is an illness, I am ill." What she's getting at here is this: "Yes, yes, the personal is the political, all that, but the trivial must also be the immortal." In a way, it certainly must. The smaller a thingthe more interior it isthen the larger. It's a joke, but it isn't. It is, in fact, Weldon's defense for her status as a contributing editor of Allure, in which the essay appeared. She answers criticism "that it ill befits a 'serious writer' (me) to write for the readers of Allure (you)'' with a paraphrase of Flaubert: "Allure, c'est moi."
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C'est elle, indeed. She-Devil est elle, but Allure est elle aussi ! People are of many parts. And the Alluring aspects of Weldon are, I think, more central to her being than the angry-polemicist aspects. She's not Rush Limbaugh, and she needn't mud wrestle with him.
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I found the "Lunch" essay immensely appealing and thought-provoking. I felt the same way about another piece for Allure, "Infidelity." This is a primer for the soon-to-be adulterous. "There's what ought to happen, and what does happen, and they're different," Weldon begins. "There's love eternal, couples walking hand in hand into the sunset of old age, and you and I know how seldom that happens, and how we go on hoping against hope that it will.
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"There are theories of life and there's real life, and a great black tearful pit in between which it's all too easy to fall into. So be careful about theories...." That's the lesson to be taught today: Be careful about theories, don't hang your hat on them. That life isn't always what it seems is a very ordinary dictum. Weldon, essayist, puts a spin on it. It's not an earthmoving spin, but it's a spin sufficient to propel the essay, to make this lesson her own: a Professor Weldon lesson in life.
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'[I]f anyone tells you it's okay to have an affair, that it will enrich your marriage, don't listen. Or at any rate, if you do, if you're meeting this man out of hours, be careful, be secret, tell no one. And if you want to cry to the world I'm happy, it's so wonderful, I'm in lovedon't do it." Weldon depicts, in this piece, the consequences of not heeding this advice. There's a hilarious sketch about an idealized husband, Dean, chancing upon a loverly phone message to his wife from one "Bob," who is, more unfortunately, her sister Frieda's husband. Dean takes this new circumstance of interfamilial intercourse absolutely in stride, and the sketch ends with him and his wife declaring in unison: "Hand in hand into the sunset!" Then Weldon depicts what really happens: Bob ripping apart his wayward wife's office; two families wrecked; Bob running off with the sister, etc.all the stuff you might read in a Weldon novel. "The penalty for discovering your erotic self may be extreme," says Weldon. "So watch it." She is the bravest and most helpful of feminist journalists: One who reports not
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