sexual license is one thing, but the unwillingness to marry and become responsible for one's own family is quite another. It is here, too, that the pull of women to legalize illicit unions, to drag the unwilling male to the altar, has from the earliest times exercised a beneficial effect upon human society.
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Women have been aware of the waywardness of the errant male, doubtless from the earliest times, and they have been caused thus to resort to every possible device in order to make themselves attractive to the male and to maintain their attractiveness in order to preserve the interest of this roving creature. Hence, the powders and the pomade, the paint and the pulchritude, and the equation in the male's mind (and in the minds of some women) of sex with love. The female's much higher threshold of sexual excitability, the ease with which she is distracted, even during intercourse, from what is for the male the focus of all his attention, led some readers of the Kinsey report to conclude that women are not very interested in sex. This is but one example of the dangerous kind of conclusions, and utterly erroneous ones, which could be drawn from Kinsey's data. By comparison with women, men are more superficially interested in sex and make up in quantitative activity what they fail to experience qualitatively. On the contrary, the female is more profoundly interested in sex, and the quality of her interest is very much more sensitively and passionately developed than that of the average male. Hence, the male's crass sexual approaches to the female are unlikely to elicit her happiest responses.
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It is, however, doubtful that with the most continuous of perfect approaches the female would, on the average, ever respond as continuously as the male does to superficial psychosexual stimulation. The male can, as it were, turn the faucet of sex on at a moment's notice; it takes somewhat more than a moment in the average female.
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For the female, sex is a human relationship; for the male, relationships with women tend to be largely sexual. Sex, without love is empty for most women, and it is the satisfaction of a chronic irritation for most men. Even the professional prostitute has one kind of sex for her customers and another kind for her lover. Most men, however, in their approach to sex, think of doing something to a woman that affords them relief and pleasure. These
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