Unfaithful Wives' Guide (2 page)

You should do some prep work before apologizing. Put
yourself in his shoes. Go to a quite room, close your eyes
and relive the moment he found out about your betrayal.
Visualize the look on his face. Internalize the hurt and
pain he must of felt. It won't be pleasant, but you need
to have these emotions in your consciousness to
effectively open the lines of communication. You might
need to try this a few times to really obtain a better
understand of how he feels. This will help you both in the
long run.

Make a verbal announcement to him declaring your
commitment to save your marriage and to never be
unfaithful again. Something to the tune of, "I'll promise
I'll never betray you again no matter how bad things get
and I'm 1000% certain I want and need you in my life."
Now this will not necessarily cause him to suddenly
forgive you completely, hold you in his arms, kiss you,
turn all “lovey dovey” and plan a romantic getaway for
the two of you. We men have pride and nothing and no
one can hurt our pride the way our wives can.

It’s your fault if you cheated. If things were terrible and
you couldn’t get him to see that, you should have
separated instead of cheated.

The male ego is sensitive and we communicate terribly.
We are slow to explore feelings and emotions, even our
own.

A heated break up with your lover will be a good start on
the road to relationship recovery with your husband.
Transparency is necessary to rebuild the relationship.
Keep your husband informed if your ex lover attempts to
communicate with you. No more communication with
your ex lover.