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Chapter Nineteen: Insight—Appreciate His Desire to Analyze and Counsel

1
. Based on a story in Jo Berry,
Beloved Unbeliever
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1981).

Chapter Twenty: Relationship—Appreciate His Desire for Shoulder-to-Shoulder Friendship

1
. See Deborah Tannen,
Gender and Discourse
(New York: Oxford University Press, 1994), 96.

Chapter Twenty-one: Sexuality—Appreciate His Desire for Sexual Intimacy

1
. See Charles C. Ryrie,
The Ryrie Study Bible
(Chicago: Moody, 1976), 944. The “wise teacher” who wrote Proverbs 5:19 is probably King Solomon, who is said to have spoken three thousand proverbs and more than one thousand songs (see 1 Kings 4:32). He is generally credited with writing many parts of the book of Proverbs, including chapters 1–9. Unfortunately, Solomon wound up with seven hundred wives and three hundred concubines, most of whom were idol-worshiping women from outside of Israel who turned his heart away from God (see 1 Kings 11:1–8). Solomon could not follow his own advice about sex, but that does not preclude the wisdom of what God inspired him to write.

Chapter Twenty-three: The Real Reason to Love and Respect

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. To say that we will be overwhelmed by our entrance into heaven is the epitome of understatement. Whatever you think ecstasy means, multiply that by a billion times infinity. For just a few passages on what it will be like to experience Paradise and be in heaven with God forever, see Romans 8:17, 30; 1 Corinthians 13:12; 2 Corinthians 12:4; Philippians 3:21; 2 Thessalonians 4:17; Hebrews 7:25; Hebrews 10:14; 1 John 3:2; Revelation 2:7; Revelation 21:4.

Chapter Twenty-four: The Truth Can Make You Free, Indeed

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. In this section, 1 Peter 2:13–3:7, Peter has a clear outline, which he sums up in 3:8. The outline is discovered by noticing the repetition of the phrase, place yourselves under authority (1 Peter 2:13; 2:18; 3:1). Notice another repetition when he addresses wives and husbands. He uses the phrase “in the same way” (1 Peter 3:1, 7). We might say the four main points of the outline are: citizens, slaves, wives, and husbands. Each of these groups is to submit. In Peter’s mind, the greatest evidence of submission is Love and Respect! “Live like free people. . . . Show proper respect to everyone. Love the community of believers. Have respect for God. Honor the king” (1 Peter 2:16–17 NIRV). In other words, a wife who is inwardly free submits by respecting her husband, which Peter clearly states (3:2). By implication, a husband who is inwardly free submits by loving his wife—that is, he lives with her in an understanding way and honors her as an equal.

2
. See Ryrie,
The Ryrie Study Bible
.

3
. Ibid., 1338.

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