the thunderous guffaw at the proposal that they might? What is the fear here?
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Never mind. We don't have to understand it. Let's just capitalize on it. Physical strength is a crude form of strength, and it won't solve much of the angst in life, but again, it's a flauntable property. Most women are much stronger than they realize, and they can be stronger still with a minimum of investment. I'm not talking about the buff-body ethos of egg-carton abdominals and striated quadriceps that now prevails in places like Los Angeles, New York, and Miami Beach, which is an aesthetic tyranny no less than the tyranny of thinness or of the Face. I'm talking about strong and earthy, a moosey strength, the strength that shrugs its shoulders and takes no bull. I've noticed in nearly every gym where I've worked out that women on the weight-training equipment use far too low a setting for their strength, particularly when they are exercising their upper body, where they are convinced they are weak. They'll stick with twenty or thirty pounds' worth of plates and then do many repetitions easily, and I can see that they could handle twice what they're pressing, but they're not doing it, and nobody's telling them to do it, and I want to go over and beg them to use a higher weight and tell them, Look, you're blowing it, here's your chance, your cheap and easy chance, to own a piece of your life and strut and be a comic-strip heroine, so please, stack it up, heave-ho, do it for yourself, your daughter, your mother, the International Maidenhood of Iron. I don't say anything. It's not my business. I'm not a personal trainer, and if somebody came over to give me unsolicited advice about my workout, I might be tempted to test the purported deficiency of my effort by dropping what I'm pumping on Gunhilde's great toe. Then she'd howl like a harpy and jump up and down and say, What the hell are you doing? That was meant as a compliment! And the next time I saw her in the gym, her foot in a cast, I'd invite her to join me in a workout, to see if there is more to me, and to her, than either of us knows.
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Men grow up with the conviction that they are always stronger than somebody. Even men who as boys were always picked last for the softball team and who look like the packing material for stereo equipment nevertheless are convinced that they are stronger than women. They are taught that they should never hit a woman, never, ever, and that's a reasonable thing to be taught, because physical assault is almost
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