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FURTHER PRACTICE
Whether you, the receiver, feel you want to have further practice alone or with your partner, explore your feelings. Be honest with yourself about what you want. Some women want to squirt every time, while some women decide that ejaculation is much ado about nothing. Others become determined to learn how no matter how long it takes. Whatever you choose is a very individual decision, and there are no wrong choices.
As we said earlier, being able to ejaculate won’t make you sexier, but it will give you more options for playfulness and pleasure in your sexual journey. It’s truly a yummy experience, but no two women are the same.
Jeffre can ejaculate with an orgasm and without an orgasm. She can ejaculate with either G-spot stimulation or clitoris stimulation and sometimes with both. But she started not knowing how. Today, the many different sexual pleasures she enjoys are the result of curiosity, openness, and a willingness to experiment.
Sometimes, she gushes a large amount, and sometimes, it’s merely a dribble. She can’t predict, and she doesn’t try. Interestingly, even when she doesn’t let go of a large amount, it still feels as if she’s releasing something. The sensations are still wonderful.
We recommend to women who want to continue practicing that they strengthen their PC muscles and enjoy self-pleasuring once or twice a week minimum. Use it or lose it definitely applies to sexuality. Intersperse your experiences with your partner with experiences alone.
The more you ejaculate, the more you will ejaculate. To some degree, it’s literally a muscle that will become stronger with repetition.
ENJOY THE DELICIOUS WET JOURNEY
Whether ejaculation is for you or not, we hope you have enjoyed the journey, for there is only the journey, and pleasure rules. Remember the essential conditions mentioned earlier: relaxation, feelings of safety and acceptance, intense arousal, releasing of goals, hydration (plenty of water), surrendering to pleasure, and loving every part of yourself.
Happy ejaculating!
GLOSSARY OF TERMS
BIG O
A strong explosive orgasm.
BLENDED ORGASM
Originally, an orgasm that results from both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. We extend that definition to encompass any two or more orgasmic triggers, including orgasmic energy.
BREATH
One of the four cornerstones of supreme bliss.
BUTTERFLY
A massage stroke that uses unexpected flitting taps with your fingertips all over the body with no specific pattern.
CHANNEL ENERGY
To circulate, move, or run sexual energy throughout the body.
CERVIX
The lower end or neck of the uterus which opens into the top end of the vagina.
CHAKRA
One of seven centers inside the body from the bottom of the spine to the top of the head where subtle energy is generated, collected, stored, and swirled. Though energy is energy, it has different qualities at each chakra.
CHI
See
Energy.
CLITORIS
A highly-sensitive sexual organ. Its head lies under the intersection of a woman’s inner lips and also has “legs” which extend deeper toward the sides of the vagina.
COME-HITHER
A G-spot massage stroke which involves crooking one or more fingers back toward your palm as if you were beckoning someone to come toward you.
CORNERSTONES
Four simple but powerful physical skills used to generate ecstasy at will — presence (relaxation, mental focus, and concentration), breath, sound, and movement.
CRURA
The legs of the clitoris which extend deeper inside a woman’s body on either side of the vagina.
EJACULATE
To push out sperm or female ejaculate liquid.
ENERGY
The nervous stimulation and physical excitation that our bodies feel all the time, which is responsible for emotional sensations and the physical manifestation of the spirit. Most strongly felt by most as a result of sexual stimulation and orgasm.
ENGORGED
When sensitive organs composed of erectile tissue swell with blood and darken from arousal.
ERECTILE TISSUE
The technical name for sensitive organs that swell with blood and darken when aroused, also known as engorgement.
EROGENOUS ZONES
Parts of the body that arouse sexual desire when you touch them.
EXPLOSIVE ORGASM
The kind of sudden strong orgasm that relieves tension and releases energy quickly in a flash of pleasure, which is accompanied by ejaculation in men and often drains lovers of their energy.
FEEDBACK SANDWICH
A diplomatic way that lovers can ask for changes in sexual play or other behavior without hurting their partner’s feelings. The feedback sandwich is a communication cycle, beginning and ending with positive reinforcement, which begins with a compliment, asks for something different, and finally acknowledges what’s working.
FEMALE PROSTATE
Spongy erectile tissue made up of a series of small paraurethral glands and ducts surrounding the urethra along the roof of the vagina.
See
G-spot, Paraurethral Glands, Urethral Sponge, Skene’s Glands.
FOUR CORNERSTONES OF SUPREME BLISS
Breath, sound, movement, and presence.
FULL-BODY ORGASM
An energetic implosive orgasm throughout the entire body accompanied by writhing, undulating, and vibrating all over as a result of channeling sexual energy out of the genitals.
See
Implosive Orgasm.
GLANS
The rounded tip of the clitoris or penis.
G-SPOT
A small, mobile pleasure point usually located a few inches deep on the upper part of the vaginal channel, first reported in the 1950s by the gynecologist, Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg, as the female orgasmic trigger.
See
Female Prostate, Paraurethral Glands, Urethral Sponge, Skene’s Glands.
HOT SPOTS
Tissues inside the vagina that need healing. She may feel tension, numbness, tenderness, soreness, pain, burning, or a bruised feeling in these areas.
IMPLOSIVE ORGASM
A long series of slow, pleasurable vibrations in both men and women accompanied with a rush of orgasmic energy which occurs when sexual arousal gets pumped back inside and is circulated over and over again without explosive release.
INNER FLUTE
The invisible channel near the spine that connects the chakras.
See
Chakras.
KEGELS
Exercises originally developed by a gynecologist named Dr. Arnold Kegel in 1952 to teach women to regain control of their urinary reflexes by restoring tone to their PC muscles after the trauma of childbirth.
See
PC Muscle.
KUNDALINI
Loosely, sexual or orgasmic energy. The normally latent psychosexual power, likened to a coiled snake, that lies dormant at the base of the spine. When awakened, Kundalini energy can ascend through the subtle body, creating powerful ecstatic experiences and heightened cosmic consciousness.
See
Energy.
LOVEPLAY
Any kind of intimate, physical, sexual frolicking that creates turn-on and demonstrates love, affection, and desire. Foreplay is included, but loveplay extends throughout the lovemaking experience, not just as a precursor to intercourse and can even be an end in itself.
MEDITATION
Sitting and emptying the mind by reciting mantras, watching the breath, or witnessing ideas floating by, intended to create a “no mind” condition of deep inner peace filled with stillness.
MOVE ENERGY
To circulate, channel, or run sexual energy throughout the body.
ORGASM
Sexual climax, the moment of most intense pleasure in sexual stimulation, usually accompanied with explosive release, and sometimes by an unlimited, timeless, whole body-mind-spirit altered state.
ORGASMIC BREATHING
The kind of breath, sound, movement, and presence that happens when you have a typical exciting explosive orgasm. Consciously and intensely using these four cornerstones will heighten sexual ecstasy.
See
Four Cornerstones of Supreme Bliss.
ORGASMIC ENERGY
Strong, pleasurable sensations and energy accompanied by intense sexual arousal.
O-ZONE OR ORGASM ZONE
The high plateau of sexual ecstasy where you float continuously with multiple and lengthy full-body mind-blowing energetic orgasms.
PARAURETHRAL GLANDS
A collection of up to 40 small glands, accompanied by ducts and blood vessels, surrounding the female urethra along the roof of the vagina. Also known as Urethral Sponge, G-spot, Female Prostate, and Skene’s Glands.
PC MUSCLE
Short for pubococcygeus. The muscle that snakes down around the anus and genitals connecting the pubic bone to the coccyx bones plus the sitting bones and legs.
PEAK
Letting sexual excitement rise to a high level and then, immediately drop back down, which, if graphed, looks like scaling a steep mountain peak followed by a precipitous fall.
PEAKING
Adjusting the sexual stimuli that cause sudden surges of arousal in order to come back down without going over the top to orgasm.
PERINEUM
The general region of the pelvic floor between the genitals and the anus.
PLATEAU
An ongoing high level of sexual arousal that continues without diminishing.
PLEASURE BALLOON
An energy bubble that is imagined inside, which limits and controls your capacity to feel. At rest, your pleasure balloon is collapsed around your genitals. As you become excited and filled with orgasmic energy, your balloon expands.
PRE-ORGASMIC
Referring to a woman who hasn’t yet experienced an orgasm.
PRESENCE
One of the four cornerstones of supreme bliss, which means to relax enough to open your senses in the moment without any goal or expectation and with 100% focus on the pleasure you feeling right now.
P-SIGNAL
The sensation of a swelling G-spot that initially feels like the need to urinate but which actually signals the right time for a woman to push out, expel fluid, and ejaculate.
PUBOCOCCYGEUS
See
PC Muscle.
SACRED SPACE
Consciously making the environment in which you explore your sexuality a special place. This includes cleaning and beautifying the room you choose.
S.E.X.
Subtle Energy eXchange. Any touching, moving, meditating, or erotic sharing, including fantasy, which stimulates and connects lovers’ inner vibrations.
SELF-PLEASURING
A term for masturbation during which one honors one’s body and celebrates pleasure.
SEX POSITIVE
An attitude and mindset in which you know that sexual ecstasy is good for you.
SIGNALS
Words, sounds, or hand motions used to give feedback to a sexual partner about erotic reactions and arousal level.
SKENE’S GLANDS
Another name for the spongy erectile tissue made up of a series of many small glands and ducts surrounding the urethra along the roof of the vagina. Named after Alexander Skene, M.D., who studied and drew them in great detail in 1880.
See
G-spot, Female Prostate, Paraurethral Glands, Urethral Sponge.
STREAMING
To circulate, move, run, or channel sexual energy, often without sexual stimulation, to create strong pleasurable spasms and energetic vibrations.
URETHRA
The tube or canal through which urine is discharged in both men and women.
URETHRAL SPONGE
Spongy erectile tissue made up of a series of up to 40 small paraurethral glands and ducts surrounding the urethra along the roof of the vagina.
See
G-spot, Female Prostate, Skene’s Glands, Paraurethral Glands.
UTERUS
A pear-shaped, hollow muscular organ or womb in which a fertilized egg grows into an embryo, fetus, and baby.
YAB-YUM
The paramount sexual position named for the Buddhist term “union of mother and father” in which the man sits cross-legged with the woman on his lap with her legs wrapped around him.
OTHER AMORATA PRESS BOOKS
MALE MULTIPLE ORGASM: TECHNIQUES THAT GUARANTEE YOU AND YOUR LOVER INTENSE SEXUAL PLEASURE AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN
Somraj Pokras, $13.95
This book teaches a man how to make love for hours while giving his partner absolute pleasure again and again.
 
EROTIC MASSAGE FOR LOVERS: SENSUAL TOUCH FOR INTIMACY AND ORGASMIC PLEASURE
Rosalind Widdowson & Steve Marriott, $16.95
Designed to help lovers unleash the dynamic potential of the erogenous zones all over the body, this book explores a range of sexually charged movements and manipulations, with some surprising additions and ingenious variations.

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