How to Become an Alpha Male For Today's Man (Learn How to Attract and Talk to Women) (3 page)

The feeling of worthlessness because of that job we lost to someone who doesn’t deserved it but clearly can outdo you. These are the types of experiences that leave stains in our minds ultimately stopping us from succeeding by resurrecting those same feelings which now act as warning signs.

The light has been turned on in this dark but promising room called anything’s possible.  The bad part is we now have visual ability to see doubt, fear and anxiety. This must be deprogrammed from our mind.  How is that done? How do we plunge through this tall and terrible roadblock?

The answer is quite simple but easier said than done. You have to straightforwardly face your exact fear head on!

There is nothing to fear but fear itself.  When it comes to dating more especially, this particular fear is a figment of your imagination. You have defeat yourself.

You have become your worst opponent. Not the extremely gorgeous woman across the room.  Or the crowd that you believe is watching you waiting for you to fail so they can obnoxiously laugh at you. You have created an imaginary wall of fear stopping you from making your goal a reality. This is most men first mistake when it comes to meeting or socializing with beautiful women.

Fear has bullied your mind and stopped you from attending life.  You have to see fear as a bully and how do you get rid of bullies?  You do that by accepting the challenge. Since we are dealing with the developing of an alpha male in regards to dating then let’s address that specifically. You need to write down your fears in order. If your fear is approaching someone you may have an interest in at work or in school write it down. Next if it’s fear of rejection while trying to meet women in public write it down, if it’s fear of dancing or whatever write it down. The purpose is to see your problem first on paper then destroy it in reality by chronologically challenging these issues to a duel.

Set a date to approach that love interest from work. (Work related or office romance can be a sticky situation but if done right you will win with minimal to no damage/backlash. We get more in depth about how in later chapters.) 

Set a date to go out in public and approach each and every woman who catches your attention or vice versa.  Write down your results, this will teach you your percentage.

Some men may experience higher success like 7out of 10 some maybe 10 out of 10 but mostly the average is 5 out of 5 you win some you lose some, but if you can learn the techniques of this ebook and apply them correctly you will increase your average significantly.  Jot down what you say to each individual female. Write their response to your best catch lines and even your worst. This practical technique brings experience and experience is the best teacher.

There are some other techniques to practice that’ll help make you comfortable with initializing conversation with a woman. Some used favorably are rewards of monetary value and trust me it works. This particular practice or exercise can be done alone but usually performed in groups. This is a beginner’s exercise but it can be used to build confidence in an extreme way.

This game is competitive and profitable. It builds up nerve and gives you more experience and experience leads to comfortableness and that ultimately comes from being confidant.  This is what you initially desire.  It’s best when it’s done with more people and a playing field where women are plentiful.

This exercise is strictly for advancing your confidence by utilizing the pressure of competition with the given incentive of fortune.  The rules of this practice are simple. You may want to gather a few friends it’ll make for more entertainment. You challenge each friend to make their move on someone who would be considered unapproachable for whatever reason but mainly because they are strikingly beautiful. You raise the bar on each woman you select so that it will be hard for the next opponent to approach them. This also makes it hard on you for the same standards apply when it’s your turn. The penalty for not completing each task is up to whoever is playing but it is usually a fine.

In the end the winner receives the most and the loser leaves with nothing. The whole objective is to take their minds off of the pressure of so called breaking the ice and the fear of rejection and make them perform for the sake of competition and profit which is much easier and enticing.

This exercise has proven to be a top confidence booster, and no one leaves the game without obtaining the most important thing, experience, which will make socializing with women second nature.

              
LESSON 3. The right bait for the right mate.

To catch a fish you use a rod a line some bait and you go to a body of water. To catch a mouse you use a trap with the proper scent to their liking and wait, to catch a bear you use a bear claw trap, get where I’m going. Make sure you are using the right trap to catch this specific woman. Every type of female is different and every trap you create must be also. Use this correctly and you will find yourself overwhelmed with the response.

Let’s examine this simple concept first. This is a known fact that we have all different types of women out there with different personalities. The one thing I must add is the rule to not judge a book by its cover applies here in a big way. Most women are stereotyped as well as men and usually do to us misdiagnosing them based off appearance alone we lose out on a great friendship, business partner, or relationship. On the contrary we also have a greater percentage of being able to determine certain crucial things about a woman simply based off of her style, looks etc. This is because of variety.

After a while you tend to categorize certain women by looks and personality simply because it starts to become like an algorithm if you will.   Once you have been around and had the opportunity and pleasure to become familiar with every type, it becomes easier to demonstrate your particular approach as your every move is now based off of analysis and statistics. I personally recommend getting to know every type of woman and become familiar with as many different personalities of as many women as you possibly can.

This will increase your knowledge which will ultimately give you the advantage over any of your competition when it comes to gaining favor in regards to seducing women.

A very often missed tactic but crucial mistake is reading too deep into a person.  If done correctly it should be the first thing to do. First, pay very close attention to every detail. It speaks before she does. It’s your key to another locked door. It gives away all the answers to an uncooperative unwilling mind.

Here’s an example, you meet a very attractive business lady. She’s always in a hurry. Stopping her in her tracks would make you look more like a nuisance than an Alpha male. Not only is this an obstacle she also exemplifies radiant beauty making her intimidating, her facial expression seems aggravated or arrogant it’s hard to tell. 

It seems she has no time for conversation.  As an Alpha male these are the women you love to encounter. They present a challenge they give you your stripes so to speak. If you win one or more over it will also boost your confidence.

Challenging women should be looked at as an invitation. This particular woman demands the best of the best so you must come prepared. Your mind should be thinking strategically. Your first thoughts must not be how I should gain her attention.

Your first thought should be how I can gather the most information. It is very important to use your time wisely doing this, gather your information quickly and remember everything counts.  You should instantly take notice to her walk. Questions like how does she walk? Is it fast or is it slow? The way she looks how she carries herself, does her facial expressions change. This type of Q&A proves to be very helpful when determining whether you want to pursue and how.

Also how does she handle it when other men approach her if at all possible to see? Which arm carries her belongings which colors does she favor? Her style of dress, does she wear flats or heels, dress suits or short skirts, noticeable thongs or the not. It may seem like a bit much but it gives you the cutting edge when you make your first move.

When a woman refers to a man as interesting or intriguing it is because of this type of preparation that makes the difference. Most men wouldn’t even think of going through all this, but if you aspire or at all consider yourself to be an alpha male then this is not an issue but a necessity.

Whether they know it or not they come across as lame because most women seriously have heard it all before and without something different to say or elaborate on you are usually coming up with the normal introduction which once you have heard “How are you doing Today?” and “Excuse me miss” over a hundred times! And that’s just for today, and then it becomes oblivious to a woman. 

If you want to stand out from the pack then you must strike a nerve when you approach then your response will not only be an introduction but a sustainable conversation. As I said before, once you master this skill it becomes second nature and it will happen automatically without thinking so don’t worry about over exerting yourself becoming an Alpha male takes practice but eventually like all else it’ll soon come naturally.

Now the reason you need to know every piece of information is because it tailors your offense to her defense (if any) in the same way a coach analyzes the opposing team’s play. Should he notice a change he then calls an audible that should make the opposing team’s play counterproductive. So be very meticulous about detail. 

One of the details to take close notice to is color. Take the color she mostly wears or has on now. Say for instance its red and black. Is it mostly red? If it is then you can quickly but carefully determine her personality. There are studies that calculate a person’s attitude and personality based off of color selection. This helps a great deal as it’ll tell you if maybe this is a good or bad day to approach as well as if you approach should be upbeat or more subtle. Proof of this can further be examined by google searching the color diagnostic test. This was created in 1947 by a Swiss psychotherapist named Max Luscher who suggested that a person’s favorite color could determine their personality traits.

Her walk tells a lot of important information for example; her pace whether fast or slow tells me her mood. If she walks extremely fast then she is more than likely the type who doesn’t have time to hear a silly and familiar come on line. Sometimes they work but it’s always out of pity if they do. Now if she walks slowly, it tells me she’s more nonchalant and likes to take her time to enjoy every moment life has to offer at least for this moment, I myself would have to approach indirectly always,( never reveal any hidden agenda, alpha males are always mysterious).

I would interest her by appealing to her self-interest or speak something based off of quick observation that she may consider interesting. 

Now facial expressions on the other hand helps in a great way but can be very misleading. Most women look as if they do not want to be bothered but what they are really staying even if they are involved with a significant other is I want to be bothered  by someone worth my time, worth my space someone intriguing someone interesting. Even she is out with girlfriends on a lunch date whether she’s involved or not someone of that status is always worth a conversation simply due to the flattery that comes with it.

That is why as an alpha male it is always good to stay mysterious, interesting and intriguing. So if you encounter this type of expression do not be discouraged.  I will give you an example;

There’s a steady paced but slow walking woman approaching, you determine she’s laid back and gear yourself to show her how you could benefit her life more by meeting an interesting person such as yourself but before you can go with your introduction you get closer and notice her facial expression reads sadness and her head is lowered toward the ground or either to the left more or to the right but not straight ahead. You then determine a more sentimental approach is necessary as this will be more productive.

So you may start your spiel by introducing yourself and going on to agree with her mood and sympathizing with these types of days. Of course she will indirectly deny her mood but will be intrigued that you cared enough to look deeper within her instead of worrying solely about your hidden agenda.  This is how you become interesting.  If you gathered enough information to safely assume correctly then you will have gained yourself a conversation and maybe a meaningful friendship.