Mind Calm (20 page)

State the problem that you want to heal your relationship with today.

Be here now by tuning in and noticing that this moment is happening.

Temporarily engage the story in your mind about the problem.

Notice the ‘special thought' you are resisting and where you feel it in your body.

Let the ‘special thought' and feeling be present within you with no resistance.

Play with ‘seeing it, not being it' during a Calm Sitting.

For example, you might be unhappy with the home you live in. You might think it's too small, too cluttered or have some other problem. If you see from this exercise that you are resisting the size, then you would want to notice what thoughts you are having about it. If
I cannot breathe in this tiny place
comes to mind for instance, then notice where you feel that thought in your body. Then go on to engage the ‘bring it on' mind-set in relation to these thoughts and emotions until you notice more mind calm.

Remember, it is not the size of home that is making it hard to breathe, but your resistance to the thoughts you are having about the size of your home. By ‘seeing it, not being it' you can be more content with where you are and not buy into the mind-made postponement that you can't be happy until you move. You can be happy, by moving from a mind-set of judgement and resistance to one of peace.

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LOVE

MORNING MIND CALM SITTING

OM LOVE (Heart Centre) Calm Thought only

(Recommended duration: 10–15 minutes or longer if you have the time.)

DAYTIME MIND CALM GAME

Loving Pink Light: Heal the part of you that is them

DAYTIME PEACE WITH MIND PROTOCOL

Get peace with your RELATIONSHIPS

EVENING MIND CALM SITTING

Use all 10 Calm Thoughts

(Recommended duration: 10–15 minutes or longer if you have the time.)

Calm Thought Meaning:
Consciousness is love. It is an all-embracing all-allowing state of being within you. Love can never leave you because it is the fragrance of your very being. Love is beyond all of the conditional thought judgements, and needs no mind-based justifications or reasoning. Love is your true nature and is always present to be savoured by being shared.

Calm Thought Purpose:
Mainstream media and modern-day schools of thought can give the impression that love is earned. You cannot love yourself or be loved by others until you live up to some criteria, suggesting that your personality, body, career, social life, etc., need to be a certain way for you and them to be deemed loveable. This isn't true. Conditional love like this is not love. Love is non-conditional and non-judgemental. It is therefore beyond the opinions of the mind and has no requirements or rules. Love is the natural by-product of letting go of the mind and returning to the essence of your being.

Calm Thought Focus:
Using OM LOVE with the focus point in your ‘Heart Centre' can help you to let go of believing that you need to do, prove or be better before you can be loveable, allowing you to express love to yourself, others and the world without being attached to getting anything in return.

This technique is ancient in origin and can be used to heal relationships. It is used to heal all pain and suffering
between the user and the subject by healing your inner resistance towards yourself and others. When using the Pink Loving Light game you are, in essence, healing the part of you that is them - which makes much more sense when you appreciate we are all ultimately one consciousness having multiple human experiences.

1. Close your eyes and engage GAAWO.
   
2. Get yourself in a loving space. Remember a time when you felt loved or experienced love.
   
3. In your mind's eye, picture pink loving light radiating from your heart, encompassing you in a pink sphere.
   
4. Stay within your pink light sphere. Remember a most loving memory of yourself (this could be recent or from your childhood) and project this aspect of you outside the pink light sphere. Cover this projection of yourself with the pink loving light, still radiating from your heart.
   
5. Then, starting with your immediate family - mother, father, siblings, partner, children - imagine them appearing individually in front of you, outside the pink light sphere. If possible, make it an image of them in a loving memory. In your mind's eye, picture yourself covering each of them with the pink light as if you were icing a cake. Cover them with light and then let them go and move on to the next person. If there is someone who you cannot remember as part of a loving memory, just picture him or her in front of you. If you cannot do this, visualize bringing them in to stand at a distance and/or facing away from you.
   
6. Next, do this with anyone with whom you still have an emotional charge or discomfort.
   
7. Allow for anyone else to show up (whether you know them or not), cover him or her with the pink loving light and let them go as well.
   

In the beginning, this process should take no more than 10 minutes a day, eventually getting down to five minutes. If you can't visualize the pink light, that's fine, as it is the intent that's important. Once someone is gone, assume that they are finished for the day. You will get a sense of when someone is ‘complete' and no longer requires the pink-light treatment. Some people will not show up for a while; others, who you didn't expect to see, will suddenly appear to receive their pink light.

This technique has been highly successful with people who have been raped, molested or abused. Runaway children have been known to reconnect with their family within weeks of starting to use it. Although most people using this technique find it easy to do, some can have difficulty with step 3. Be gentle on yourself and enjoy the results.

Use the Peace with Mind Protocol to heal your relationship with your relationships, including:

• Past partners
  
• Current partner
  
• Family
  
• Friends
  
• Colleagues
  
• Anyone you dislike
  

Aspects of your individual relationships you might also want to heal your relationship with include:

• Sex and intimacy
  
• Different opinions
  
• Common interests
  
• Tastes in food
  
• Conflicting habits
  
• Social preferences
  

Using the above list as your inspiration, consider what you currently perceive to be a problem relating to your relationships. Then use the Peace with Mind Protocol to get peace with the thoughts and emotions that you are having about a specific issue relating to relationships.

State the problem that you want to heal your relationship with today.

Be here now by tuning in and noticing that this moment is happening.

Temporarily engage the story in your mind about the problem.

Notice the ‘special thought' you are resisting and where you feel it in your body.

Let the ‘special thought' and feeling be present within you with no resistance.

Play with ‘seeing it, not being it' during a Calm Sitting.

For example, let's say you are resisting a relationship break-up. Every time you think about the person you feel sad that you are no longer together. First, you want to decide the thought that you are resisting most about the split, which could be,
Without them I'm nobody
- remember the mind tends to exaggerate! You would then notice where you feel that thought in your body when you think it. Then go on to let the thought and emotion be present within you with no resistance and a ‘bring it on' mind-set. Remember, you are not saying ‘bring it on' to the fact that you split up, but to the thought you are having about the split.

By getting peace with your thoughts about your relationships, you can be at peace with past, current and possible future relationships. Mind calm around relationships can also help you to live in a less attached way, and not be dependent on others to feel loved, and as a result, enjoy more unconditional love.

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TRUTH

MORNING MIND CALM SITTING

OM TRUTH (Throat) Calm Thought only

(Recommended duration: 10–15 minutes or longer if you have the time.)

DAYTIME MIND CALM GAME

Silence Speaks: Be aware of the silence allowing sound

DAYTIME PEACE WITH MIND PROTOCOL

Get peace with your CAREER

EVENING MIND CALM SITTING

Use all 10 Calm Thoughts

(Recommended duration: 10–15 minutes or longer if you have the time.)

Calm Thought meaning:
Truth is true whether you believe it is or not. Truth is absolute and eternal and exists beyond the confines of mind-made concepts. Truth can be known conceptually, but only ever awakens to its transformative healing powers through the direct living experience of an enlivened soul.

Calm Thought purpose:
If given a choice, most people would choose to know the truth rather than live a lie. Despite this, many live a life full of false truths because they think their mind-made beliefs are absolutely true, when in most cases they're not. One person can believe one thing while another person can believe the exact opposite. Both may appear correct, relatively speaking, but both can be living an illusion of relative rightness. Beliefs are only ever relatively true. Truth, on the other hand, is true for everyone and in all time and space, in the same way as you don't need to believe in gravity for your feet to remain on the ground. Or you don't need to believe in the moment for it to be present always. Truth does not need the mind for it to exist. It just is.

Calm Thought Focus:
Using OM Truth with your attention in your ‘Throat' can help you to tune in and reconnect with the living truth of any given situation. You can be real and honest with yourself or others, and burn up ignorance and self-deception to awaken to real reality.

Before I discovered context awareness I'd always thought there was only either ‘noisy' or ‘quiet', but, in reality, for there to be any sound there has to be silence at the same time. Sound odd? It did when I was first told this, but it's true if you can be attentive enough to hear the silence. Inner silence is something so familiar that it is easy to forget that it's present all the time. Children know it well, adults less so, because of being so distracted by the content of sounds. ?

Take a moment to consider this: if there were the context of noise, would you be able to hear anything? Or do you need silence for sound to exist? Even if you were at a rock concert and the music was so loud that you knew your ears were going to ting the following day, for you to hear the sound of the music there must be the constant existence of silence. Otherwise the context would be noise and you wouldn't be able to hear anything! The truth is that there is a constant underlying presence of silence that allows you to hear sounds, and that silence resides within you.

1. One of the easiest places to locate the silence is within your ears. Take your attention to any sound you can hear right now and gently begin to notice that there is an inner silence that enables you to hear it.
   
2. Focus less on what you can hear. Instead, turn your attention to the one within you that is listening.
   Gently be aware of the listener within to find the presence of now.
   
3. Another way of noticing silence is to locate your attention at the centre of your skull, then slowly move your attention outwards towards your ears.