What You Really Really Want (40 page)

CHAPTER 11

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ELCOME TO CHAPTER 11! IN U.S. BANKRUPTCY LAW, “chapter 11” refers to the part of the bankruptcy process in which the business or individual can begin to reorganize and rebuild. While we've been reorganizing in every chapter, it seems particularly appropriate in this last one. As you leave behind old and bankrupt ideas about sexuality in favor of what you really really want, it can feel unstable and chaotic. In this chapter we'll try to firm up the ground beneath you so that you can jump off from here to wherever you want to go next.

Let's start by revisiting where you were in chapter 1 and seeing what's changed and what hasn't. Remember this quiz? Without peeking at your answers from when you took it the first time, take it again now:

How'd you do? Specifically, ask yourself if those answers are what you'd like them to be. If some of them aren't, go back and circle them. We'll talk about them in a minute. But first, find your answers now from when you took this quiz in chapter 1. Put a star next to every answer that's changed. Then go back and take out the commitment you made to yourself at the beginning of the book. Reread it, and think about it. Did you live up to it? Did you accomplish what you set out to do? Or at least some of it? Whatever the answer, take a moment now to appreciate all the hard work you've put into this process, and where it's led you.