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Whether or not you want to actually go so far as making their dreams come true in that respect, is another matter altogether. There is a safety issue. Condoms should always, ALWAYS be used (or oral dams in the case of female bi-sexual activity). Yes, even if the sex is only oral/genital. But, safe sex has been done to death on every street corner of America for so many years now, I won't insult you by hammering it at you here.

Like cross dressing, there are many people from both genders who secretly fantasize about being “forced” to engage in some form of same-sex activity. It may be only fantasy and they have no desire to actually do it, or it may be something they are too afraid to do on their own and they simply need to be told by someone in authority that they have to do it. That someone would be the dominant partner, of course.

Before you go running out to find someone willing to have sex with your partner, may I suggest that you find out for sure if that is something your partner actually wants or if it is simply a fantasy. Of course, over time, you might be able to work their fantasy up to the point where your partner would be willing (or actually desire) to have a sexual encounter with someone of their own gender, but don't just assume that they are willing to do it simply because they have fantasies about it.

Fantasy and reality are two very different things. You don't want to push your partner into doing something he or she is really not ready for. But there is no harm in perpetuating their fantasies while you have them tied to the bed and are teasing them to no end. Or by sending them a text message while they are in a business meeting telling them that you have found the perfect person for them to have bi-sexual relations with, and that person is waiting for them at home. If you enjoy using fantasies and humiliation, this is an excellent way to get them aroused, and very nervous, all afternoon.

That brings me to the other subject of this chapter...Cuckolding. You may or may not be familiar with the word. It is most generally used to describe the practice of a woman (usually married) freely and openly having sex with other men. The husband, in this case would be the cuckold. It is and old English term applied to a man whose wife is generally know to be unfaithful.

Yes, a woman can be cuckolded as well, though it is far less common. The practice of cuckolding has only recently come out of the closet, so to speak. Though cheating on one's spouse is more common these days, cuckolding is far less prevalent than the Internet would have you believe. In the practice of cuckolding, the partner is made aware of the other sexual encounters. For simplification I will only talk about the cuckolding of men.

There are more men today who fantasize about being cuckolded than in previous generations, but that does not mean that all these men actually want it to happen. In fact, cuckolding can be VERY dangerous. I am not talking about the obvious danger of spreading venereal diseases. I am talking about the emotional damage that cuckolding can cause to a relationship.

Frankly, I don't care how much your husband begs you to cuckold him, you would be much safer sticking to fantasy than moving into reality. The problem is, the Internet does a great job of playing on men's fantasies in this area. Yes, there are men who want it and are able to handle it in reality, but those men are very few and very far between. If your partner begins to suggest that you cuckold him in any way, I suggest taking the time to step out of your D/s roles and have a very serious discussion about it. Before you even think about doing it, remember this, it only takes once for your partner to realize he can't handle it and to be destroyed, emotionally, by it.
You can't undo what you have already done.

Now, all else aside, if you are truly convinced that this something that your husband wants you to do, test him first. Don't do it, just fake it. Here is my suggestion as to how you should approach cuckolding if your partner seems intent on having you cuckold him.

First of all, spend many, many, MANY, teasing sessions describing how are going to do this to him. That is, tell him fantasies of how are going to bring another man into your life and have sex with him. Your fantasies should include your excitement and joy at doing this to him. You should make it sound like you love the idea. Then have another serious chat with him and make sure that it is still something he simply must experience.

Set up a meeting with someone he really trusts. A woman (or women), not a another man. Maybe even his mother, or his best female friend, or several of your friends. Then tell him you are going to go out and have sex with another man and he is to stay home and imagine what the two of you (you and your lover) are doing. Go to his mothers house or out to a familiar, crowded place with the person (or persons) he trusts. Stay out for a couple of hours.

When you get home, tell him a fantasy about what you did with the “guy” with whom you supposedly went out. Make it good. Make it sound as if it really happened. See how he takes it. If it seems to upset him too much, tell him the truth. Have him call the person you were really with to verify your story. That should make him feel better. Knowing that you didn't really have sex with some other guy should put him more at ease. Explain to him that you were only conducting a test to see how he would react.

When you are all finished convincing him that you never actually had sex with someone else, never, EVER, actually cuckold him. Stick to fantasy.

On the other hand, if he buys your story and maybe even gets aroused as you are telling it, then you know that you may be able to actually cuckold him and it won't ruin your marriage. Still tell him the truth. But the next time you can actually meet some other guy. I would not have actual sex with this person first time out, no matter how well you know the guy. Again, you are testing him. Stay out only a couple of hours. When you get back, ask how he feels about what just happened. If he is still okay with it, next time you can actually have sex.

It is always better to be safe than sorry. If there is ever any doubt about your partner's ability to handle the cuckolding, stop! Don't do it any more.

Now that I have explained the dangers of cuckolding, allow me to describe the various ways in which cuckolding is done. First, there is the “going out” version which I just described above. That's where the woman goes out on dates and never includes her partner in any of the activities other than to tell him about the experience upon her return. Because her partner never actually witnesses the couple having sex, it can be easier (or harder) for her partner to accept. Some men begin to feel as if they are being left out and may begin to feel that the relationship is actually over. On the other hand, he may find it easy to accept this type of cuckolding but could not stand it if he were to be included. (Yes, cuckolding can get very complicated.)

The next step or variation (if you will) of cuckolding is what I call the “voyeur” method. In this type of cuckolding the woman will bring her sex partner home to have sex. The cuckold will hide in a closet or even in another room where he can hear or possibly see what is going on. Again, this may be easier or harder for him to handle. Some men can handle this type of cuckolding more easily because they feel their partner is safer since he is there to make sure nothing goes wrong. Others simply can't handle actually witnessing the act. Again, use caution and make sure your partner is truly ready before you try this type of cuckolding.

The third type of cuckolding is similar to the “voyeur” method. I call it the “observation” method. Like the “voyeur” method, the sex takes place in the home, but this time, the cuckold is in the same room. He is basically forced to watch his partner having sex with another man. Sometimes he maybe bound to a chair, or his hands may simply be cuffed behind him. Either way, he does not participate in the sexual activities, he only observes it.

Some men seem to enjoy this method because they are there to witness but are prevented from participating. For some men, being “forced” to watch can be very arousing. My guess is that it is like live-action porn to them. They can watch it, but they cannot participate in it.

The final method is what I call the “participatory” method. If you haven't already guessed, the cuckold is allowed (or “forced”) to participate in some or all of the sexual activity. This is often where bi-sexuality is “forced” upon them. They may be required to clean up the “mess” from both his partner's genitalia as well as the other man's genitalia. He may even be required to give oral sex to the other man or make himself available for anal sex by him. Of course, all of this was his fantasy all along. So before “forcing” anything on your partner, make sure it is something that he actually wants to be “forced” to do,

There. Now you have it. You not only know about cuckolding and how to do it, but I have made you aware of the inherent danger as well. If you simply must do it, do it right. Don't risk your relationship over what should remain a fantasy. Always discuss what happened, and how he feels about it before ever doing it, or anything else, again.

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Chapter 19: Games You Can Play

Before I tell you what wonderful games there are that you can play, I need to tell you why you might want to play them.

Men have a nasty habit. It's not their fault (it's genetic) and they can't help it. But... For the first few days (up to a week, or even longer) after they experience an ejaculation (an orgasm) they have very little sex drive (normally). There are exceptions, but I wanted to warn you about this. There are two things you need to do to minimize the effects that can be caused by this. The first is to set up some form of control over your guy's behavior, and two, you need to find a way of keeping him from having too many orgasms, too close together. So, before we talk about games you can play, let's talk about one form of control a friend of mine uses.

My friend put her husband in chastity so that he would not have any “unauthorized” ejaculations. Then she set up a thirty day schedule for his possible release. If he had no rule violations, he was allowed to have an orgasm every thirty days. But here's what happens in real life.

During the first two weeks after his release, he commits about 75% of his offenses. The rest of his offenses mostly occur during the third week. He has never had a perfect month and usually goes thirty-five to forty days. He is penalized one to three days depending on the seriousness of each offense. So, it would behoove you to set up a similar schedule.

Now that we have that out of the way, let's talk about games. I love games, just so you know. The main reason to play games is to give your charge some form of hope that he just might get to have an orgasm. Hope is good. It helps in maintaining control. Another reason to play games is to delay that orgasm, but make it his fault. Yes, with any game you can refuse to allow him to play if he has not been obedient. I like games that can be played on a daily basis. Then I will disallow playing the game if his behavior has not been up to snuff. I might delay it as long as five or six days if the offense warrants it.

Only you can decide how much delay is warranted, but it is good to make a list and give it to your partner so that he or she will have something to use as a guide. It is not good to make up punishments on the spot unless you have to. That being said, there will always be things that happen that are not on your list. So be ready for that and try to keep your delays within reason. Even the slightest of violations should earn him one day's delay. I don't recommend you delay his game playing for more than 5 days at a time for any one offense. It may cause him to lose interest in playing the game at all.

It's also good to remember that a ruined orgasm does NOT cause the above mentioned lose of sexual desire and that a stifled orgasm only causes a few days lose. This is good to know in case you need to modify your game to prevent too many full orgasms but still want your partner to have some sort of reward now and then.

Now to the games!

My favorite is the card game I outlined in my first novel, '
The Marriage Counselor - Volume 1
.' just on the off chance that you have not read that one (yet) I will make it first on my list.

The Draw Game:

All you need for this game is a regular deck of playing cards complete with Jokers. When you buy a new deck of playing cards, you normally get two Jokers, one is in color and the other is usually black and white (B&W). This is important, so if your Jokers do not look distinctively different, you need to mark one of them in some way so that you can tell them apart.

I give my husband the deck and tell him to shuffle the cards thoroughly. Then he gets to draw one card from anywhere in the deck (sight unseen, of course). Here is how it works. If he draws a numbered card (2-10) he has to wait that many days before he can play again. The card he drew is NOT put back into the deck.

If he draws a face card (Jack, Queen, or King) he is allowed a ruined orgasm. And can play again the next day. If he draws an Ace, he is allowed a stifled orgasm and can play again the next day.

If he draws the colored Joker he gets to have a full orgasm,
by my hand
, and he gets to play again the next day.

If, on the other hand, the Joker is the B&W one, he still gets a full orgasm, but he must masturbate any way that I want him to. (You can be creative here.)

So you can see, he only gets two full orgasms for an entire deck of cards. If you want the math, here it is: the total days it will take for him to work his way through the entire deck is 234. During that time he will get twelve ruined orgasms, four stifled orgasms and two full orgasms for a grand total of 18 orgasms.