Sex Secrets of an American Geisha

PY KIM CONANT

has published three books in Korean and has written a biweekly column for the
Korea Daily
in Southern California. She is the founder of club for Korean women married to American me. She lives in Los Angeles, California.

Sex Secrets of an American Geisha

Advance praise for

Sex Secrets of an American Geisha

“You may want to wear gloves as you read Sex Secrets of an American Geisha— it’s that HOT! The secrets of this 1st-class pleasure seekers’ guide for women will reveal the intimate details you can use to unleash your own hidden desires. It’ll take you and your Good Man on a trip to Paradise.”

— Larry James, www.CelebrateIntimacy.com Author of Red Hot Love Notes for Lovers

“Py Kim Conant provides a precious gift to readers—permission to embrace their femininity and open up to exquisite sensual possibilities. Sex Secrets of an American Geisha is a rare combination of self-growth, relationship, and sexual “how-to’s” that educate and enlighten. Most of all it offers hope.”

— Elayne Savage, Ph.D., Professional speaker, relationship

coach, and author of Breathing Room— Creating Space

to Be a Couple
and
Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of

Dealing with Rejection
(www.QueenofRejection.com)

“A fascinating read with a truly unique perspective.”

— Lisa Daily, syndicated columnist, media personality,
and author of Stop Getting Dumped!

More advance praise for
Sex Secrets of an American Geisha

“Conant shows us how East meets West in dating and relationships leading to marriage and really tells it like it is! This is an exciting new perspective on an age-old subject. A must read for every Motivated to Marry™ woman!

— Amy Schoen, life coach, speaker and author of Motivated to Marry™—Now There Is a Better
Method to Dating and Relationships! (www.motivatedtomarry.com)

“The wisdom of the Asian Geisha in terms of beauty, eroticism, and pleasing high-powered men is well-known around the world. In Sex Secrets of an American Geisha, author Py Kim Conant imparts some of that special sexual wisdom with a Western twist and a personable style. If you want to learn to be more feminine, read this book. Great section on female ejaculation, too!”

— Susan M. Block, Ph.D., author of The 10 Commandments
of Pleasure and producer of Dr. Suzy’s Squirt Salon:
Secrets of Female Ejaculation

“Sex Secrets of an American Geisha takes an intriguing and thought-provoking look at the goal of obtaining mutually loving and satisfying experiences within a committed, monogamous relationship. The author shares with us her system of actions and awareness that has so successfully contributed to her own sexual image of herself and deep appreciation of her “Good Man.”

Women who are hoping to find a “good” man will definitely welcome this new and refreshing approach to dating. Married women who desire a more erotic and sexual relationship with their spouse and have the desire to please their partner will find that this book is filled with advice and suggestions that can be playfully incorporated into their lives.”

— Debra Burrell, CSW, psychotherapist, New York

More advance praise for Sex Secrets of an American Geisha

“A superb book for recapturing the essence of femininity and illuminating how its secrets can be used for not only exquisite erotic play, but for achieving a higher state of intimacy and even enlightenment.”

— Deborah Sundahl, sex educator and author of
Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot

“A fun and fascinating read! Inspiring to any woman who has ever found herself dateless on a Saturday night, this sexy how-to-find-and-keep-a-man manual will rev up your mojo and give you the confidence you need to jump into the dating pool.”

— Jina Bacarr, author of The Blonde Geisha
and The Japanese Art of Sex

O R D E R I N G

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L I B R A R Y O F C O N G R E S S

C A T A L O G I N G I N P U B L I C AT I O N D A T A Conant, Py Kim.

Sex secrets of an American geisha : how to attract, satisfy and keep your

man / Py Kim Conant.

p. cm. — (Positively sexual)

ISBN-13: 978-0-89793-490-9

ISBN-10: 0-89793-490-3

1. Sex instruction for women.
2. Asian American women—Sexual behavior. I. Title.
HQ46.C68 2006
613.9’6082—dc22 2006020507

P R O J E C T C R E D I T S

Cover Design: Brian Dittmar Graphic Design

Book Production: Hunter House; Blair Cavagrotti

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Proofreader: Herman Leung

Indexer: Candace Hyatt

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Marketing Assistant: Liz Heck

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Administrator: Theresa Nelson

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Publisher: Kiran S. Rana

Printed and Bound by Bang Printing, Brainerd, Minnesota Manufactured in the United States of America

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Contents
A Few Words Before We Get Started . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
xii
Introduction: Your Journey to Becoming an American
Geisha Begins . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1
Why I Wrote This Book The Beginnings of an Idea Why You Should Read and Use This Book Politically Correct? Not! “Too Submissive”? Go on a Fun and Exciting—Even Outrageous—Journey
PART ONE: FIRST STEPS IN BECOMING AN AMERICAN GEISHA
11
Chapter 1: Develop Your Geisha Consciousness . . . . . . . . . . . .
12
What Is Geisha Consciousness? Men Are Inspired by Your Femininity, Your “Yin” “Feminine Woman” Fever Femininity Defined A Quick but Important Caution Embrace Your Geisha Consciousness No Manipulation: Tell Your Good Man What You Are Doing Commitment and Sex The Biggest Difference Between an American Geisha and an Asian Geisha Reminders While Reading This Book
Chapter 2: Teach Your Animal Body to Be Sexy and Feminine . .
24
The Story of Scott The Story of Neil Your Self-Love Sessions: Self-Examination and Masturbation vii SSA text Q4pc.qxd 9/26/2006 9:50 PM Page viii viii * Sex Secrets of an American Geisha Items for Your Self-Love Sessions Shave Your Beautiful Vagina Looking at Your Vagina
Chapter 3: Geisha Attractiveness: Beauty and Sexy Femininity .
36
The Power of Geisha Femininity What Makes a Woman Sexy and Feminine? First Be Yourself, Then Be Feminine Be Your Most Beautiful, Sexy, and Feminine Self,
Always
Do Nothing. Wait. Be Receptive. What Do I Mean by “High Priority”? Becoming More Beautiful, Sexy, and Feminine in Three Areas Finding the Time and Money for Beauty and Sexy Femininity When You Increase Your Options, You Are Making Progress
PART TWO: SEX SECRETS TO BOND HIM TO YOU
67
Chapter 4: Give Away Credit for Your Orgasm. . . to Him! . . . . .
68
You Must Be Strong to Pursue Love and Marriage Make Your Good Man Feel Like
More
of a Man Abandon Political Correctness in Bed Full-Credit Phrases With a Vibrator, Where Does the Credit Go? A Further Step along Your Path to Giving Away Credit Make Him Feel Like a Hero
Chapter 5: Find Your G-Spot and Learn to Female Ejaculate . .
81
A Most Outrageous Description of My Ejaculation The Most Intimate Sexual Experience of His—and Your—Lives A Reservoir of Love Juice The PC Muscle Group: Your Love Muscles Three Hundred Times a Day Men Love Your Ejaculation! How to Female Ejaculate Where Is the PC Muscle Group, Exactly? Clitoral and G-Spot Orgasms Are Different I Leave You with a Tease SSA text Q4pc.qxd 9/26/2006 9:50 PM Page ix
Contents
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Chapter 6: Worship His Manhood . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
99
Let Your Good Man Know You Love His Cock Create a Shrine to His Cock You Love His Cock Like No One Ever Has More Ways to Show Him How Much You Love His Cock Your Good Man Always Risks Rejection What Is an American Geisha to Do? Still, Never Say “No”; Instead, Make a Date
PART THREE: PLANNING FOR MARRIAGE
111
Chapter 7: Define Your “Good Man” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 112
My Story Time Is of the Essence The Four Core Characteristics of a Good Man What If You Choose a Bad or Wrong Man? Notice What He
Does,
Not What He
Says
Once You Choose a Good Man Don’t Sweat the Smaller Stuff You Get to Do the Choosing You Are a Good Woman
Chapter 8: Create Your American Geisha Love and
Marriage Plan . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125
Your Four Fundamental Needs What Do You
Need
and
Want
in Life? Stay Conscious of What You Need and Want Clarity of Purpose Characteristics of
Your
Good Man Wedding (Getting Married) vs. Marriage (Staying Married)
Chapter 9: A Plan to Achieve Your Best Weight—
and Maintain It! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135
Out-of-Control Weight and Its Impact Attract More Good Men Weight Matters A Caution: Listen to Your Older Sister SSA text Q4pc.qxd 9/26/2006 9:50 PM Page x x * Sex Secrets of an American Geisha The American Geisha Weight Loss and Maintenance Plan Personal Responsibility for Your Choices Geisha Determination The Key to Your Weight Loss Success: Awareness Awareness + Desire = Geisha Determination = Success Exercise and Eating Tips
PART FOUR: DATING, LOVE, AND MARRIAGE
157
Chapter 10: Advance from Dating to Setting a Date . . . . . . . . . 158
The Art Gallery Opening The “Lucky Seven” Areas for Development If You Have Achieved Your Goals The Lucky Seven Chart Be Different from—and Better than—Other Women Now That You Are Dating Where to Meet Potential Good Men The American Geisha Must Be Selective You’ve Decided to Date Him. Now What? From Dating to Dating with Sex Sex Before Commitment You Are Dating with Sex. Now What?
Chapter 11: “I Could Only Do
That
for My Husband” . . . . . . . . 179
No Manipulation The Progression of Commitment Pregnancy and Motherhood Sexually Transmitted Diseases: Absolute Caution! Five Relationship Stages
Chapter 12: Love Is More than Just Good Sex . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 187
Have a Happy, Fun Time while Seeking Love and Marriage You Are
Always
Sexy, Even if You’re
Not
Always Sexual Remember the Four Core Characteristics of Your Good Man Remember Your Four Fundamental Needs Speak Up for Your Need to Be Married Remember
Your
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Chapter 13: Make the Happiness of Your Marriage Your
Highest Priority . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 194
Your Good Man’s Greatest Fear: That You’ll Change Make Your Good Man Feel Lucky That He Married You My Failure as a Sweet, Sexy Wife for My Husband Your Husband and Your Relationship as Your Highest Priority Express Your Love Daily Rules for Spouses Always Stay Geisha Beautiful and Feminine As You Age
Afterword: “Geisha Power”: Find Your Sexuality and Keep Your
Good Man . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 206
Glossary: A Hot and Sexy List of Terms . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 208
Resources and Recommended Readings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 215
Author Contact Information Must-Haves Recommended Reading
Index . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 220