pretend that you are dealing with a client. This will increase your objectivity. Alternate speaking as “the healer” and responding as “the client.”

Help your client, whoever that is, by reviewing cord items at Step 10.

TECHNIQUE: Review Cord Items

Back in Step 9 to Cut Cords of Attachment, you wrote down cord items, right? Now take it further.

1. Read out the sequence of cord items in the Dialogue Box.

2. Stop only if a cord item literally doesn’t make sense to your client. (If this happens, your client will let you know. No need to pause awaiting problems. This tends to be very rare.)

3. Conclude by emphasizing anything that you find especially important.

4. Immediately move on to discussing....

Logical Consequences from Cord Cutting

Promises? No. Predictions? No. Logical consequences are simply common sense.

If the sequence of cord items went Theme A, Theme B, Theme C, then what will happen as a result of removing these ongoing subconscious limitations? It is reasonable to expect certain improvements in your client’s life:

• Less of Theme A.
  
• Unlikely to have so much of Theme B.
  
• There might even be less of Theme C.
  

That’s why I call results from cord cutting
“Logical consequences.”
Start by discussing logical consequences about to the client’s relationship with the cordee. (If applicable.)

Do that during Step 10 to Cut Cords of Attachment, right after reading out the sequence of cord items.

Will there always be logical consequences related to the cordee? Of course not.

Sometimes the cordee will be dead. Or the client won’t be speaking to the cordee any longer. Then boldly leap forward to Step 11, which involves discussing logical consequences for your client’s life in general.

Deepening Understanding of Rosetree Energy Spirituality

Once a cord of attachment is cut, its toxic energy will never replay again. Why bother to do Step 10? Why would there be benefit to discussing cord items, especially if they used to be painful? Now they are gone.

The answer can be summed up in three words: Rosetree Energy Spirituality. This is a completely different process from other forms of inner healing.

By now you have had enough experience to explore this in greater depth than we did previously. Let’s compare Rosetree Energy Spirituality to practices for psychological healing.

Most inner healing today, mainstream or not, is psychological in nature. Sometimes this is obvious, as when you:

• Work with a trained psychotherapist or counselor
  
• Study a self-help book
  
• Go through a 12-step program like Alcoholics Anonymous
  
• Participate in a support group
  
• Read a self-improvement article in a magazine or online
  

What is the common denominator? Psychological healing helps a person to understand things differently. Clearer understanding, or a good reframe, can bring great relief to the conscious mind. Emotions may feel more settled. Behavior can change.

With potential benefits like these, no wonder that psychological healing is the most common model for inner healing in America today. Participants in these approaches don’t generally recognize how often so-called “spiritual” approaches are really based on a psychological model.

Both spiritual healing and psychological healing are valuable. Both are way different.

From now on, you might find it interesting to investigate beneath the name, the claim, and (sometimes) the practitioner’s fame.

What really causes healing with one skill set? Beginners mush together any sort of inner healing. By now, Courageous Explorer, you are way too sophisticated for that.

For instance, psychic readings and mediumship can be extremely helpful. After the sudden death of a friend or the lingering death of a relative, what professional service can bring more comfort than this?

Many highly skilled practitioners are available today to create a kind of conference call, connecting the departed spirit and the client. Sometimes called
mediumship,
other times called
channeling,
both skill sets might be considered “Spiritual healing.” But are they?

Skilled communication with beings from the Other Side can bring consolation and emotional healing to the conscious mind. But depth healing? Ironically, no. A reading is not a healing.

When a gifted psychic supplies information, that soothes the conscious mind and heart. However, this brings negligible long-term healing to a person’s subconscious mind. STUFF continues to limit the client’s experience.

Channels to the spirit world often serve as caring counselors. Such work fits into the model of psychological healing, not spiritual healing.

In general, don’t assume that a conversation about religion, angels, or spiritual growth necessarily involves spiritual healing. It’s a matter of process, not content.

The Process of Psychological Healing

Usually the following description will apply to the process of healing.

Psychological healing is hard work. As a client, you may do this work with skilled help, in a group or one-on-one with a trained practitioner.

If you have a talent for this type of healing, you may make significant progress on your own.

Whoever helps you, ultimately you must rely upon your own mind to figure out:

• How do you define the problem?
  
• Which are the deepest or hidden parts of that problem?
  
• What caused the problem?
  
• Once you understand the problem, how will you use your insights?
  

Insights unfold at their own pace, days or years. One thing is certain. Unearthing these insights takes courage.

Serious problems and disturbing memories are often repressed. For good reason. It can be hard to consciously face painful memories, hidden patterns, bad behavior from good people (including oneself).

Thus, fear and pain are involved in psychological healing. A client needs to gain new intellectual understanding, at some level, about emotions, behavior, interpreting the past, etc.

As if all this weren’t challenging enough, rigorous psychological healing demands that the client will consciously work to change patterns of behavior, one tough choice at a time. Monitoring yourself may cause you to become a detached observer of your own life.

Spontaneity, innocence, and naturalness may be sacrificed. Certainly your patience and strength will be tested.

Are the results worth it? Absolutely! Sometimes psychological healing is the only way to produce results.

Sometimes, however, results are limited. Sometimes results may be lacking entirely. In the words of one burned-out therapist who became my student of Rosetree Energy Spirituality, “Most of the patients who come see me don’t really want to get well. They just want to satisfy themselves that they are doing
something.”

Surely you know at least one person who has been in therapy for years, producing no noticeable results at all. The best that can be said is that this patient has gained a meaningful hobby.

It may still feel like work. Actually, one easy way to recognize psychological healing is when a client says, “I’m working on my issues.”

Some of my most appreciative students have been practicing psychologists who want to add spiritual healing to their skills. Fortunately, there is no law against supplementing psychological healing with any form of spiritual healing. These approaches can work synergistically, bringing the client great benefit.

For professional work, it is important, of course, to receive professional-level training. This lies beyond the scope of this how-to manual for cord cutting. My Mentoring Program in Rosetree Energy Spirituality is especially appreciated by those whose work helping others has begun with a background in psychotherapy. It isn’t enough to gain professional skills as a therapist, then toss away any concerns for rigor and add some cord cutting.

The Process of Spiritual Healing

Spiritual healing permanently moves out STUFF from the aura and subconscious mind. Way more than an energy clearing, the client wakes up from inside. For every bit of STUFF that moves out for good, the client needs to put-in what resonates with the current level of soul development.

Many skill sets can lead to this result, not just cord cutting. It’s important to understand this common factor, though. Spiritual healing, as a process, is entirely different from psychological healing.

Spiritual healing doesn’t require that the client work hard. Not work much at all, apart from deciding to get well. Beyond that, the client only needs enough luck (or consumer smarts) to locate a practitioner with professional training to facilitate spiritual healing.

What happens when you facilitate spiritual healing for yourself and clients who are family members or friends?

You have already learned how to connect with Divine help, which does the heavy lifting. The spiritual healer’s job is to set up conditions where healing will happen (such as creating that Energy Sandwich you learned about earlier). Then the rest of a spiritual healer’s skill set brings about results.

A fully trained practitioner of Rosetree Energy Spirituality can evaluate which skill set is most relevant to the client’s intention, then facilitate permanent change to the client’s aura.

Cutting a cord of attachment definitely counts as changing an aura. It is a fine adjunct to other forms of spiritual healing, including angelic healing, soul retrieval and Shamanic work.

Again, it is vital to develop fully professional skills in this field—definitely attainable, yet beyond the scope of this book—before hanging out a shingle as a practitioner of Rosetree Energy Spirituality.

How about the role of understanding? Consider it a
by-product
of spiritual healing, not the cause (as with psychological healing). Although included, understanding need not be time-consuming. “Aha!” goes the client. “I knew that.”

Understanding can come easier
after
toxic patterns in an aura have been physically removed, exactly what we do in Steps 10 and 11 to Cut Cords of Attachment.