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Authors: Joan Elizabeth Lloyd

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DO YOU MASTURBATE?

O
kay, let’s move on to masturbation. Haven’t you ever wondered whether real people do? Well, they do!

Let me give you some statistics based on the surveys I received. This is probably a more liberated group than the average
but, with that in mind, here’s what the numbers said.

Of the respondents, 98% of the men said they masturbate, while 96% of the women stated that they do. Of those who do masturbate,
24% of the men and 25% of the women said they masturbate at least once a day, while 58% of the men and 55% of the women said
they masturbate at least once a week.

As you might expect, 62% of the women said they use toys, while only 45% of the men claimed the same.

Just over 80% of both the men and women thought their partner knew that they masturbate but, strangely, only 60% of the men
and 68% of the women thought their partners did it.

A twenty-six-year-old woman wrote:

I do it nearly every day and, although I was brought up to believe it was wrong, I love it. I didn’t touch myself for a long
time until I suddenly discovered all kinds of amazing things about myself. Now I know what I like and what I don’t like and
now that I know I can tell my boyfriend, too.

I’m damn good at it, too; like anything else it gets better with practice. I’ve done it so much that I’ve become multiple
orgasmic. I’ve even tried to see how many climaxes I could have; I had six in about half an hour before passing out cold.

I try to make it different and interesting every time. Sometimes it’s just a quickie to help me sleep; sometimes, I drink
a little wine, read a book—
Vox
was my most recent—and “romance” myself. I just recently bought the iRabbit, a vibrator extraordinaire, and it’s terrific.
I prefer my hand, though—human contact is always better than a tool. I enjoy masturbating in front of men, too, if they like
it.

A thirty-four-year-old woman wrote:

Yes, I do, and the frequency depends on the time of the month. The week before my period, I masturbate probably two or three
times a day. The week after my period, I may only do so once or twice all week. During my period, I have learned that masturbating
relieves my cramps so the second and third days I may masturbate seven or eight times! It’s purely therapeutic, of course
(evil grin).

I have a vibrator to make it easy especially if I am in a hurry. I always close my eyes and fantasize completely unrealistic
scenarios (like having a threesome with my husband and another male, or being the guinea pig in a scientific sex study). If
I am not in a hurry, I like the easy stimulation of a soft spray of the shower on my clitoris. Nothing like a little good
clean fun!

A sixty-eight-year-old man wrote:

I masturbate whenever I feel the urge, about three to four times a week. I use lubricant, getting very hard and pulsing, edging
toward ejaculation for a long time. Stimulation? It varies, sometimes it’s on the phone or with a cyber partner, sometimes
alone. I even have videos of myself masturbating, which excites me. I love the sight of my cock, hard and ready, and I love
watching it come as I feel the spasms.

A twenty-one-year-old woman wrote:

I masturbate almost every day. More than anything else pornographic movies get me in the mood, and erotic stories often work
well, too. My imagination also plays a big part in it. Music doesn’t usually play into my masturbation, but I know that it
does with my partner.

A forty-seven-year-old man wrote:

I masturbate three times a week, sometimes more, generally lying down in bed fantasizing. Sometimes I like doing it to your
short stories, Joan, and I also enjoy good porno movies. My hand works just fine, but occasionally I add my wife’s vibrator.
Sometimes I lube with baby oil, sometimes with hand cream. I guess it just depends on my mood.

My wife knows, but not “overtly.” She does know that a few times when she did not want to have sex and I was desperate, I
jerked off in bed with her next to me, sometimes talking dirty to me, sometimes helping a little with her hand.

She doesn’t admit that she masturbates, but sometimes I have noticed that, when I return from a business trip, her vibrator
has been moved. I know it’s bad to peek but I do. I wish she’d share this with me because I think we could add it to our love
life.

A thirty-two-year-old man wrote:

I masturbate every other day or so using lubricant. I like to read porn on the Web and sometimes I use a butt plug for added
stimulation.

A thirty-six-year-old woman wrote:

I masturbate occasionally. My husband didn’t used to mind but lately my sex drive has taken a dive so if I were to masturbate
without him involved, he’d likely be annoyed.

A nineteen-year-old woman wrote:

I masturbate three or four times a week. I usually just have to rub my clit to get off, but occasionally I insert a finger
or two. I just do it whenever the urge hits me as long as the baby is asleep.

My husband says he doesn’t masturbate but he does buy porno magazines and I suspect that he jerks off from time to time. I
don’t really mind. Show me a man who says he can go three weeks without any and I’ll show you a liar. Hey, as long as he can
stay satisfied without needing another woman I don’t care how he does it.

A twenty-six-year-old woman wrote:

I have masturbated since I was twelve. Now I do it once a week or so. I start out by watching a sexy movie or reading a steamy
book until I am completely aroused. Then I use clitoral stimulation only until I have an orgasm. It usually only takes a few
seconds to get there because I know exactly where to touch. I have never used a toy but I admit I am curious about vibrators.
Someday I may have the courage to actually buy one.

A twenty-two-year-old man wrote:

Of course I masturbate. Even when you’re in a relationship, I think you still have to do your own thing once in a while. I
believe that you have to love yourself and be open to self-experimentation to be able to love and be experimental with someone
else.

Once when I was at university I wandered into some nearby woodland and placed all my clothes into a bag. I placed the bag
in a ditch, and walked about five hundred yards from it so there was no way I could get back to my clothes in time if someone
saw me. I just lay down in the mud and masturbated. I was there for ages. I just kept getting close to coming and then stopping
and starting again. I wanted to increase the danger, I guess. I ended up coming all over myself after about fifteen minutes.

A sixty-year-old man wrote:

I like to look at myself naked in a mirror, or gaze at a picture in a magazine, a TV film, a woman or girl outside, or at
my partner lying in bed next to me. I fantasize a lot about having sex with different women, in different poses or situations
while doing myself, and I often take as long as I can before coming.

When I come while looking at my female neighbor sitting and relaxing before the large window on a chair in her living room,
I just feel great, maybe because I think about the possibility she can see me doing it. Sometimes I even do it in sight of
a woman passing by. It gives a tremendous tension just wondering,
Has she seen what I did?

Sometimes I try to get an erection without using my hands by sticking my penis into a small detergent drawer of the washing
machine we have. When I stand upright it’s exactly level with my penis and it is the same width. I put my penis in and close
the drawer as far as I can so my penis is held by the machine. Then I start moving forward and back and… I get a huge erection.
After that my hand takes over.

I think it is good to do it as often as you can and enjoy it, since then your sexuality is kept alive and you feel in a better
shape. My wife often masturbates next to me in bed and that turns me on a lot! It’s great to masturbate while watching a woman
doing it at the same time.

A fifty-nine-year-old man wrote:

I don’t masturbate alone much because I do not have to, except when my wife is sick or something. I do, however, masturbate
as part of sex with her. What feels particularly good is the last few seconds before coming. The routine goes like this.

She lies on her back, spread wide enough so I can straddle her left leg at the thigh. I put the fingers of my left hand inside
her and my right hand strokes my penis until it comes on her tummy or tits. Then I collapse on top of her and rub my come
between us. We spend a few moments, then clean up.

We use toys sometimes, too: vibrators and dildos usually. Sometimes I put the little one inside her and my penis tight next
to the vibrator. She is not very adventurous but goes along to please me. She likes me inside her.

My wife doesn’t masturbate alone either. Her first husband just used her as a place to put his come and then rolled over and
went to sleep. She did not have her first orgasm until after we were together and she damn near blew a gasket the first time
she came. She can help bring herself to orgasm at times, but generally she likes me to do it for her.

A twenty-year-old woman wrote:

Masturbation for me varies from a couple of times per week to twice a day, depending on my mood and location. At the moment
my boyfriend is quite tired a lot of the time and goes to bed earlier than I do, so sometimes I need a little more satisfaction
than I’m getting. Also, I find it very hard to climax during sex or any way other than with my own fingers.

I tend to masturbate in the morning, or late at night. I usually read on-line erotica or find some porn. I put a cozy rug
over my desk chair, sit down half cross-legged, and remove my slacks. I find something to insert inside myself—a tube of mascara
with a tightly closed lid works wonders. I used to masturbate only with my right hand, with a very specific stroke. The needs
of on-line porn (I have a right-handed mouse) have taught me to use my left also, with a slightly different movement.

I find some images or stories that fit my mood, and alternate between using the mouse with my right hand and stroking my clit
with my left and using my right hand to move the object inside me. It usually takes me around twenty minutes to come, but
it can take much longer if I’m tired.

A fifty-one-year-old woman wrote:

The moments leading up to the orgasm, that excitement in all my nerve endings followed by that feeling that nothing could
stop the rush, is the best thing ever.

I am particularly turned on by my nipples. I touch and rub them until they become turgid, then pinch them between my fingers,
and pull on them until I’m really hot. Then I move one hand to touch my clit, pressing down on either side so that the little
head pops up. I lazily circle as I dip inside my cunt for juices, then things accelerate and I come. It feels like an immense
release of all my powers, as if I’m giving them over for a touch of paradise.

A forty-seven-year-old woman wrote:

When I masturbate, I like to pretend that my lover sneaks into my room and starts kissing me from the toes upward under the
sheets. Eventually I dream that he performs oral sex on me. It makes me come every time.

A twenty-two-year-old woman wrote:

I masturbate occasionally, when I read, watch, or think of something that makes me horny and I don’t have someone to take
care of that need.

Orgasms are usually dependent on clitoral stimulation for me. I have two vibrators. I insert the one into my vagina and put
the smaller one on my clitoris, a pretty quick and simple way to climax.

A twenty-five-year-old woman wrote:

I begin by rubbing my clit until I start to open up, then I slide my fingers in and stroke my g-spot faster and harder until
I orgasm.

I have done it in front of my boyfriend and often rub my clit while we are having sex. He seems to like watching and will
even buy magazines to get me aroused if I am not feeling sexual.

A twenty-seven-year-old woman wrote:

My masturbation routine is usually to read something sexy, anything from straight erotica like yours, Joan, to all kinds of
fetish magazines. I imagine myself in the story and focus on my clit, rubbing as I read until I build to an orgasm.

A twenty-eight-year-old woman wrote:

I do it in the shower with a handheld shower massager but I would rather have a partner join in instead of doing it alone.

A thirty-year-old woman wrote:

I find that when I pleasure myself it’s too fast and over too soon so I don’t do it often. I read about people enjoying the
pleasure for a long time but for me it’s over within five minutes.

My husband encourages it and I know he would love for me to put on a show for him. Unfortunately I just don’t feel comfortable
performing a show that is only going to last five minutes.

A thirty-eight-year-old woman wrote:

I masturbate almost daily. I enjoy the calm feeling after the release, which for me is very fast. I usually use the middle
finger of my right hand or a vibrator to rub my clit.

I own a bag full of expensive toys, most of which are good concepts but don’t really work—butterflies, ben wa balls, vibrators
with fancy tops. I prefer my simple vibrator with the speed on slow.

I also love my big dildo. It’s rubber, two inches wide, and eight inches long with a suction cup at the bottom. What I love
is the feeling of it first entering me, and I love to stand it on its suction-cup base on the side of my bathtub.

I am not able to orgasm through intercourse only, because it never lasts long enough. Consequently masturbation is part of
our routine every time. I enjoy masturbating while his cock is pressed up against my vagina, or while I’m sitting on top of
him, rubbing myself to orgasm. As soon as I feel release from clitoral stimulation, I almost immediately come from intercourse,
and I’m able to “ride the waves” as I climax over and over again, for as long as he can remain hard inside me.

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