SM 101: A Realistic Introduction

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Table of Contents

 

 

Title Page

Copyright Page

Acknowledgements

Warning and Disclaimer: Please Read Carefully

Dedication

Preface

Sonnet 57

Preliminaries

 

Introduction
The Purpose of This Book
Why Am I Writing This?
Sexual Extremes
Who Is This Book For?
What is SM?
Is SM for You?
You May Already Be “Into SM”
Why On Earth Would Anybody Want to Do this Stuff in the First Place?
A Tough Decision
My Very Own, Official, “Coming Out” Chapter
The Sociology, Politics, and Economics of SM
Should You “Come Out” As Being Into SM?
Definitions
SM vs. Abuse
SM and Censorship
Basic Terms

 

Basic Basics

 

Consent
The Silent Alarm
Safewords
The Ethics of Safewords
Non-Verbal Safewords
Checking In
Negotiation
To Help You Remember
“Pre” Pre-Session Negotiations
Group Negotiations
Post-Session Negotiations and Feedback
Second-Session Negotiations
Conclusion
Negotiation Forms
Variability
Learn How It Feels
Setting the Scene
Other Matters
Don’t Do This If Anyone Involved Is Drunk or Stoned

 

Finding Partners

 

Signs and Signals
Men Look¡ng for Women
Women Looking For Men
Women Looking For Women
Men Looking For Men
Introducing SM Into an Existing Relationship

 

Bondage 1A

 

Some Basic Bondage Principles
Types of Rope
Knots
Basic Bondage Techniques
Breast Bondage
Genital Bondage
The Hogtie Position
Usiang a Bar as Bondage Implement
Tying A Submissive to the Bed
Notes and Hints
First Bondage
Precautions When Playing in Isolated Arear
Self-Bondage
On Being Untied

 

Bondage 1B

 

Gags
Blindfolds
Ear Plugs
Hoods
Handcuffs
Leather Cuffs
Suspension
Chains, Locks, Etc.

 

Giving and Receiving Erotic Pain

 

What Is Pain?
Giving Pain
Receiving Pain
Straight Time and Checking In Later

 

Flagellation

 

Where to Whip
Whipping Positions
Hands-On Flagellation
Paddling
The Riding Crop
Whips and Floggers
Straps
Canes
The Pounder
Conclusion

 

Clamps

 

Clamping the Nipples
Clamping the Genitals
Clamping Other Parts of the Body

 

Lubricants: Advantages, Disadvantages, and Dangers

Erotic “Torture”

 

Using Your Hands and Mouth
Hot/Cold Play
Conventional Sex Toys
Other Forms of Sensation
Masturbation Games

 

Humiliation

Dominant/Submissive Interactions

 

On Being a Dominant
On Being a Submissive
Beginning and Ending a Session
Beginning a Submissive’s Training
The Four Basic Duties of a Submissive
The Collar
Basic Position Training
Arm positions
Leg Positions
Combinations
Speech Training
Slave Duties
Punishment

 

SM Relationships

 

“24/7” Relationships

 

SM Organizations

 

Finding Your Local Community
When There Is No Local Community
Parties
More Formal Organizational Structures

 

General Safety Considerations

 

What About Leaving Marks?
SM Duting Pregmaney
Common Causes of SM Disasters
First Aid and CPR Training
First Aid Supplies
Common SM Emergencies
Safety Checklist

 

SM and Safer Sex

 

What To Do If a Condom Fails

 

A Novice Woman’s Quick Reference Guide to Erotically Dominating a Submissive Man

Constructing an SM Starter Set

 

Let’s Start With Your Mind
Now Let’s Consider Your Body
A Basic SM Starter Kit
Buying “Formal” SM Gear

 

SM Sayings

 

Related Practices

Finding Help with Problems

References and Resources

Glossary

Appendix I - Sample Event Rules

Appendix II: SM and the Internet

Appendix III - A Monograph on Breath Control Play

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© 1996 by Jay J. Wiseman. All rights reserved.

 

First edition published November, 1992, by Jay J. Wiseman.

 

All rights reserved. Except for brief passages quoted in newspaper, magazine, radio or television reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying or recording, or by information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Publisher.

 

Published in the United States by Greenery Press, 3739 Balboa Ave. #195, San Francisco, CA 94121, USA, [email protected].

 

Cover photo by MichaelAdrianne

Cover design by Lady Laura and Sir Marcus

Illustrations by Plum

 

ISBN 0-9739763-8-9

 

Acknowledgements, first edition

 

My thanks to Robin Roberts of Backdrop for being my first teacher. Robin has taught many valuable lessons to many people over the years, and he doesn’t get the credit he deserves.

My thanks to the late Cynthia Slater, founder of The Society of Janus, for setting such a wonderful example of vision, courage, integrity, and clarity.

My thanks to Bill Burns and the other wonderful folks associated with the Service ofMankind Church for their support and friendship over the years, through both good times and bad.

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