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resources: pruning and, 18, 25; sustainability and, 221–26

responsibility, 129, 136; avoiding, col ateral damage of, 138, 141; codependent mapping and, 66–69; covering for others and, 61–62; misunderstood loyalty and, 65–66

sales, 47, 161; internal maps and, 55, 56

Scheier, Mark, 64

seasons.
See
life cycles and seasons

second careers, 35–38, 44

selective memory, 182–85

self-absorbed resisters, 188

self-selection, 193–98; not being bad guy and, 193–96; for your own attachments, 197–98

self-sustaining motivation, 104–5

Seligman, Martin, 55, 56

Sense of Urgency, A
(Kotter), 151–52, 166, 189

Shimer, Julie, 77–81, 82–83, 85–86, 87, 89–90, 91, 151

size of business, thriving to the max for, 18

skeptics, NoNos vs., 189

skil ed help, 107–8

skil s building, 104

smoking, quitting, 155

social networking, 46–47

spiritual state, sustainabilty and, 224

spring cleaning, 46

spring, tasks of, 41, 42, 44–45

standards, defining, 23–24; not being bad guy and, 193–96; self-selection and, 196–98

Starbucks, 48

starting up a business, 42–43

Stockdale, James, 84–85

strengths movement, 145–46

strengths, sustainability and, 225

structures for change, 103, 165–66; deadlines, 162–64; monitoring systems, 104

stuckness, 54–71; acclimation to pain and, 53–54, 55; moving past, 75–76.
See also
internal maps subcategory pruning (micropruning), 30–32

success: defining and measuring, 28–29; resistance to change and, 76–77, 79, 85–86

summer, tasks of, 41, 42–43, 44–45

support for change, 106–7; “ending al iances” and, 156–59

sustainability, 221–26; situations to assess for, 223–25

symbolic events, 211–12, 215

takeovers, 43

talking to foolish people about problems, 137–38

team metabolizing, 218–19

terminal il ness, accepting existence of, 48–51

threatened resisters, 188–89

time provided by hope, 85

tone, in the conversation, 206

Townsend, John, 109–11

trust, determining who is deserving of, 97–101, 119–47.
See also
evil people; foolish people; wise people truth: getting in touch with, before the conversation, 204–5; people unable to face, 22–23.
See also
reality unnecessary endings, 116

urgency, creating, 149–72; “ending al iances” and, 156–59; executive decisions and, 171–72; making real the threat to the future and, 151–56; measuring and evaluating in, 169–71; setting deadlines and, 162–64; structure and, 165–66; stying close to misery and, 166–69; vision and, 159–62

victimhood, 136

vision, creating, 159–62

Walton, Sam, 170

Weight Watchers, 116

Welch Al yn, 76–81, 82–83, 86, 87, 89–90, 91

Welch, Jack, 24–28; “face reality” as mantra of, 75; firing of bottom 10 percent of work force and, 25, 26–27; “fix, close, or sel ” standard and, 25, 26, 130, 198; focus on number one or two in their markets and, 24, 25, 161; intolerant of bureaucracy, 25, 27

“whole vision” paradox, 185–87

winter, tasks of, 42, 43, 44

wisdom, adding in, 109–11

wise people, 122–23, 124–31, 143, 147; receptive to feedback, 126–31; strategies for dealing with, 130–31; traits of, 129–30

wishes, incompatible, 173–76

wishing vs. hoping, 87–89, 91–92, 96

Zevon, Warren, 143

About the Author

DR. HENRY CLOUD is a leadership coach to CEOs and business executives, and a clinical psychologist with an extensive background in both the clinical and professional consulting worlds. An international y popular speaker, he is also the bestsel ing author of
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;
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;
Boundaries
;
Nine Things You Simply Must Do
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