How to Make Love All Night (and Drive Your Woman Wild) (And Drive a Woman Wild : Male Multiple Orgasm and Other Secrets for Prolonged Lovemaking) (14 page)

Your partner should stop moving
the moment
you stop. Any extra motion right now could cause you to ejaculate before you want to.

Your final peak is going to be at Level 9.9…your point of inevitability. This is the big one. Don’t panic. Remember how much time you have between the point of inevitability and the expulsion phase of your ejaculation. Your penis should now be pointed as high as it can go. Start your sprint. Thrust as hard and as fast as you can all the way up to your point of inevitability.
Now stop thrusting! Slam on your PC muscle—

give it everything you’ve got.
Take a huge breath. Open your
eyes
. Now try to hold that PC squeeze for at least five to ten seconds.

Right now, your body should be going into orgasm. Your heart is pounding, your muscles are contracting, and you’re probably sweating—
but you did not ejaculate!
You have just had an orgasm without ejaculation.

What you want to do now is back off and rest a little bit by starting some really slow, easy thrusting. The slow, sensate-focus thrusting will help you maintain your erection.

Give your partner lots of kisses for being so wonderful. But remember, it’s not over yet. One down, one to go.

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TROUBLESHOOTING TIP: After your first orgasm, your erection may go down temporarily. On a hardness scale of one to ten, it could drop as low as five. That is why you need to resume thrusting as soon as possible to bring yourself back “up” to speed.

Once you’re both rested and ready, it’s time to head for the home stretch. Start by intensifying your thrusting. Let your arousal level rise. But this time,
don’t try to stop
. Pass Level 8. Keep thrusting. Pass Level 9. Keep thrusting. Thrust all the way through your point of no return. Pass GO. Collect $200. Let yourself have a full, fabulous orgasm, complete with ejaculation and eighty-piece orchestra accompaniment.

Congratulations! You have just had a multiple orgasm
. And boy, do you deserve it.

This exercise is called “The Big Takeoff” because it reminds me of the way airplanes take off at John Wayne International Airport in Orange County, California. To cut noise pollution on takeoff, the pilot angles the plane up really high, accelerates really fast, then cuts the engines. Your final peak at Level 9.9 should feel the same way. Your penis is angled up as high as it can go, you are thrusting as fast as you can, then suddenly you use your PC muscle to “cut the engines.” Get the picture?

There is another image that helps my clients learn and remember this exercise. When you are doing this exercise, think of yourself running up a hill as fast as you can until you reach a sign that says “Level 8.” You hit the brakes and catch your breath.

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Maybe you slide back down the hill a little bit to the sign that says “Level 7.” When you reach that sign, you start sprinting again. This time, you sprint all the way to the sign that says “Level 8.5” You hit the brakes again, catch your breath, and slide back down one level. These sprints continue to Level 9 and Level 9.5. Your last sprint is to the sign that says “Level 9.9: NO TRESPASSING BEYOND THIS POINT.”

Now this sign is just inches from the top of the hill, and beyond that is a steep drop to the bottom. So this time, you sprint as fast as you can up to the sign and hit your breaks really hard because you don’t want to go over that hill. But even though your feet are firmly planted at the sign, your emotional momentum still makes you feel as though you’ve gone over the top, and you experience all the sensations of falling without actually falling.

These two images—the noise abatement takeoff and hill-side sprints—should help you get your motion and your angles right at the crucial points in this exercise. If you already have an image of your own, use it by all means. I just find these two particular images extremely helpful when someone is learning these techniques for the first time. Some clients tell me that years after they have learned these techniques they still get a little misty eyed every time they fly out of John Wayne International Airport.

For the Do-It-Yourselfer

Some day, there will be an old saying, “You don’t have to have a partner to have a multiple orgasm.” Today, you just have to take my word for it. The following method is the one I use most often to teach

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men how to have a multiple orgasm without a partner. Even if you have a partner to learn with, practicing on your own always accelerates the learning process. This is a particularly good exercise to practice various techniques and hone your control. Most men wind up slipping in at least a few private practice sessions when they are first learning these methods.

There’s a lot to learn in the beginning, and men tell me that practicing on their own helps build their confidence.

Exercise 18: Two-Time Champion (solo)

Lie down and get very comfortable, or sit in a comfortable chair. Take some lubrication and begin stroking your penis with a sensate focus genital caress. We’re going to start by doing some nice, slow low-level peaks. I recommend doing one or two Level 4 peaks, followed by a Level 5 peak and a Level 6 peak. Each peak should last at least three or four minutes.

Once you have completed at least three or four low-level peaks, you’re going to target Level 8. But this time, you’re going to do something a little bit different.

TROUBLESHOOTING TIP: This technique does not work if you try to jump into the deep end of the pool and start with high-level peaks like Level 8 or Level 9.

You must start slowly, practicing peaks at Level 4, Level 5, and Level 6.

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Instead of using a slow sensate focus stroke, you are going to stroke your penis as fast as you can to bring your arousal to Level 8.

When you reach Level 8, slam on your PC muscle, take a deep breath—as deep as you can—and open your eyes. Slow your stroking down and let your arousal drop a couple of levels.

Your next target is going to be Level 8.5. To get there, start stroking your penis as fast as you can. When you reach Level 8.5, squeeze your PC muscle as hard as you can, take a deep, deep breath, and open your eyes. Slow down your stroke, breathe really slow, and let your arousal drop again.

You’re going to repeat this quick-stroke method for Level 9 and Level 9.5. Once you’ve completed these two levels, you’re ready to stroke yourself as fast as you can all the way up to your point of inevitability—Level 9.9. When you hit that point, you want to squeeze that PC muscle as hard as you possibly can. Open your eyes. Breathe deeply. Hold that squeeze tight for at least a full five seconds, if not more.

At this point, your body should go into orgasm, but if your PC muscle is strong and you timed your squeeze right, you will not ejaculate.

This is hard work. You’re probably sweating and gasping for breath right now if you’ve been following my instructions carefully. So let yourself drop a couple of levels and really catch your breath. Don’t stop stroking because you don’t want to lose your erection. Just stroke yourself slowly for a little while.

Ready for your second orgasm? Great. Once again, begin stroking your penis as fast as you can.

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Pass Level 9, pass Level 9.5, and keep stroking. Stroke all the way through your point of inevitability into orgasm. Don’t try to stop. Don’t use your PC brake. Just let yourself have a full orgasm, complete with ejaculation. And that is how to have a beautiful do-it-yourself multiple orgasm. Now hit the showers.

You Know It’s Working When…

Let me remind you one last time that your initial attempts with these multiple-orgasm exercises might bring strange or unusual results. You may only have a partial orgasm that doesn’t feel all that special, or you may feel as though you missed an orgasm. You may even have a partial ejaculation without any orgasm after your first orgasm. Don’t get scared and don’t get discouraged. This is all very good news. You are clearly on your way to having your first full multiple orgasm. Your body is just getting adjusted to some new ideas.

As I said before, most men have at least one of these unusual experiences before their techniques “click.” So just relax and enjoy the process.

C H A P T E R E L E V E N

PRACTICE, PRACTICE,

PRACTICE

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earning the techniques in this book is like learning anything new. Some guys will be just plain lucky. They will become multiorgasmic quickly and easily, and retain that ability, even improve upon it, for the rest of their lives. But what about everyone else? It’s my experience that most men master the art of multiple orgasm in a more conventional two steps forward, one step backward fashion. For these men, the key to improvement is that one word we all dread:
practice

Don’t you just hate it when a teacher starts lecturing you about the importance of practice? I know I do. That’s why I stopped taking violin lessons four times. But…sigh…as we all know, sometimes there’s just no substitute for putting the old nose to the grindstone.

You are learning to do amazing things with your body.

It’s not fair to expect yourself to be perfect the first time and every time. With a little bit of the “p” word, however, you can easily solidify and refine the techniques that will give you years and years of multiple pleasures. The most important thing to remember is that following these techniques will always bring results. Besides, there are worse things to be practicing on a Saturday night.

One easy way to strenghten your technique is to keep repeating the exercises you’ve just completed in chapter 10.

Now I don’t know about you, but that doesn’t sound like a very painful homework assignment to me…and I hate homework. It is also very helpful to return to the exercises in earlier chapters that stress control and technique. Practice peaking (Exercises 6 and 7), peaking with the PC (Exercises 8, 9, and 10), and plateauing (Exercises 11 and 12).

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These are especially helpful if you have a little trouble controlling your high-level peaks. Of course, you should
always
be giving your PC a workout to keep that wonderful little muscle strong as a vise.

There is one other exercise that really focuses on fine-tuning your timing and control. It’s a really exciting exercise, and even if you don’t try it, you should read through it. You may pick up an idea or two for later.

Exercise 19: Splitting the Atom (with a partner) This exercise begins with the man lying on his back while his partner gives him a genital caress. Start by doing some really easy, low-level peaks or plateaus, say Level 4, Level 5, and Level 6. Take your time—at least four or five minutes at each level. Focus on the sensations of the caress.

Assuming that you have a good erection at this point, it’s time to switch positions. Your partner should lie on her back with her legs up and knees bent. As you enter your partner, be certain that your weight is being supported by your legs, not your arms. Start thrusting at a medium pace.

Try to peak at Level 8. When you reach Level 8, slow down a bit and give your PC muscle a squeeze. Make it a medium squeeze, not a crusher. Your partner should slow down her movements to match yours. Let your arousal drop a level.

Now pick up your speed and peak to Level 8.5. Slow down once again and give your PC another medium squeeze. Once again, your partner should slow

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down her movements to match yours. Let your arousal drop a level. Pick up your speed again and peak to Level 9. Slow down. Squeeze your PC and let your level drop. Each of these peaks should last at least three or four minutes.

Now this is where it gets a little bit more interesting than usual. From this point forward, you’re going to be inching your way toward the point of inevitability, doing a series of short peaks (forty-five seconds or less) at higher and higher levels. Think of yourself as trying to do a peak at Level 9.1, Level 9.2, Level 9.3, etc., all the way up to Level 9.9.

It may sound a bit ridiculous to try and split hairs like this, but actually, it isn’t that hard. For example, the difference between Level 9.4 and Level 9.5 is probably just a few thrusts—it could even be a single thrust. So what you’re going to be doing is adding no more than a few additional thrusts every time you peak, using your PC muscle to bring you back down a bit in between each peak.

Your final peak will be at your point of inevitability—Level 9.9. Because of the gradual approach you have made to reach the top, you will probably find it much easier to squeeze your PC muscle at just the right moment this time, letting your body go over into orgasm without ejaculating.

After your first orgasm, give yourself a short rest by doing some very slow thrusting and some real easy breathing. Are you ready for more? If you’re maintaining your erection and your arousal is pretty high, pick up your speed and thrust all the way through your point of inevitability, having a second orgasm, complete with ejaculation.

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This exercise is very unusual for both partners because it’s almost as if you’re doing a very high-level plateau while squeezing your PC muscle every few seconds. It might feel as though your body is having little spasms or mini-orgasms before you have your first big orgasm.

If you miss one of your high-level peaks and wind up having a partial ejaculation, or even a full ejaculation with your first orgasm, that’s perfectly okay. This is a pleasure technique, not a birth control technique, and there are no grades here. Try to have another peak and another orgasm, but if you can’t recover, don’t sweat it. Just remember that the next time you do this exercise, you’re going to try to be a little bit more conservative with your thrusting.

Like most of the techniques you have now learned, this practice exercise can also be done without a partner. In fact, it’s a particularly good exercise to do by yourself because it is a little bit easier to control the intensity of stimulation to the penis when you are using your own hands. Since we’re working with such subtle incremental changes here, every little bit of control makes a difference.