The Art of Submission (41 page)

She looks surprised by my question and
then narrows her eyes ruthlessly at me and says, “Dylan is… Well, I
was worried, but I’m not anymore because you’re just not really his
type.
Are you
?”

Holy smack
down
. What the..? I feel myself becoming enraged and
I’m about ready to throw down with this uppity bitch when someone
from the office approaches me. When I turn my gaze away from her,
she turns on her heel and leaves.
Damn
straight she’d better leave
. I may be little, but damn
it, I’m wiry…
calm down, Isa.
So the raven-haired receptionist has a thing for my would-be
Dominant, does she?

As I try to gather my wits, and it hits
me like a ton of bricks; she’s absolutely right. I’m not his
type,
am I
? But she sure
is.

Dylan

This contract dated _______ of month
_______, 2012, is the complete and entire agreement between
Dylan Young
and
Isabel Ibanez
. I
Dylan
Young
, being of sound mind and body, hereinafter
referred to as the “Dom” or “Sir” and
Isabel Ibanez
, being of sound mind and body,
hereinafter referred to as
“sub”. The
terms of this agreement will remain in effect for a period of
______ months/years
. This contract shall also become
null and void immediately upon the request of either the Dom or the
sub or
following any breach of the
contract
.

I don’t want to be
referred to as ‘sub’. Just call me Isa please. Do you really want
me to call you Dom or Sir?

Do we really have to put
it in writing how long this will last? Can’t we just take this one
day at a time and go from there?

What if I accidently
breach the contract? Is there no leeway for mistakes? Can you
reword that part to allow for my inexperience?

BTW – is this contract
legal and binding?

Sub/Isabel

1. Isabel agrees to have no other sexual partners or
sexual contact with anyone other than Dylan Young.

Yes. Absolutely agreed. I don’t
want to be with anyone else, so if you get some wild BDSM (←notice
I got it right this time) hair up your ass about sharing me – you
can get it out of your gorgeous head right now.
I will NOT be shared
.

2. Isabel agrees to maintain her body in a
healthy and fit manner, and shall maintain clean shaven
genitalia
, legs and arm pits at all
times, unless instructed otherwise by Dylan.

I want to keep what well-groomed
pubic hair that I have as I’d prefer not to look like a 12 year
old. The rest of this clause is fine, though.

3. Isabel agrees to study the lifestyle of
BDSM
on a daily basis
,
including but not limited to reading books, searching the Internet
and personal instruction by Dylan.

I agree I need to learn more about
this lifestyle, but I do have a job, so perhaps just doing it when
I have spare time would suffice? If it has to be daily, then I
would prefer to learn via hands-on demonstration by you and not by
reading about it online or in a book.

4. Isabel shall show honor and respect to Dylan at
all times when in his presence, and when not in his presence shall
maintain the same mindset.

Absolutely. Though I’m not sure
why this needs to be in writing. I would expect the same respect
and honor from you, as well.

5.
Isabel is not to
wear any underwear unless absolutely necessary.
Seriously?

6. Isabel shall sleep naked unless otherwise
directed by Dylan
.

Fine, but I just want to say that
I prefer sleeping in something. Just imagine my humiliation if
there were an emergency or natural disaster and I ended up out on
the street buck ass naked.

7. Isabel shall not utilize the safe words of Yellow
or Red, or other words as designated by Dylan, unless absolutely
necessary.

Yes. Agreed. But can we come up
with a different set of safe words together? Yellow and red are
uninspiring.

8.
Isabel shall count
out loud each stroke when being punished by whichever method is
deemed necessary, i.e., whipping, flogging, caning, etc., and must
also thank Dylan following the completion of
punishment
.

Hell no. Let me rephrase.
Absolutely fucking not
.
I don’t like the idea of punishment in any form. I will only agree
to be spanked in a sexual context and for pleasure only, so if you
plan on ‘punishing’ me because of your idea of what‘s right or
wrong, then we need to rethink, rephrase, or remove this clause
altogether.

9
.
Isabel agrees to accept a permanent mark anywhere
on her body, indicating ownership by Dylan.

Again – seriously? This request is
completely unreasonable, especially considering that you want to
put a time limit on our ‘term of agreement’. Would you accept a
permanent mark on your body of my choosing? I would, however, be
open to suggestions about other ways of showing that I belong to
you.

10. Isabel shall make herself available for
use by Dylan in anyway Dylan desires, at anytime Dylan desires,
whenever feasible.
Yes. Ditto.

11. Isabel agrees to scene with others, and to allow
Dylan to scene with others, as long as there is no penile or
vaginal penetration.

What are we talking about here? I
need explanation and further clarification.

Dom/Dylan
--
I’m not sure if I get a say in these,
but I’m putting in my 2¢

1. Dylan will train, educate, and instruct
Isabel in the position of a sub.

2. Dylan will pick out an entire wardrobe for
Isabel. Dylan may instruct Isabel to pick out clothing
and punish her for selecting inappropriate
attire
after she has received proper training on
acceptable clothing for public display.

You have impeccable taste, so this
is a no brainer for me. I want to point out that this clause does
not include the phrase ‘provide Isabel with a wardrobe.’ So to
avoid any future conflict or the threat of punishment, you will not
be buying me any more clothing
.

3. Dylan will test Isabel’s limits to help her grow
into the position of a sub.

4. Dylan will be responsible for keeping Isabel safe
at all times.

I’m not sure why this should be
your responsibility, but I appreciate the thought.

5. Dylan will respect and adhere to all hard limits
and safe words.

What are hard limits?

6. Dylan will share in housework with Isabel as
enumerated by him.

Ok, but surely a man of your
wealth can afford a housekeeper? Just saying
.

7. Dylan agrees to have no other sexual partners or
sexual contact with anyone other than Isabel Ibanez.

Yes. Absolutely. See above Sub
clause #1. Also -
I will NOT share
you
. BTW - Why is this clause #7 when it
should clearly be clause #1 of your responsibilities?

8.
Dylan shall inform
Isabel of the reason for any punishment. During the punishment he
will remind her of the reason for the punishment, with questions
such as “do you know why are you being punished?” with an
appropriate answer from her.

This clause sounds very much like
what happened last night and though I will admit that it was
spectacular, this is something we need to discuss more because I’m
confused about how all this makes me feel. I just want to
reiterate, I have
serious issues
about punishment. And please don’t ask
why.

9.
Dylan will set up
a financial account for Isabel in order to allow her to have funds
to start over with should it be decided that the contract or
relationship is no longer valid. If any mention of the nature of
the relationship and details are in anyway breached, all funds
shall be forfeited by Isabel.

I don’t want your money under any
circumstances. End of story. I’m a very private person and not the
kind who would talk about our relationship to anyone anyway, so if
you want to rephrase this clause to say that I agree not to talk
about us or the nature of our so-called relationship, with no
mention of pay off money, then that will work better for
me.

10.
Whereas Dylan
believes that family is important, he will not keep Isabel from
staying in touch with her family and will not withhold trips to
visit her family or contact with her
family
.

This is a nonissue for me and this
clause can be removed altogether.

11.
Dylan shall read
Isabel’s art journal on a regular basis and agrees to not punish
Isabel for anything posted therein
.

Please see art clause for my
response regarding this matter.

Okay, so she doesn’t want to be referred to
as sub. I actually prefer to call her by her name anyway, so that’s
just fine. Isa it is. No, Dom just won’t work with Isa. I like to
watch her mouth when she says my name. So I’ll concede no to Dom,
but yes I still want to hear her call me Sir. Especially when she’s
begging me to shove my fat cock into her defiant mouth.

No contractual time frame? I’ve never
actually been in a consensual contract without one. I mean, the
time frame is subjective and we can always lengthen or shorten the
time frame as we see fit, but I like to see it in writing. I’ll
have to discuss this with her.

Accidentally breaches the
contract?
Interesting
wording
. Does she plan on breaching the contract? I
understand she’s inexperienced, but trust is everything to me and I
won’t tolerate any breaches in it.

Legal and binding? Again,
interesting wording
. Of course it’s
not legal and binding in a court of law, but it all boils down to
trust.

I laugh out loud at the first clause. Yes,
she did get the acronym correct this time. She’s so fucking
hilarious. I can’t even remember the last woman who made me laugh
the way she does. Actually, I don’t think there has ever been
another woman who made me laugh like this. Why the hell would she
think that I would want to share her and where would she get an
idea like that? The Internet no doubt. She must’ve already started
her research into this lifestyle. Well, luckily for her, I have no
intentions of sharing her.

Again, I laugh out loud at her 12-year-old
remark. Fine. I do enjoy knowing that I’m with a natural blonde, so
I concede that she can keep her ‘well-groomed pubic hair.’

So Isa prefers ‘hands-on demonstration’
of BDSM as opposed to reading it online or in a book? Uh… yes. I
think I can abso-fucking-lutely concede that one.
I’ll give her hands-on demonstration,
alright.

She’ll honor and respect me without
hesitation. I like that. She expects the same? Well, that’s not
traditionally something a Dom would agree to, but since I actually
do respect her, I will agree to her request.

Yes, seriously, no underwear unless
absolutely necessary. I love the idea of her being naked under her
clothes. I also like the idea of her wearing sexy-as-hell lingerie
under her clothes like she does. So this one, she’ll have to
concede that sometimes she can go without.

The humiliation of being buck ass naked on
the street during a disaster? I’ve never considered that. Or
laughed so much reading a contract. Where does she come up with
this stuff? I guess her point is well made. I’ll concede she can
wear something to bed, but no panties underneath. I want easy
access when I get the urge at 3:00 a.m.

Yellow and red are uninspiring safe words?
Okay. What the hell kinds of words are ‘inspiring’ exactly? And no,
I will not except ‘fuck you master’ as red, either.

Holy shit.
She’s adamant, to say the least, about not accepting
punishment. What the hell does she think we did last night? So as
long as I don’t call it punishment, she’s okay with it? This goes
deeper than what’s she’s letting on and I can see now it’s
something I’m going to have to deal with. I’ll compromise on some
of the punishment clauses, like not insisting that she count out
the strokes, but remove them altogether? I don’t think
so.

No permanent mark. Granted, she does
have a flawless body with no tattoos or piercings, I don’t like the
idea of her not having a mark of ownership by me. She does make a
good point about the time frame issue. So if she and I agreed to
make this a permanent arrangement between us, then she would accept
a mark? I’ll have to clarify that with her. Or do I want to really
push that issue?
Permanent
arrangement
? We don’t even know if this will work
between us. I’ll have to think about that more. Suggestions of
other ways? Well, there are piercings and jewelry. And I do like
the idea of seeing a lovely little navel piercing on her. Maybe I
could have a custom made navel ring made with my monogram or
something. Or maybe a tongue piercing…
yes.
I like that idea very much. With her oral
skills - f
uck yes
. Would I
accept a permanent mark of her choosing? I know she’s just trying
to make a point, but actually, if things work out between us, I
might consider it.
Wait, why am I even
thinking about this
?