It's Always Something (2 page)

Tennis is another joy of Gene’s life, so I took lessons in California for thirty-five dollars an hour twice a week. I bought a Prince racket and some perky Chris Evert-type outfits, and learned to hit the ball. Gene was infinitely patient with me, hitting balls to me while I klutzed all over the court. I wanted to be
M-A-R-R-I-E-D
to Gene, but it sure wasn’t my tennis game that got him.

Being interested in sports was one of the things Gene wanted in a woman. In the years I lived alone, I loved having sports on television in the background because it made me feel that there were men in the house, but I never sat down and watched it. It was a crazy thing to do, but it just felt safe. With Gene, I became a basketball fan—LA Lakers of course, when it was Kareem and Magic, Norm Nixon and Jamaal Wilkes. It looked like ballet to me—stunning and rhythmic. I got hooked not only on watching but on reading about it. Sportswriting is fascinating—descriptions of the opponents and the details of an event in which someone is going to win and someone is going to lose. Life is much longer and more complicated, and the outcomes are less clear-cut.

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Not long after our trip to France, we broke up. Gene said he was suffocating, that my needs were smothering him. I was heartsick and back in Connecticut, filled with love and with nowhere to put it. I decided to get a dog. I love dogs, but “Saturday Night Live” and New York City and my career weren’t conducive to having pets. My cousins in Detroit used to raise and show Yorkshire terriers so I made a desperate call to them to help me find a dog that was female and already housebroken and small enough that I could travel with her. They found
Sparkle.
Glorious Sparkle with her coal-dark eyes and gray-blond hair, and her nose like a tiny black button.

On Thanksgiving weekend 1982, Sparkle was flown into New York from Michigan, just like me. A young girl who was coming back to college and was a friend of my cousins brought her to New York, right to the hotel where Gene and I were staying to see if we could work out our differences. So Gene and I met Sparkle for the first time together. Then Gene went back to his home in California and I went to my house in Connecticut with Sparkle, where I became one of those people who show you endless pictures of their dog, and all the pictures look alike. I think dogs are the most amazing creatures; they give unconditional love. For me they are the role model for being alive.

Sparkle is a perfect life-form, so little, only five pounds. I designed her haircut ’cause I don’t like the way Yorkies look ordinarily, so I have her clipped very short on her body and her head is cut square like a little bear with Dumbo ears. I put various bows and barrettes in her hair to keep it out of her eyes, and she always seems pleased with the process.

I have taken her on television with me when I have been afraid to go alone . . . she’s been on the David Letterman show where she did a Stupid Pet Trick. She took a bow on command. She did it on camera perfectly right the first time and they did an instant replay of it. Sparkle goes through things with me. She loves me no matter what I do. She has such a huge personality that if she is not in the house—like if Gene takes her to work with him and I am home—you can feel that she is not there. Her daily job is guarding me and making sure she gets her two meals a day. I once saw her chase two deer that were nibbling the tops off tulips in my backyard in Connecticut. She bounded across the lawn with her paws barely touching the ground. The deer took off into the woods, but one stopped suddenly and looked back with disdain at this tiny ferocious animal with pink barrettes in its hair.

Gene and I were split up for about five weeks and when we got back together it was under new conditions because there was Sparkle—it wasn’t just me, it was me and Sparkle.

In June of 1983 we went back to the south of France and took Sparkle with us. The French people love dogs. They went crazy for ours. She opened doors; she opened their faces and their personalities. Sparkle was allowed to go everywhere with us. She ate in the restaurants sitting on her own chair. She got a real chance to go out and see other people, and she was treated like a queen. I called it the dog’s holiday.

In the fall of 1983, Gene and I made our second movie together,
The Woman in Red.
It was a remake of a French film. There really wasn’t a part in it for me, but I begged and whined and slept with the writer and the director and the star (all of whom were Gene), and I got a cameo part that turned out to be my first successful movie role. We shot in San Francisco and Los Angeles. At the same time I did promotion for a comedy book I wrote with Alan Zweibel—
Roseanne Roseannadanna’s “Hey, Get Back to Work!” Book.
I still had plenty of time to get dinner on the table and involve Gene in endless conversations about commitment and meaningful relationships and child-rearing and meaningful relationships and commitment. He was still fighting for independence and I was all for smothering suffocation.

With the movie in the can, Gene and Sparkle and I were on our way for our holiday in France again. We were taking an early morning flight from Los Angeles to New York so we could visit Gene’s sister and brother-in-law on the way. Because we had the dog, they put us in a private passenger lounge to wait for the flight. I put Sparkle down on the floor and she was running around being cute when I saw her sniffing something in a corner. When I knelt down, there were these little turquoise pellets spilling out of a box on the floor. The box clearly said, “
RAT POISON
.” There was a woman from the travel agency with us. I gasped—I didn’t know if Sparkle had eaten a pellet or not. Gene said, “She wouldn’t eat that,” but I was frightened. What if she had eaten one? I wanted to stick my finger down the dog’s throat.

We called the poison center and gave them the number on the box and the name of the poison. ‘“Get her to a vet immediately,” said the voice on the other end. I just picked up Sparkle, said to Gene, “I am going to the vet, I will meet you in New York later,” kissed him goodbye and ran out. My luggage was already on the plane, which was scheduled to leave in twenty minutes. The woman from the travel agency went with me. We flagged down a limo that was just dropping somebody off. I was panicked now—the hysterical mother—screaming, “Get us to the nearest vet!” I knew I had seen some on the way to the airport. We found Airport Cities Animal Hospital in Ingle-wood, and rushed the dog in. The vet was just getting to work and putting on his coat when I ran in yelling, “My dog ate rat poison!” I was white as a ghost and Sparkle was just wagging her tail—la-la-la. He was a wonderful vet; we gave him the information, he called the poison center and they told him what to do. He gave Sparkle an injection that caused her to throw up a turquoise pellet—she
had
eaten one. This pellet contained rat poison that kills the rat by causing its blood not to coagulate. The rat bleeds to death eventually but it gets very thirsty first. That way it won’t die in the airport where people are, but will go away to find water and die a slow, horrible death away from the building. If I hadn’t spotted that box, Sparkle would have gradually gotten ill and we wouldn’t have known why.

In the meantime, Gene’s plane went out on the runway, had mechanical difficulty and had to come back. Because I was with the travel agent, she had called the agency and told them where we were. They let Gene get off the plane to come and call me so I was able to tell him that Sparkle did eat the poison and he knew I had done the right thing. He went on to New York where his sister and brother-in-law were waiting, and I stayed the whole day in the vet’s office holding Sparkle. The injection made her anxious and she trembled all day. She had to go on a program of vitamin K injections for two weeks, which kept the blood coagulating in case any pellet had dissolved and gone into her system. The vet let me be the nurse and take her home. I still had to take her back every day for the injections, so when Gene got to New York I spoke to him and said:

“You go on to France. You need the holiday and there is nothing you can do here. I’ll take care of Sparkle now and when you get back everything will be fine.”

Gene did go, but he went thinking,
Well, she has definitely grown up, she has matured.
I wouldn’t let him out of my sight before then, and this was me acting in a very responsible way.

When Gene came back from France, he gave me an engagement ring. Our cousin Buddy now refers to it as the time when Sparkle tried to commit suicide because Gene wasn’t marrying Gilda. He believes that Sparkle’s “suicide attempt” was what turned Gene around and made him actually ask me to get married. So you can see why I owed a great deal to that dog.

After a successful summer release in the U.S.,
The Woman in Red
opened in Europe in the fall of 1984. The movie company sent Gene and me on a publicity tour in Europe. (Of course Sparkle came too.) And between the Deauville Film Festival and interviews in Rome, we stopped in the south of France and got married.

We had to climb up the cobblestoned streets of the thirteenth-century village to get to the mayor’s office. The whole ceremony was in French and I didn’t understand a word. I would wait till there was a pause and then say,
“Oui”
(I do). Then, the mayor would have to say,
“Attendez! Attendez!”
(Wait! Wait!), so I’d wait for the next pause. For a comedienne, my timing was really off. I was ahead of the whole thing. It was raining that day and someone said that meant good luck, but I have a feeling people say things like that so you won’t feel so bad wearing a raincoat over your wedding gown.

I created my own bridal outfit. I wore a straw hat with my hair piled on top of my head under it, and stuck flowers in the ribbon on the black brim. I wore culottes—long gray culottes and black tights and black ballet shoes. I wore gray because this was my second marriage, but on top I wore a white silk blouse with lace on the collar and sleeves. Gene wore a dark blue sport jacket and beige pants. He bought a new striped wedding tie in the village and carried an umbrella. Sparkle was there. I called her “the bridesdog” and she wore a small straw hat too, with pink streamers. I held her in my arms with a traditional French wedding bouquet.

Our wedding party consisted of Gene’s sister and her husband and some friends of ours who own a Danish restaurant in the south of France and a Belgian couple who are our close friends from Los Angeles. The manager of the château where we were staying and her assistant were our witnesses because they were permanent residents of the town. There was one photographer there. He snapped a photo that was on the cover the next day of
Nice Matin,
the local newspaper. It was Gene and I under the umbrella holding the dog in the middle of the old village with the cobblestones all around us, and behind us there was a woman peeking around the corner, breast-feeding a baby, and a big black dog watching—just so naturally—to see what all the commotion was in about. That was on the cover of all the papers with a two-page article that I could never read because it was in French.

As Americans, you can’t just get married in France. There is a lot of legal rigmarole that has to be accomplished. For instance, our birth certificates and marriage documents and divorce papers all had to be translated into French and sent on to the mayor’s office. We also had to have specific blood tests taken by a doctor in New York who was officially approved by the French government.

We found his office in the basement of a building in the West Fifties. There was no receptionist and the doctor greeted us in his shirtsleeves. He filled in our application on an old portable Olivetti typewriter and asked for his payment in cash. Gene paid and the doctor put the money in his pocket. Either he didn’t recognize us or he wasn’t a fan, because he never indicated that this was more than routine or—at best—a bit of an annoyance.

I went into the examining room to have my blood taken first, probably because I wanted to get it over with fast. The equipment seemed to be from the 1920s. Everything looked too small and a bit rusty. The doctor said he needed a urine specimen, but instead of giving me a plastic cup, he told me to pee in this big porcelain dish and leave it on the bathroom floor like a dog’s bowl. Without speaking, he weighed me, and took my pulse and blood pressure. I sat nervously on the examining table with my one sleeve rolled up. He unwrapped a syringe and stuck the needle into a vein in my arm to get blood. No blood came up into the needle. For a minute I thought maybe there was no blood in me, but the doctor muttered something about the needle being defective and stuck me again—no blood. He yanked the needle out and walked back over to the glass jar with the rusty metal lid to get another syringe.

I screamed for Gene to come into the room. This was a nightmare. Gene came right in and I said: “Gene, why don’t you go first, there’s no blood coming out of me.” The doctor muttered again about a defective needle.

Gene said, “What are you scared of?”

I said, “Nothing—I’m not scared! You go ahead, you go first, I have to go for a walk.”

I was going to leave. I was not going to get married because I couldn’t handle this guy jabbing me with needles. I went out on the street and tried to call my psychiatrist from a phone booth, but the line was busy. I thought,
Should I go through with this? Should I let this doctor take my blood and maybe infect me with some horrible disease with his defective needle?
It had taken me three years to get Gene to marry me and now this sleazy little doctor was going to ruin it.

When I went back in, Gene and the doctor were chatting about France. With Gene, the blood had come right out. I made Gene stay in the room and hold my hand while I let the doctor stick me again. He got the blood this time. So we’d be able to get married after all. The next day, my arm turned black and blue all up and down the inside and it stayed that way for weeks.

After the mayor completed our wedding ceremony, we all rode in three cars to another small village and climbed the mountain to the restaurant of our Danish friends. They served smoked salmon hors d’oeuvres and opened bottles of champagne and everyone toasted our marriage. Later in the evening at the château dining room, we had a traditional French wedding dinner. Gene had hired two musicians to come and play for us so we could dance—a guitarist and a violinist. The violinist was actually a government official—the assistant to the mayor of Nice—but he loved playing at private parties. They followed us everywhere with music, accompanying our moods—it reminded me of a French comedy.