Reclaiming Conversation (57 page)

machine zone,
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–73,
74
,
185
,
279

MacVicar Day (MIT),
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–40,
247

Madrigal, Alexis,
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,
74

Malkovich, John,
339
–40

Mann, Thomas,
67

marketing, targeted,
307
,
308

marriages, arranged,
184

Marx, Karl,
307

Massive Open Online Courses,
see
MOOCs

maximizers,
182
–83

Mayer, Marissa,
269

McCain, John,
39

McCarthy, Joseph,
302

mealtimes, phones at,
13
,
19
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29
–31,
48
,
153
,
170
,
267
,
345

cell phone tower game and,
30
–31

family and,
42
,
47
,
104
,
109
,
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,
112
–15,
118
–21,
284
,
345

no-phones policies and,
121

rule of three and,
19
–20,
30

medical scribes,
283

medicine, conversations and education in,
224
,
281
–83

meditation and mindfulness,
280
,
288
,
361

meetings,
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,
9
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15
,
43
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53
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,
287
,
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politics and,
298

work,
see
work meetings

meme tracks,
255
–57

Memex,
76
,
320

memory, outsourcing of,
224
–25

mentoring,
11
,
13
–14,
105
,
115
,
262
,
331
–32

for conversation,
264
,
284

of students,
247

messaging,
see
texting and messaging

Microsoft,
304

mindspace,
302
,
303
,
304
,
312
,
316
,
330

mind wandering,
74
,
76
–77,
79
,
97

see also
daydreaming

Minsky, Marvin,
338
,
352

mirror neurons,
342

“missing chip” hypothesis,
110

mistakes,
51
,
53
,
174
,
241
,
347
,
356

MIT,
211
–12,
231
,
232
,
238
,
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,
341
,
347
,
349

Artificial Intelligence Laboratory,
342

MacVicar Day,
239
–40,
247

Media Lab (MIT),
252

Project Athena,
234
–35,
236

MOOCs (Massive Open Online Courses),
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–34,
235
,
237
,
238
,
239

Coursera,
230
,
231

face-to-face contact in, importance of,
230

Udacity,
230
,
234

Mood Map (app),
93
–94

Morozov, Evgeny,
91
,
304
,
329
–30

Morris, Margaret E.,
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–94

mourning,
92
,
135
–36

Mozart, Wolfgang Amadeus,
67

multitasking,
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–15,
39
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42
,
43
,
139
,
213
,
219
–20,
154
,
251
,
264
,
321

as addiction,
215

attentional pluralism and,
219

brain and,
213
,
221
,
321

in classrooms,
213
–17

effects of,
220
,
257
,
260
,
261

at meetings,
251
,
257
,
258
–59

myth of,
213
,
215

Tabless Thursday and,
261

work and,
260
,
283
–84

Myers, David,
183

My Real Baby (sociable robot doll),
349

MySpace,
140

Nagy, Gregory,
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,
233

narratives,
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,
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,
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–89,
220
,
222
–23

numbers and,
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,
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–91,
93

about oneself,
308

Nass, Clifford,
40
–42,
138
,
318

National Security Agency (NSA),
313
,
327

negotiations, email and,
266

neighbors, “disappearance” of,
114

Netscape,
85

news:

catastrophes and,
300

news crawl,
15
,
42

newspapers, as distraction, compared to digital media,
115

New Year's party, by teleconference,
268

New York Times,
228

Ng, Andrew,
230

Nobel Peace Prize,
297

Nobel Prize,
182
,
245
–46

noise, and anti-noise movement,
329
–30

nostalgia,
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,
114
,
184

NOTHING gambit,
177
–79

NSA (National Security Agency),
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,
327

objects not-to-think with,
310
–12,
327

O'Brien, Conan,
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“on call,” being,
158
–61

online real,
293

opinions, controversial, desire not to have them,
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,
322

Orwell, George,
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other-directedness,
145
–46

Palfrey, John,
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panopticon,
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,
306

Papert, Seymour,
228

parents and children,
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26
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27
,
47

advice and,
355

and asking children to use words,
36

asymmetrical relationships between,
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–21

and availability of parents,
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–61

and checking location of family member,
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–31,
134
–35

digital passbacks and,
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,
66

eye contact and,
36
,
108
–9

mentorship in,
11
,
13
–14,
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,
115

phones and,
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–63,
66
,
104
,
107
–8,
112
–15,
117
–26,
160
,
179
,
284

rules and,
121

technological expertise and,
118
–19

trust and,
113

turning to phone while on school field trip,
122
–23,
124
,
125

see also
family

parties,
153

birthday, in the early days of texting,
141

finding, and paralysis by FOMO,
145
,
146

for graduating seniors, silence at,
138

online,
268

romance and,
181
–82

patience,
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,
38
,
69
,
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–62,
172

Pavarotti, Luciano,
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Pentland, Alex,
252

performance, online experience as,
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,
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,
83
,
84
,
106
,
109
–10,
117

“personalization” or tracking,
314
–15

pets, virtual,
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,
356

Pfeifle, Mark,
297

Phillips, Adam,
98

phone calls and conversations,
45

cancelling plans and,
33

fear and avoidance of,
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,
148
–49

responding to,
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–43,
148
,
299

at work,
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phones,
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,
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,
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addiction to,
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,
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–38,
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,
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as adding value to conversations,
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,
124

apps on,
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,
74
,
126
,
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in classrooms,
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–15,
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,
164
–65,
212
–14

discarding smartphone,
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–68

as disrupting conversation of friendships,
157
–58

as distraction in relationships,
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–94

early smartphone years,
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–43,
144
–45,
147
-48

emergencies” and,
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,
53
,
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,
160
,
299

and fear of missing out,
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,
146
–47

and feeling like a whole person,
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–-24,
150

ignoring, and thus making a person feel more important,
156

and keeping conversations light,
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,
21
,
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at mealtimes, see mealtimes, phones at

no-phones policies,
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,
213
–14,
259
–60,
283

parent-child relationships and,
62
–63,
66
,
104
,
107
–8,
112
–17,
117
–26,
160
,
179

presence of,
20
–21,
27
,
319

privacy and,
303
,
304
,
306

putting people “on pause” in order to check,
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,
155
,
345

sleeping with,
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,
66
,
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,
122
,
158
,
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,
300

talking about what is on,
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–52,
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and vulnerability to feeling alone,
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–53

see also
texting and messaging

photograph sharing,
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–36,
37
,
151
–52

phubbing,
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,137

physicians,
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–83

Picasso, Pablo,
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pilot in cockpit analogy (for associates in law firm),
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–29,
249
,
266
,
287

Plato,
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play,
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,
5
,
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-64,
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,
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Poincaré, Henri,
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politics,
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,
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–316

friendship model for,
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–98

Kony and,
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,
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–95,
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,
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social media and,
295
–98,
314

see also
public square

PowerPoint,
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,
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,
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predictable time off (PTO),
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presence, physical:

electronic presence and,
154

value of,
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–64,
271
–72

Prévost, Abbé,
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privacy,
50
,
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-86,
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–4,
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–16,
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-330

all-or-nothing thinking about,
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–30

apathy about,
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-312,
313
–14

browsers and,
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,
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convenience vs.,
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,
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,
312

creativity and,
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,
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data and,
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,
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–306,
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–15,
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,
328
–29

democracy and,
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-304,
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,
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email and,
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,
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,
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,
305
,
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family and,
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library books, “mindspace,” and,
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,
303
,
304
,
310

local,
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not thinking about,
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–12

phones and,
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,
304
,
306

protecting,
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,
304

self-surveillance and,
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–6

surveillance and,
50
,
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,
304
,
305
,
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–13,
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thought and,
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,
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–3,
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–10

productivity,
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–51,
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–53,
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