The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child (38 page)

A

acceptance,
54
,
83
–85,
89
,
141
–42

acetylcholine

functions,
22
–23,
25
–26

neurotransmitter pathways,
28
,
30
–31,
34

right brain,
40

sleep cycles,
104

adaptability,
259

ADD/ADHD,
11
,
202
,
280

Adler, Alfred,
8
–9

adolescence

dating,
15
,
252
–55

school years,
15
,
198
–201,
233
–36

teen attitudes,
112
–13

adoption,
150
–51

adrenaline,
27

advance planning strategies,
96
–97,
238
–39,
249
–52

Aesop,
7

affection,
74

after-school activities,
199
,
200

aggressive behaviors,
109
,
260
–61.
See
also bullying Allen, Joan,
xvii

American Journal of Psychiatry
,
30
–31

American Mania: When More Is Not Enough
(Whybrow),
69

amygdala,
28
,
29
,
34
,
43

anger,
86
,
90

anxiety

emotional disorders,
10
–12,
279
–81

and feelings,
88

self-soothing skills,
126
–29

separation anxiety,
76
–77

stranger anxiety,
76
,
244
–45

transition management,
238
–39

appreciation

family relationships,
83
,
144

feedback from others,
193

grandparents,
171
–73

modesty,
66

self-esteem,
54

Ariel,
81

art supplies,
61
–62

Asperger’s syndrome,
11
,
280

attachment theory,
76

attention deficit disorder.
See
ADD/ADHD

attention to detail,
58

autism,
11
,
280

autonomic nervous system,
10
,
31
–33,
40

B

babysitters.
See
caregivers

backlash,
240

backup plans,
179

Badham, Mary,
58

balance

discipline,
106
–8

and extrovert behavior,
55
,
67
,
136
–37

and feelings,
87
–89

mixed temperaments,
141
–42

physical affection,
84

social behavior,
65

stimulation,
6

Barrie, J. M.,
249

Bates, Marilyn,
83

bedtime,
104
–5

bias,
50
,
51
–52,
54

birthday parties,
248
–52

blame,
197
,
242
–43,
258
–59,
277

blended families,
170

blood flow,
30
–31

blood sugar levels,
102
–3

body movement,
8

bonding process,
46
,
73
–93,
117
,
148
–49,
273
–78

bonnet brain,
37
–39,
46
,
186
–87

boot brain,
37
–39,
46
,
187

boredom,
200

brain research

biochemical action,
21

blood flow,
30
–31

brain development,
43
–47,
75

dominant behavior,
43
–47,
201
–3

dysfunctional conditions,
9
–13

extroversion,
36
–37

feelings,
85
–86,
246
–47

front
versus
back functioning,
37
–39,
186
–87

introversion,
34

learning styles,
187
–88,
201
–3

memory systems,
43
–46,
187
–88,
208

nervous system,
31
–37,
104
–5

neurotransmitters,
20
–23,
25
–29,
68

personality traits,
52
–53

play,
116

right
versus
left hemispheres,
40
–43,
46
,
116
,
201
–3,
246

temperament,
20
–31

Brazelton, T. Berry,
163

British Journal of Social Psychology
(1999),
224

Broca’s Area,
28

Buffett, Warren,
xvi

bullying,
260
,
265
–70

C

California Psychological Inventory (CPI),
7

Carducci, Bernardo,
11

caregivers,
176
–80

Carson, Johnny, xvi center of attention,
65
–66

central nervous system,
31

Charlie and the Chocolate Factory
(Dahl),
81

charter schools,
191

chat time,
122
–24,
195
–97,
240

child care,
176
–80

chores,
144
–46

cingulate gyrus,
28
,
29

citizenship,
67
–69

class discussions,
212

closed groups,
232

college education,
215
–17

comfort zones,
83
,
108
,
185
,
279
–80.
See also
personal space common ground,
154

communication patterns,
42
,
78
–79,
172
,
246
–48

competitiveness,
65
–66,
157
–58,
217
–19

computer games.
See
electronic media; video games

concentration skills,
65

conflict management

bullying,
265
–70

family relationships,
90
–91,
149
,
161
–62

friendships,
235
–36,
242
,
257
–64

sibling relationships,
161
–62

conformity,
108
,
143

contributions to the family,
144
–47

controlling behavior,
109
–10

conversational skills

“bilingualism”,
247
–48

chat time,
122
–24

engagement/disengagement,
79

friendships,
64

innie/outie differences,
225
,
247
–48

language development,
177

personality traits,
8
,
63
–64

shared stories,
147
–48

cooperation,
109
–10,
144
–45,
158
,
230

corpus callosum
,
40

courage,
277

creativity,
60
–62,
117
,
202

critical self-talk,
209
,
240
,
242
–43,
254

criticism,
202

curiosity,
58
–60,
192
,
202

D

Dahl, Roald,
81

Damasio, Antonio,
116

date nights,
149
,
179
–80

dating,
15
,
252
–55

daycare.
See
caregivers

decision-making skills,
125
–27,
137
,
139
,
159
,
203

Dell, Michael,
xvii

Dennis the Menace
,
81

dependence,
78

Depp, Johnny,
xvi

differentiation,
174
–76

Digging to China
(film),
268
–69

discipline,
106
–10,
177

discrimination,
50

distractions,
112

divorce,
150
–52

dopamine

functions,
22
–23,
26

left brain,
41

neurotransmitter pathways,
29
,
30
–31,
36
,
68

downtime,
6
,
83
,
154
,
200

dyslexia,
9

E

eating issues,
101
–3

Einstein, Albert,
215

electronic media,
119
–22,
270

elementary school,
15
,
197
–98

Elementary School Journal
(2002),
230

Eloise,
81

emotional disorders,
10
–12,
279
–81

Emotional Intelligence
(Goleman),
93

emotional IQ,
62
–63,
86
,
93
,
186
,
246
–47

emotional resilience,
73
–93

empathy

conflict management,
261

emotional IQ,
63
,
246

extroverted children,
137

and feelings,
88

right-brained children,
202
,
246

encouragement, importance of,
xiii
–xv,
209
–11,
231
–36,
254
–55,
277
–78

endorphins,
26

energy management.
See also
personal space

adoptive families,
150
–51

classroom environments,
59
,
185
–87

high school,
200

innie/outie differences,
5
–6,
8
,
24
–25

middle school,
198
–99

physical activity,
129
–30

play,
117

routines,
96
–100

sleep,
104

socialization,
226

stimulation,
8
,
24
–25

temperament,
82
,
226

transition management,
238
–40

engagement/disengagement,
79

Engelbreit, Mary,
62

enjoyable activities,
143
–45

enkephalins,
26

envy,
159

expression of feelings,
85
–93

extended family relationships,
163
–76

external competition,
158

extroversion/extroverted children

blood flow,
30
–31

brain activity,
36
–39,
188
,
201
–3

characteristics,
36
–37,
222

in children’s literature,
81

conflict management,
257
–58

cultural values,
50
–55

demographics,
5
,
55

dopamine pathway,
29
,
30
–31,
36

energy management,
5
–6,
24
–25

family relationships,
136
–42

“Give It the Gas” system,
23
,
32
–33,
36
–37

memory systems,
44
–46,
188

self-esteem,
53
–54

stimulation,
8
,
24
–25,
107

stress,
262
–63

sympathetic nervous system,
23
,
33

F

family relationships adoption,
150
–51