Orgasm in 5 Minutes (9 page)

Kiss me a lot.
If you want to be a passionate lover and excite your partner from the beginning, you will have to make an effort when it comes to kissing. Be imaginative when you kiss, concentrate on the contact between the lips, and try to synchronize the movement of your tongues for a complete blending of the two. Kisses act as soothing balm in the beginning, filling us with security and confidence, and as a starter toward pleasure, as their intensity grows. Start kissing only the corners of your partner’s mouth; they are highly erogenous. Then offer her the soft and inviting inside of your lips in a deep, intimate, and erotic kiss. While you kiss, caress her hair and neck. Run your tongue over her gums and the edge of her tongue. When you have done all that, nibble her lips gently. Stop in the middle of a deep kiss and sigh without pulling away from her mouth so that she can feel the warmth of your breath. You can take advantage of this break to tell her how attractive and desirable she is to you.

I AM ATTRACTIVE AND DESIRABLE

We like to have our clitoris caressed . . . but not in the first minute. You have already learned that sex begins in the mind. Prove to your partner that she is the sexiest and most desirable woman. Kiss her often. Call her at work to tell her that you love her. Give her flowers for no special reason. Embrace her tenderly when you get home . . . even if you are tired. Tell her that she seems slimmer and more attractive. It is the best way to get her to orgasm. Don Juan did not seduce women because he had a very big penis. He was irresistible to them because he made them feel unique and desirable, because he knew how to interpret their desires and how to get closer to what they wanted, because he wrote them beautiful love letters and he continually praised their beauty. They surrendered to him almost beforehand. They felt attractive, desirable, and unique. They went to bed with him . . . and enjoyed intense orgasms. Because, usually, a man who can treat women like this will also know which steps to follow in any sexual relationship and how to play up his lover’s sensitive points in the most appropriate way. If you keep reading, you will find some practical tips in this regard as well.

Take your time.
A good technique is to increase tenfold the time you think is needed for your girl to be suitably aroused. Four hugs and two badly given kisses do not count. A woman’s body needs time, trust, and relaxation to be sensitive to the touch. The vagina has to change in size, it has to open, and it needs to be properly lubricated. The clitoris has to become erect, just like your penis, and it takes a while to get there. Before any penetration, stop at every part of the woman’s body. At the mouth and face, breasts and belly, thighs and hips. Caress each of these parts with softness, sweetness, and passion. Kiss her in every corner; penetration should only occur when both of you are desperate for it to happen. This will speed up your orgasm . . . and hers. If you do it this way, the orgasms will be so intense and deep that you will notice how the neighbors look at you with more respect in the elevator in the morning.

Interpret her answers.
If you hear that she starts moaning, continue what you are doing and do not move on quickly to something else. Always follow the suggestions made to you, whether by word—unusual—or hand gestures and indications. When you feel her lift up her thighs or she squeezes your head against her with more intensity, it means that she wants more pressure. If her hands clench your buttocks with fast and insistent movements, it means that she wants to speed it up. And when you feel her breathing stop and her body tense, she is starting to have an orgasm . . . or she heard the baby cry in the room next door.

Say something.
We like to hear how you enjoy it. But not only through groans. Do not be afraid to speak. Tell your partner how good you feel. Tell her how much pleasure you feel in what you are doing. With details. You cannot imagine how exciting it is for a woman to hear from the lips of a man who is enjoying himself like crazy that he cannot hold it in any longer—to hear from a man who is in heaven that if pleasure keeps increasing, he is going to die. Many times, women orgasm sooner because we hear things like this from our partner rather than from having our G-spot touched.

T
HE APPROPRIATE SEQUENCE

Imagine that you are already in bed. You have undressed your partner with all the softness and care that I advised you about a little earlier. Now I am going to propose a sequence, a timing, for her to have an unforgettable sexual experience. If you follow my advice, tomorrow morning when you look at yourself in the mirror to shave, you are going to sing with more self-assurance than Ricky Martin.

Caresses and kisses, caresses and kisses.
Lie down next to her. Caress her hair. Gently, tenderly. Kiss her forehead and eyebrows. Many times. With soft, tender kisses, with very little pressure and soft, delicate, continuous contact. One of your hands can go slowly down the side of her face, the back of her ears, her neck, and, very delicately, around her breasts. Kiss her on the mouth, half opening her lips a little, as if “sinking” your lips into hers. Let her be the first to use her tongue. If she does it, follow her, rub it gently with yours, and insert it into her mouth a little. Do not go all the way into the back of her mouth, or you will make her feel nausea and break the charm.

Concentrate now on her ears. Do not insert your tongue—we do not like to have our ears sucked! Rather, kiss the back of her ears softly and repeatedly. Caress the lobe with your tongue. In front and behind. Gently.

Make your way toward her breasts. Not roughly! The breasts are extremely sensitive. Caress both at once, from top to bottom and with little circular motions without touching the nipples . . . yet. Begin to gently lick her breast in a circular manner and from the periphery to the center. Go with your tongue to the areola and stop there a few moments. Do you hear her moaning? Then continue with the same for a while. Then go on to the nipple. Always in circles and gently. Try pressing a little and feel her reaction. It is important to know how to interpret her answers: if she caresses the back of your head, press a little more. You will notice that her nipples will harden. Suck them gently. She will let you know how far you should push.

Then, always slowly and gently, keep distributing caresses and kisses over her belly, around the navel, never inside! On her hips, buttocks, inner thighs, exterior and interior lips, over her vagina. If you notice that she is sufficiently lubricated, you can begin to insert a finger very slightly. But only a little. Remember that the most sensitive part of the vagina is around the entrance. Then you can gently caress the clitoris. She will be showing you how much pressure to apply and the rhythm of the caresses. But keep in mind that this is not an orgasm. You are making love, and all these kisses and caresses are part of foreplay in lovemaking that will elicit the appropriate arousal.

ORAL SEX

I know that not everyone likes it, but if your aim is to get your partner to enjoy it, do not hesitate for a moment. Very gently at first run your tongue over her outer lips.

Open her vagina a little with your hand and gently suck the inner lips and muscles of the vagina. Gently press the tip of your tongue on her vagina. After that, you can move to the clitoris. The intensity of the pressure and the pace you follow should be set by her. I will tell you that when you give her oral sex, it is called cunnilingus, and when she does it to you, it is called fellatio.

The position for oral sex can be quite varied. I will suggest two: her lying on her back with knees slightly bent, and you upside down with your head between her thighs; and you on your back and her “sitting” on your face, with her knees resting on the bed and her hands on the headboard. This second position facilitates movement for the woman, and she can guide your tongue toward the exact point where she wants to be stimulated.

I will tell you as a fact that oral sex is the surest way for a woman to reach an orgasm. In fact, some women do not get there with a partner, although they do through masturbation.

Penis-vulva caresses and penetration.
The time has come for you to get in position to have intercourse. The penetration is close and the climactic moment too. First select the position in which you are going to start penetration. Or, rather, let her be the one who decides. At this point, agreeing is the easiest thing in the world. Once in place, and before entering her, stroke her genitals with the tip of your penis. If it was not erect enough, doing this will make you ready to explode. At this point, your partner’s vulva is lubricated as an airplane engine, and just as ready for takeoff. Penetrate her. The movements should be rhythmic, smooth, and steady. Occasionally stop for a moment, just to continue again. Try to gently caress her clitoris while moving. She will let you know if she likes it. Whisper in her ear what you feel. It will not be difficult; just let go. Forget that you are a tough, silent guy, and enjoy letting her know how you feel. What comes after this I cannot tell you, because not even the best poets have managed to express it. But if you have followed these steps thoroughly, I assure you, as the French say . . .
chapeau
!

S
OME CONCRETE TECHNIQUES

If you read this chapter carefully, you do not need to know much more. But since I know you and I know that you like “details,” I will provide some specific techniques that will take you and your partner to seventh heaven . . . Or beyond!

While you stimulate her clitoris with your tongue,
insert two of your fingers—only halfway—in her vagina, with a smooth motion from the inside out.

Watch how she masturbates,
and just before she reaches an orgasm, penetrate her gently. A simultaneous orgasm is guaranteed.

Use a feather
to touch her genitals.

Place her clitoris
between two of your fingers and stimulate her, without letting go, in a circular motion.

Place the palm of your hand
on her mons pubis and, with a little pressure, move it up and down.

Insert two of your fingers in her vagina
about an inch deep and press up a little. You will touch her G-spot. Move your fingers gently in a circular motion, and see what awaits you!