Why We Love (44 page)

feeling

female animals

breeding season

choosiness

female intimacy

females

problem for, caused by human stride

Finck, Sir Henry

fire, harnessing

fish

Fisher, Maryanne

fitness indicators

fitness matching

focussed attention

in animals

brain chemicals in

caudate nucleus and

dopamine in

long enough to rear child together

on “special” other

follicle-stimulating hormone

forebears

courtship

human capacities

individual autonomy

romance and marriage

specialized

foxes

France, Anatole

Franklin, Ben

Freud, Sigmund

frustration-aggression hypothesis

frustration-attraction

functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI)

Gainj

Galdikas, Birute

Gallup, Gordon

gays and lesbians

gender

gender differences

in the brain

in jealousy

in love sadness

in romantic love

in romantic tastes

general intelligence

genes

genetic payoffs of primitive divorce

genetic types

Gibran, Kahlil

giraffes

Glacial Ages

glutamate

goal-directed behaviors

god of love

Golden Ass, The
(Apuleius)

golden mean

Goodall, Jane

gorillas

Graves, Robert

Greeks, ancient

grizzly bears

Hagen, Edward

Hamburg, David

hand axes

harbor porpoises

Hasagawa, Mariko

Hasagawa, Toshikazu

hate/rage

attraction and

brain networks for

Hatfield, Elaine

Hazan, Cindy

healing

Hendrix, Harville

Heraclitus

Hidden Life of Dogs, The
(Thomas)

higher cognitive emotions

hippocampus

Hoagland, Tony

Homer

homicide

hominids

Homo erectus

brain size

caudate nucleus

cranial capacity

women

Homo habilis

Homo sapiens

homosexuals

hope

hopelessness

hormonal cycling

human beings

traits to attract mates

human stride

human traits in mating game

humanness

hunting and gathering societies

husband (concept)

hyenas

hypothalamus

hysteroid dysphoria

I Ching

Iliad, The
(Homer)

immune system

Inanna, Queen of Sumeria

in-breeding

indifference

Industrial Revolution

infants

see also
babies

infatuation

Insel, Tom

insula

insular cortex

interracial marriages

intersexual selection

intimacy

intrasexual selection

intrusive thinking

“Jade Goddess, The,”

James, William

jealousy

adaptive

in animals

in women

Jefferson, Thomas

Jonson, Ben

Kaiser, Henry J.

Kamma Sutra

Kanazawa, Satoshi

Keats, John

Kierkegaard, Søren

killing

see also
homicide

King, Henry

Klein, Donald

!Kung Bushmen

labor market, women in

Lancelot
(Chrétien de Troyes)

language

estrogen and

evolution of

Lannon, Richard

Layla and Majnun

LeDoux, Joseph

Lee, John Alan

letting go

Lewis, Thomas

Li, Haifang

Li Po

lifespan

liking

Lily Pond
(Ryden)

lions

literature

long-term attachment

brain circuitry of romantic love unlinked from

long-term partner/partnership

need for

romantic love in

lordosis

loss of appetite

in animals

love

adversity in

ageless

and anger/upset

among animals

capricious

changes over time

chemistry of

in choosing spouse

conjuring

female brain in

forms of

future

and hate

involuntary, uncontrollable

lost

male brain in

more than one person at a time

short-term

this one person

thwarted

time to

is transient state

types of

why we love

see also
romantic love

love affairs

love at first sight

love at first smell

love disorders

love hatred

love letters

love maps

love-o-meter

love sickness

love survey

adversity heightens passion

aggrandizing beloved

changing priorities

emotional fire

emotional union

empathy

focussed attention

intense energy

intrusive thinking

involuntary, uncontrollable love

looking for clues

mate guarding

mood swings

responses to, and pattern of brain activation

sexual desire

“special meaning,”

yearning for emotional union

lover(s)

psyche

ludus

lust

and attachment

biology of

brain circuitry of romantic love unlinked from

brain network for

independence of

and romantic love

in types of love

waning with age

luteinizing hormone

McNamee, Thomas

Malamuth, Neil

male animals

choosiness

at mating time

male intimacy

males

mate guarding

testosterone

mammals

brain chemistry

and familiarity

fighting rivals

pairing up to rear young

possessiveness

separation

symmetry

mania

marriage

arranged

as business venture

for love

Mashek, Debra

mate choice

see
choosing a mate; mate selection

mate guarding

mate poaching

mate selection

brain mechanisms in

personal history in

mating

with “special” other

mating drive(s)

independence of

romantic love is

mating effort, male

mating game

human traits in

mating habits

mating mind

Mating Mind, The
(Miller)

mating partner(s)

focus on

women’s decisions about

mating preferences in animals

Mauriac, François

melancholy

Meloy, Reid

memory

men

bragging

brain activity in love

characteristics in choosing spouse

control of wealth

courting talk

jealousy

love sadness

marry younger women

mating effort

multiple wives

response to visual stimuli

sexual stimulation

short-term love

suicide

symmetry

testosterone

violence by

women’s preferences in

menstrual cycle

mental machinery

mental states, agitated

mesolimbic reward system

metabolic energy

mice

Midsummer Night’s Dream, A
(Shakespeare)

Millay, Edna St. Vincent

Miller, Geoffrey

Milton, John

mind

evolution of

mating

modernity

Molière

monkeys

monogamy

montane voles

mood

mood swings

Moss, Cynthia

motivation(s)

brain chemicals in

brain region associated with

dopamine in

ordered in brain

to pursue special partner

to win rewards

musth

mystery

Nariokotome Boy

Nash, Ogden

nature

ornaments in

Nepal

Neruda, Pablo

nervousness in animals

Netsilik Eskimos

neurochemicals

neurotransmitters

New Guinea

new love, finding

Nietzsche, Friedrich

norepinephrine

and anger

in animal attraction

brain regions

in protest response

in rejection

in romantic love

and sex drive

stress and

and vasopressin and oxytocin

Norman, Christina

novelty

dopamine and

and lust

and romantic love

nuclear family (concept)

nucleus accumbens

Oates, Joyce Carol

obsessive thinking/focus

serotonin in

obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)

obstetrical dilemma

Ode on a Grecian Urn
(Keats)

older people

Oliva, Tony

On the Art of Honorable Loving (Capellanus)

Onassis, Jacqueline Kennedy

Ono No Komachi

opioid antagonist

opioids

opposites

orangutans

orgasms

evolution of

ornaments in nature

Orpheus and Eurydice

Ortega y Gasset, J.

Othello
(Shakespeare)

Ovid

ovulation

oxytocin

in attachment

pair-bonding/bonds

ancestral men and women

animals

long-term

panic

Panksepp, Jaak

Paradise Lost
(Milton)

paranoia

parenting

parents, relationship with, in choosing a mate

Paris and Helen

paroxetine

partners/partnership

animals

dynamics

pursuing

short-term

see also
long-term partner/partnership

Parzifal
(Eschenbach)

Pascal, Blaise

passion

heightened by adversity

and reason

taking control of

Passionate Love Scale

peer marriages

penile erection

Penny, Malcolm

periaqueductal gray

persistence

in animals

personal history

in mate selection

personalities, variety in

personality

genetic basis of

unique

Petrarch

Pfaff, Don

philandering

photograph of beloved

photographs

neutral

stimulate love

pineal gland

Pines, Ayala

“pink-lens effect

Platek, Steven

Plato

Pliny

poems

polyamory

polygynous unions

Poor Richard’s Almanac
(Franklin)

positive assortive mating

possessiveness

in animals

Pound, Ezra

pragma

pragmatic love

pragmatism

prairie voles

preference

in animals

dopamine in

for partners like oneself

prefrontal cortex

primates

promiscuity

protest response

protest stage

Proudhon, Pierre Joseph

proximity

psyche of lover

psychotherapy

puberty

Rabb, George

Racine, Jean Baptiste

rage

in rejection

see also
hate/rage

Raleigh, Sir Walter

Rapson, Richard

rats

rearing young, need for mate in

see also
pair-bonding/bonds

reason, passion and

reciprocated love

Reik, Theodor

rejecting mate, releasing

rejection

children learning

evolutionary value of

phases of

reaction to

reproduction

abandonment rage and

brain systems in

reproductive payoffs

in jealousy

in men’s preference for youth and beauty

reproductive strategies, complementary

reptilian brain/R-complex

resignation (stage)

reward(s)

delayed

prefrontal cortex and

romantic love focussed on

unattainable

reward system in brain

rival suitor

Roethke, Theodore

romance

making last

symphony of feelings

romantic attraction, independence of

romantic love

and abandonment rage

as addiction

age and

in animals

and attachment

attraction developing into

bodily symmetry in

brain chemicals in

brain network for

chemical components of attachment and

components of

core feelings of

distinct from lust

dopamine in

duration of

among elderly

evolution of

exciting activities stimulate

fear of

forms of

gays and lesbians

genetic footprint to

Homo habilis

igniting in another

jealousy in

in long-term partnership

and lust

mind capable of

mystery in

opposites in

persistence in

primary motivation system in brain

primordial mating drive

purpose of

questionnaire on,
(see also
love survey)

recedes with time

re-emergence of

rise of

sex and

sexual desire in

sexual exclusivity in