The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover

"Quite simply, the best sex manual in print, for the enlightened, the unenlightened, and everybody in between."

- KEN WILBER, author of
Integral Spirituality

"In the area of sacred intimacy, David Deida is holding a lightning bolt. He sheds an astonishing light."

MARIANNE WILLIAMSON A u t h o r of
A Return to Love

"David Deida's work is on the forefront of 21st-century conscious sexual love. I recommend this book with confidence."

CHARLES MUIR
Autho r of
Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving

"What a treasure! I want to give this book to everyone I know!"

J
ENNY WADE, PH.D. Author of
Transcendent Sex

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he secret to enlightenment and great sex is revealed to be one and the same in this groundbreaking manual for

adventurous lovers. David Deida was trained for decades in the art of spiritual and sexual awakening. Now he presents the ultimate collection of skills for opening to the physical, emotional, and spiritual rewards of intimate embrace.

Provocative and direct,
The Enlightened Sex Manual
teaches you how to transform simple "skin friction" into the depths and embodiment of ecstasy; how to develop sexual

abilities as gifts of heart rapture and bodily surrender; how to achieve the principal types of orgasm - and all their varieties; and much more.

For men and women, singles and couples of every sexual orientation,
The Enlightened Sex Manual
provides a complete program for sustaining "whole-body recognition of love's light" in the wild play of sexuality.

France. His books are published and include
The Way of the Sua
and
Instant Enlightenment.

PRAISE FOR THE WORK OF DAVID DEIDA

"David Deida explains the heart and soul of a woman to men. As a woman, I've never felt so understood and validated. David's work is a key to help• ing men and women take their relationships one step further. Finally, a clear and brilliant guide to unraveling the mystery of relationships."

MARCI SHIMOFF Co-author of
Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul

"David Deida's teachings on this central human concern, sexuality, emanate from a deeply trustworthy source. He has undergone his own rigorous train• ing and practice, which manifests in precise, gentle, and thorough teachings. Many spiritual traditions, including Zen, have excluded or marginalized the sexual experience. David's work fills this gap, and gives us a mature approach for bringing the energetic, emotional, and physical experience of sex into our life and practice. And like Zen, the fruition of David's work is openness, compassion, and love."

GENPO ROSHI Author of
The Eye Never Sleeps

"Every once in awhile, someone comes along whose work is clearly a next step. Their ideas seem to answer some collective question hanging out in the culture. Their books and seminars become an underground buzz, and within a period of time their ideas become part of our cultural vernacular. David Deida is such a person. In a time not too far off from now, his ideas will have spread like wildfire."

MARIANNE WILLIAMSON Author of
A Return to Love

"There are few categories I know of for an original like David; for his teachings there is no pigeonhole. He is a bridge-builder between East and West, between ancient and modern wisdom traditions regarding this least understood of all spiritual teachings: the mystery of intimacy as a yoga of transformation, transcendence, and self-realization. David Deida is the one Western teacher of tantra whose books I read and whom I send students to learn from. The results of true practice, in any tradition, are unmistakable; David Deida demonstrates them."

LAMA SURYA DAS Author of
Awakening the Buddha Within

'David Delia brings spirituality down from the clouds and back into our bodies where it belongs. His no-nonsense approach to refining our spiritual sensibilities comes as a welcome intervention to both New Age and conser• vative trends in contemporary spirituality. Deida helps us to get REAL in a world where reality is an increasingly rare commodity."

MARIANA CAPLAN Author of
Halfway Up the Mountain:

The Error of Premature Claims to Enlightenment

'David Deida's work exposes us to the Truth of Tantra. Deida takes us far deeper than the genital location, to the fearless state of vulnerability where we are penetrated by God in every moment. We are led beyond the illusion of doing self-improvement and Tantric techniques, to the surrendered, un• limited, direct state of being the Ultimate Truth in every moment."

GABRIEL COUSENS, M.D. Author of
Spiritual Nutrition and the Rainbow

Diet,
Director of Tree of Life Rejuvenation Center

'Being able to teach and live integrated sex, relationship, and transcen• dence is no easy task. It requires immense courage, wisdom, and above all, fearless loving. In Deida, all this gets included in one radical teaching. You'll learn how to open your heart and integrate the need to sleep with every attractive woman you see, deal appropriately with a woman's emo• tional chaos, give your gift to the world and lover, and finally transcend the whole lot by including it all."

VIJAY RANA
The Watkins Review

"Deida brilliantly lays bare the hidden psychology of feminine and mas• culine and offers clear instructions for tapping into our deepest core and achieving true harmony through sexual intimacy. I feel that Deida has reached a new level of poetic genius in his writing, and his understanding of feminine psychology astounds me."

MIRANDA SHAW, PH.D. Author of
Passionate Enlightenment:

Women in Tantric Buddhism

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WEBSITE

www.deida.info

DAVID DEIDA

Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover

Sounds True, Inc., Boulder, CO 80306

© 2004, 2007 David Deida

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Published 2007 Printed in Canada

ISBN 13: 978-1-59179-585-8

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Deida, David.

The enlightened sex manual: sexual skills for the superior lover / David Deida.

p. cm.

Originally published in 2004. ISBN 978-1-59179-585-8 (pbk.)

1. Sex instruction. I. Tide.

HQ31D4125 2007

613.9'6 - dc22

2007019322

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