Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bed (16 page)

Keep these things in mind when setting anchors. The more heightened or aroused she is in respect to the desired state of mind, the more effective the anchor will be, and the stronger that state will be when called upon at a later time. The more original the anchor you chose the stronger the desired state of mind will be. If you learn to use them effectively anchors can be a very powerful tool in pick up, but also with everyday life.

The Sexual Touch: Bedroom Anchors

If you have been practicing our advice over the last twelve and a half chapters it is only a matter of time before our techniques lead you into the bedroom. The one thing that will separate a great man, from any other man, is what he can do in bed. It doesn’t matter if you’re a smooth talker, have six pack abs, or loads of money to throw around. If you can’t lay the pipe, she is not coming around for a second go around. That’s fine if you’re into one night stands, but word will eventually spread, and wouldn’t you rather be known as a sex god, then a sex dud.

Earlier in the chapter we talked about the application of anchors. Now we’re going to focus on dropping sexual anchors. As we already know we can intentionally drop anchors at the height of stimulation, through any of the five senses. By using this in the bedroom, we can make a woman feel things no man will ever be able to top.

The secret to great sex is multiple orgasms. No, not by having a marathon session and having her cum two or three times in a night, I’m talking about multiple orgasms all at once. Impossible? It's not really as hard as you think, all it takes is carefully dropped anchors whenever she begins to orgasm.

The first anchor we can drop is the touch anchor. You need to find a place on her body that is easy to get to, yet won’t be touched in everyday situations. I prefer the right trapezoid muscle, between her shoulder and neck. It is easy enough to grab in any position, yet rarely touched any other time, except maybe a back rub, which wouldn't be all that bad in itself. As you bring her to a climax, reach out and give her a short 1 to 2 second squeeze. She is so busy enjoying her orgasm that she won’t notice you squeezing her. Hell she probably likes it rough anyway. Now the deed is done, and subconsciously she has associated the squeezing of her right trap, with an orgasm. Do this every time you make her cum to strengthen the connection of the anchor.

The second anchor we can drop is through sound. You know the safety word everyone jokes about with a dominatrix; well it’s the same principle here. As she is cuming whisper in her ear, or shout out loud, a word or phrase that you will only use during sex, and at the peak of her orgasm. What you say really doesn’t matter, though I know it will feel strange to shout out uncommon words. To get around that come up with something like a naughty nickname that was made only for the bedroom. This does two things for you; one she will have already associated that name with sex, and two it will make you more comfortable using that name. A lot of women like fantasy and want to feel sexy. Give her one of your favorite stripper names and she will happily play the role.

The third anchor you can set is through sight. At any point during your sexual encounter you can make any number of different faces. I’m not one to practice in front of a mirror my special “O Face,” which is only brought out during her orgasm, but you can use the idea. Practice the look on some friends first, because the wrong “O Face” can leave bad memories. Instead, I keep to the eyes. I make sure that as she is cuming I look directly into her eyes. Most times a woman won’t have her eyes open during the entire orgasm, but all she has to do is catch a glimpse of you staring deep into them, and this anchor is set.

Now you have set three separate and distinct anchors. Use them at every opportunity. We’ll do the math. Every time you have sex with her she will be experiencing the orgasm she would reach on her own, the orgasm from the squeezing of her trap, the orgasm from saying her stripper nickname, and her orgasm from looking into your eyes. Four orgasms simultaneously, or one super orgasm! The more you use the anchors, the stronger the connection of each anchor and the feeling of the orgasm gets stronger and stronger. Really we are dealing with four orgasms multiplied by the strength of each anchor which can be a hundred times more powerful than one orgasm alone. You will have ruined her for all other men.

Anchors are helpful when it is taking too long for her to reach an orgasm. By using the anchors you help speed up the process. If you’re feeling horny, dropping any one of the three will get her in the mood. Don’t be surprised if she starts ripping your clothes off to get at you. A perfect example would be to start giving her a back massage, squeeze her trap, and whisper in her ear, “Ecstasy you do me nasty!” Count the seconds before her panties are off and she is tearing at your pants. If you really want a good time, drop an anchor in public and watch her panties get wet.

10 Tips

1-First Dates

The thing about first dates is that you are still in the initial stage where building sexual chemistry is key. That being said, you need to do something where you can talk and get to know each other, but at the same time be flirtatious and have fun. A lot of times people will do dinner and a movie. I don’t know why anyone would do that. Sure its normal, it’s safe and it’s easy, but come on, be creative you dumb shit. We already know when approaching a woman you need to be original. You need to stand out in her mind. You need to be different than the other ten guys that have hit on her. So why should you take her on a first date that she has been on several times before. No one in there right mind should ever chose to do dinner and a movie as a first date. There is nothing wrong with dinner and a movie, if you’re past the initial stage of building sexual chemistry. If you already know it’s in the bag and she will be sleeping over, then yes, by all means take her where ever you please, but not on a first date.

Chuck E. Cheese's or Dave and Busters

Do your research and make sure that they serve alcohol, some Chuck E.’s don't. You may be laughing but this is an excellent choice. Unless your particular target has dated me, there is a very good chance she has never been to Chuck E. Cheese's on a date. It is a place where you can let go, and have a great time. I say one that serves alcohol because you should leave yourself that option. A beer, or ten, will allow her to take the edge off, and the same goes for you. It reminds her of her childhood and lets her act in a playful manner. When she’s feeling playful she will be touching you, creating that chemistry. Add a little competition with skee-ball or some hoops and her hands will be all over you.

Cooking Class or Seminar

I’m not sure what they are called, but something like the one in the movie Hitch. Again, you can let loose and have a good time. It is a place where there are no restrictions on conversation. You don't have to worry about entertaining her or planning anything. The activities of the evening are planned for you. All you have to do is provide good flirtatious conversation. You get to eat, and more importantly you get to feed her.

Fair or Carnival

If you live in a small town this is great. It may sound lame but if she is from an area that has these things, then she grew up doing this and will like it. Just like the other options, it’s a place you can let go and have fun. There are many different things you can do, go on rides, play games, get your pictures taken. It’s a great time for the both of you

Museum or Art Gallery

If you know that one of her interests is art or literature, take her to a museum or art gallery. You can spend hours at a place like this. She will love it. You may not know shit about art, and don't pretend you do, but that’s a plus. It will allow her to run her mouth about it for hours, teaching and telling you things you never cared to learn. The main thing is she will enjoy it. Plus it doesn't cost much and you have a lot of time to build chemistry.

The Zoo

The zoo is awesome. You get to act like kids. Again, there are no restrictions. I'll bet the last ten guys she dated didn't take her to the zoo. Good conversation, ice cream, cotton candy, and lions. You can't go wrong with big ass cats.

Park or Beach

You will need to do a little planning, but this can potentially be a really cheap and fun date. If you go to the park take her an hour before sunset. Take something like a football or Frisbee. You may have a great time just walking around and talking but if you need an activity you will have a ball to toss around. Bring a picnic for dinner at sunset. If you go to the beach, it’s the same idea; walk, talk, throw a ball around. When it starts to get dark build a fire. Bring hot dogs or some variation, and marshmallows. She may tell you that she won’t eat a hotdog, but if I can't persuade her to, "Give in just this one time, for me," then she isn't the kind of girl I want to be with anyway; I've never not been able to get a girl to eat a hotdog. After you eat, get close to her look at the stars, ocean, lake, whatever, and you possibly have a chance to get physical.

2nd and 3rd Dates

After the first date, you should know the target pretty well and if you have not broken the touch barrier either by holding hands, a hug, or a kiss, now is when you want to start thinking about it. These dates will allow you those opportunities to get close, and make that contact you need.

River Walk, Park, or Flower Garden

Just like with a first date these places are great for second and third dates. It doesn't cost money. You can walk around and build sexual chemistry, and possibly get intimate. Walking around is a great way to hold her hand. It may sound simple and second grade but it is the first step of becoming intimate. If you are at the park, try and get her to take roller blades or something crazy like that. You don't want to do this on a first date, but on early subsequent dates it is good. By doing this you are; having fun and standing out from the other guys she has dated, showing her you can take a risk by doing something like this, being original and creative. A little sweat is good because of the effect of pheromones and physical activity physiologically spawns sexual feeling, meaning it will help with getting to the intimate zone. However don't go all out and get all nasty and shit. If you do this in the afternoon you can pack a picnic dinner and relax afterwards.

Cook Her Dinner

I like to cook dinner for a woman around the third or fourth date. If a girl can make it to a third of fourth date with me, that means I like her. This is always a great date. Take her grocery shopping with you, but only buy things specifically for that night. Go home, and cook. Make sure she is in the kitchen with you while you are preparing the dinner. Have a glass or two of wine while preparing, but make sure you have enough for a few glasses with dinner and afterward. If that means two bottles of wine, make sure you have two. I keep a bottle of wine at the house all the time for this reason. When shopping buying two bottles of wine may give her the wrong impression, so plan ahead. Cook something that takes a little time and that you have made at least one other time. If you are unsure of the recipe, practice and let a buddy or your roommate judge. Watching you prepare dinner will turn her on. After dinner you should be primed for any type of intimacy you want. I will include a few recipes down below.

Pizza and Mini Golf

This is a good option for any date, first dates included. It’s the same concept as the rest. You have a fun activity there for you. Doing activities she did as a kid will be fun for her. When she is having fun you are building chemistry. Plus when you do activities like this you appear a little vulnerable, almost like you are letting down your guard. She will take notice of this and it will help her to let down her guard.

2-Creative Places to Meet Women

Single women are everywhere. From the grocery store, to the mall. From the coffee stand you go to every morning, to the gym. Just walking down the street, or running your dog in the park. You never know where you might find the next girl you hit on. Based on things you like to do and your interests, here are some places you might go to find one:

Cooking Classes

It can be any class for that matter but cooking class is a good one. You will probably be one of the only guys there. You’re a guy so you should love to eat. It’s much cheaper if you can cook something for yourself that tastes good, versus not being able to cook and eating out all the time. Save your money for all the dates you will be going on. It is a huge plus if you can cook something for a woman. Plus single women are here.

Art Galleries and Museums

I have no interest for these types of places what so ever but there are single women here. If this is your type of thing you can go by yourself and have a good time. Single women do the same thing. There will be no pressure on you, and you already have a conversation starter because you can talk about the art or shit in the museum.

City Parks

If you have a dog you should walk it at the park or popular social venue every minute you are not out with a girl. When you’re at the park what do you see? I see a cute girl reading a book, a girl with big boobs jogging by, two cute girls walking a dog, an ugly girl running by. It is the Christmas tree farm of women. They are not all good looking and some are taken, but eventually I will find one.