How to Make Her LET GO & GIVE IN: The No-Bullshit Guide to Great Sex (16 page)

Dirty Talk

She’s all fired up, so it’s now time to go all the way, but watch out, dirty talk can be quite tricky. It’s more than randomly blurting out all of your naughty thoughts. If done right, it will make her pussy drip like never before. If done wrong she will feel offended, ashamed or even sad.

To avoid these problems you will first learn how to make
dirty talk
feel more comfortable for yourself and once feeling at ease, you can apply some of the next techniques.

Ease into It

Saying something like: “
Ooh baby, your pussy feels so good wrapped around my dick,
" while fucking her the first time, might seem a bit too much for you at this time. When exposing your naughty side, you might feel a sense of embarrassment. Therefore, before going all dirty, give yourself the time to get used to it.

When she picks up on your insecurities, her level of arousal will drop, meaning her level of rational thinking becomes higher. In these moments she may experience negative feelings. Dirty talk is in no way something that should create negative feelings in either of you. So even though your words are dirty, your intent must remain positive.

Dirty talk is nothing to feel guilty about. Just think of it as a kind of role-play. You won't be expected to talk or act like this
all
the time. But during the heat of sex it's good to let go of your inhibitions because sex is about freedom of expression.

To avoid any negative feelings, you need to be able to control yourself. Your voice has to be deep and composed, which can be achieved by talking slower than usual. Think of yourself as a hypnotist, because in a way that is what you are actually doing.

Primal sounds

If you’re not comfortable with this way of talking, gradually build up your confidence. You can begin doing this by starting to be more vocal in the bedroom through the use of primal sounds. Moaning, grunting and screaming are all a part of this and are used by both men and women. These sounds are very natural when aroused and sometimes we do these things without thinking. A woman moaning in pleasure is something that turns on all men. The same goes for her; your moans and screams will make her hornier too.

Express your desires

Once you’re comfortable enough to first let out those primal sounds, start using easy and safe remarks. Express what you like about her or what you are going to do to her.

Your skin is so soft, I want to kiss you, You’re so sexy, etc.,
are all good examples. This way you can gradually get more comfortable with verbalizing your thoughts and also she gets used to hearing you talk during sex.

Techniques

Only when you feel comfortable enough to verbalize your thoughts, should you start using some of the following techniques. You do not need to use them all at the same time. Use the ones that get you and her more turned on.

Name-calling

While flirting you use cutesy names, but during dirty talk you can resort to dirty name calling. An easy example of this is
bad girl
. Although you can take it a step further and use names such as
dirty whore
or
nasty slut.
While you may not like using names like slut or whore because you respect your girl so much, remember that what happens inside and outside of the bedroom are two very different things.

When she’s lying in that bed while being fucked by you, she’s no longer thinking with her rational mind. She only feels her primal emotions and
you
must stop using your rational mind too. So forget about treating her right, respecting her and playing it nice. Instead, simply give in to your primal desires and call her a
fucking nasty little whore
while fucking her hard. You know you want to and you know it’s going to feel freaking hot. Don’t worry, she will not feel hurt or offended.

Okay, so sometimes you hear a woman saying they are not comfortable with such name calling in bed. Many women are still self-conscious that way. It's not so much as being repressed or uptight; it's just not something they're used to or comfortable with.

If your woman is indeed not used to it, start out with less offensive words, such as
dirty girl, nasty little thing, sexy girl, bad bunny or naughty girl
. Start out tame and over time let her understand that you don't respect her less when you call her
fuck doll, nasty cunt,
or
fucking whore
.

Own her

Owning her means saying that she’s all yours. This technique helps you in two ways: she will become much more aroused, but will also feel you care about her, all because you are displaying a great level of dominance. When she feels owned, the only thing she can do is surrender to your desires.

Her emotions tell her she belongs to you. She desires to be yours physically, but also emotionally. When hearing she’s yours, she feels you care about her and not just want to have her body. So from now on, it’s:
my slut, my naughty girl, my little pussy.

Conversation

Include her in the dirty talk; make her take a more active stance. Start doing this by asking her simple
yes
or
no
questions when you know the answer is going to be yes. “
You want me to come inside
?
You want me to fuck you harder
?” All she needs to do is agree.

Not only for men but more so for women, talking dirty can create feelings of uncertainty. Sometimes she's not sure whether this kind of thing is for her. “
Can I really get away with saying such things?” s
he often wonders. Even though deep down she wants to and feels excited by it, she still may hold herself back.

By giving her simple questions, she in turn gets more accustomed to verbalizing what she wants and over time she will learn to actively participate in
dirty talk.

You can tell her to use a name for you:
daddy, master, mister.
Tell her what you want to hear. If you like her to say she loves your big dick, tell her: “
I know you like my big dick.”
Over time, she will pick up on your preferences and start using them to her own initiative.

“Ooh daddy, please cum inside me, I love your big dick inside my tight pussy, aah fuck me harder, put your big dick in my ass and make me a dirty whore…”

Command her

Tell her what to do. It displays your dominance very clearly. Lead her by giving her simple, easy to follow instructions. By taking control of things this way, she instinctively feels the need to submit and go along with your demands. A woman sometimes likes when the decisions are taken out of her hands and she's made to do things she'd normally not have the nerve to initiate.

“Suck my dick, put your boobs in my mouth. Yeah, touch yourself right there.”

Command her to come

When telling her to come, she will reach an orgasm a lot faster. It triggers her need to please you, therefore she will follow your instruction. She really will do her best to come for you. But only use this when she is already very aroused. Then it should take about a minute or so for her to reach her climax.

“You have to come now baby, don’t make me wait. I know you can do it, c’mon baby I want to feel your pussy come on my dick. Do it now, I know you want to please daddy.”

Sweet Talk

Your sweet words deepen her trust in you; they show her that you care and are committed to her, and make her feel good when you verbalize your loving feelings during sex.

Although, sweet talking is not as tricky as dirty talk, there are still some things you should know:

When to Use It

Woman have sex for different reasons. For example, when you’re having a one-night-stand with some girl you've met in a bar two hours beforehand, don’t go overboard by showing her your affection. It can really ruin the sexual tension of the moment when all she’s looking for is a nice fuck. On the other hand, if you feel this girl is feeling down for whatever reasons, sweet talk is a nice way to make her feel better.

When you’re at the beginning of a sexual relationship, don’t use it too much as it may come across as needy. It’s better to wait a while before expressing your loving feelings. Keep your distance the first couple of times you have sex       as it will make her crave for your emotional commitment. After this, share your emotions with her from time to time, and she will feel very aroused and emotionally satisfied by your commitment.

Techniques

Appearance

Every woman wants to feel beautiful. Stating your desires through a well-meant compliment makes her feel very desirable. The following examples may feel too corny for you, and indeed, in an everyday setting being corny is not appreciated by woman. Yet, when she’s
all in the moment
she will love it.

“You’re beautiful, I just love looking into those big blue eyes, your boobs feel so nice and sexy, your kisses taste so sweet.”

Commitment

Verbalizing your commitment in a straightforward way reaches out to her primal desires of trust in a very strong way, but don’t use it with casual sex partners. Save it for your special lady and only say it when you mean it. Saying these things to a girl you have no interest in when it comes to having a relationship, will damage her in the long term. Her emotions in the moment are being fulfilled, but will be crushed later on when she realises you were just playing a game.

“I want to stay with you forever, I want to make a baby with you, I love my princess so much.”

Dialogue

Make it a two-way story by asking her questions to get the conversation going:

Me:
“Do you love me?”

Her:
“Yes, sooo much.”

Me:
“I want to stay with you forever.”

Her:
“Me too.”

Me:
“Say you love me again, it makes my dick so hard.”

Her:
“I love you so much.”

Me:
“That’s what I want to hear.”

Asking her these things doesn’t sound very dominant and even places you in a dependent situation. But when she’s already in love it shows her how much you care and that you don’t want to lose her. She wants you to depend on her as much as she does on you.

This gives her some control and trust that you’re not going to walk away, and the result? She'll not only give herself freely, but will also give in to even her most hidden, deviant desires as you've triggered her trust
and
lust.

I love you

Using these three words when having sex, can add a lot of depth and arousal within her. If she’s in love, being reassured by your commitment is everything she’s ever dreamed of. But don’t make it too easy on her by saying that you love her all of the time. When saying these words too much, it instead becomes mundane.

If you use them sparsely, it will create great amounts of arousal. Therefore, use these words to reward her good behaviour as this keeps the heat in the relationship and the experience, because
you
remain a challenge for her. Then, she still feels excited upon hearing them. Here’s an example of how you can make her work for her the reward of your sweet words.

Me: “
Who’s my little princess?”
when fucking and looking into her eyes.

Her
: “I am daddy.”

Me: “
Who’s my sexy princess
?” while fucking her harder.

Her:
“I’m your sexy princess daddy, please cum inside.”

Me:
“OK princess, say what daddy likes to hear.”

Her:
“I love you daddy.”

Me:
“I know you love everything daddy does to you.”

Her:
“Yes daddy, I love everything you do to me.”
She keeps looking into my eyes.

Me: “
Daddy loves you so much.
” while placing my hands into hers and fucking her very hard.

A few seconds later she screams and orgasms because she's been given what she needs.

Combining Dirty and Sweet Talk

The best thing to do when having sex is to combine dirty and sweet talk together. It enhances her levels of trust and lust, and takes her on an emotional ride straight to orgasm. Depending on the situation, put greater emphasis on one of these two techniques.

It is not only important during the experience, but also for her general love life. If you only use dirty talk, she will feel like you really do see her as a ‘dirty whore’, which creates negative emotion and will also lead to her not feeling validated. So, don’t use it too much because she will resent you for it over time.

On the other hand, when using only sweet talk, she will get bored. She likes to be reassured that you still love
and
desire her, but when you keep reassuring her all of the time there is no more challenge or mystery. This will make her lose interest and over time you will be the only one ‘performing’. So bye-bye daily blow-jobs and kinky sex and with that an unfulfilling sex life.

Example

Me: “Fuck, I love you, dirty slut. You’re so beautiful, I want to stay with my princess forever.”

Then I fuck her harder while looking her deep in her eyes. “Aah, my pussy feels so fucking good; I’m going to fuck you so hard, I know you like it when daddy hurts your pussy."