Screens and Teens (26 page)

1.
Jill Savage and Kathy Koch,
No More Perfect Kids: Love Your Kids for Who They Are
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2014), 199.

2.
Josh James, “Data Never Sleeps 2.0,” Domosphere, April 23, 2014,
www.domo.com
.

3.
“The New Golden Age of Radio,”
AARP The Magazine
57, no. 1A, December 2013/January 2014, 10.

4.
“July 2014 Web Server Survey,” July 31, 2014,
www.news.netcraft.com
.

5.
Barry Schwartz, “The Paradox of Choice,” Ted Talk, July 2005,
www.ted.com
.

6.
Ibid.

7.
Deuteronomy 6:6–8.

8.
Kathy Koch,
Finding Authentic Hope and Wholeness: Five Questions That Will Change Your Life
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2005), chap. 4. See also Savage and Koch,
No More Perfect Kids
(Moody), chap. 6.

9.
Joshua Becker, “Raising Consumer Conscious Teenagers in an Age of Excess,”
Becoming
Minimalist
.
www.becomingminimalist.com
.

10.
Linda Stone, “Continuous Partial Attention,”
Linda Stone
, 2014,
http://lindastone.net
.

11.
Ibid.

12.
Ron Alsop,
The Trophy Kids Grow Up: How the Millennial Generation Is Shaking Up the Workplace
(San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2008), 12, 115.

13.
The gospel is simple: Jesus died for my sin and rose from the dead (Romans 5:8 and Ephesians 2:8–9). Click on “What Is the Gospel?” at
www.evantell.org
.

14.
Eric Metaxas, “Taming Passions through Attention,”
Breakpoint
, July 23, 2014,
www.breakpoint.org
.

15.
1 Corinthians 10:23, 2 Corinthians 3:17, Galatians 5:1.

1.
See
pluggedin.com
for reviews of movies, videos, television shows, music, and games. You may also want to check out Bob Waliszewski's
Plugged-In Parenting: How to Raise Media-Savvy Kids with Love, Not War
(Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House), 2011.

2.
Here are links to blogs and websites that often report on issues relevant to young people disconnecting from the Christian community:
www.barna.org
,
www.briandoddonleadership.com
,
www.canonandculture.com
,
www.charismanews.com
,
www.churchleaders.com
,
www.colsoncenter.org
,
www.cpyu.org
,
www.fulleryouthinstitute.org
,
www.probe.org
,
www.stickyfaith.org
,
www.summit.org
,
www.thomrainer.com
.

1.
Steven Spielberg, Quote of the Day,
Poddio
, July 23, 2014,
http://podd.io
.

2.
Herman Horne,
Jesus the Teacher: Examining His Expertise in Education
(Grand Rapids: Kregel Publications, 1998).

3.
See Proverbs 4:13, Proverbs 9:9, Matthew 11:29, 2 Timothy 3:16, Deuteronomy 4:9.

4.
Many libraries offer short seminars on using databases and discerning levels of reliability on Internet research sources. This might be a worthwhile venture for a parent and teen to undertake together.

5.
Janie B. Cheaney, “Generation Distraction,”
World
, 29, no. 17, August 23, 2014.

6.
Webster's New World Dictionary and Thesaurus
, version 2.0 (New York: Macmillan Publishers; Colorado Springs, CO: Accent Software International, 1998).

7.
Michael Youssef, “Wisdom from Heaven,”
Leading the Way
, August 6, 2014,
www.ltw.org
.

8.
Ibid.

9.
See Matthew 19:16, John 14:16, and John 10:11. Jesus is called our Teacher, Counselor, and Good Shepherd for very good reasons.

10.
David Kinnaman and Gabe Lyons,
UnChristian: What a New Generation Really Thinks about Christianity … and Why It Matters
(Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 2007), 125.

11.
Jeff Myers, Paul Gutacker, and Paige Gutacker,
A Special Report: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Millennial Generation—How They Think, What They Believe, How They Relate, and How They Live
(Dayton, TN: Passing the Baton, Inc., 2010).

12.
Archibald D. Hart and Sylvia Hart Frejd,
The Digital Invasion: How Technology Is Shaping You and Your Relationships
(Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 2013).

13.
Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane,
Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2014
)
, 95.

14.
Ibid, 97.

15.
Sherry Turkle, “The Documented Life,”
New York Times
, December 16, 2013,
www.nytimes.com
.

16.
If you want specific suggestions, please check out our website at
ScreensAndTeens.com
.

17.
Again, for more information about sifting, sorting, synthesizing, and sharing, go to
ScreensAndTeens.com
.

1.
Catherine Steiner-Adair and Teresa Barker,
The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood And Family Relationships in the Digital Age
(New York: Harper, 2013), 13.

2.
Sarah M. Coyne, Laura M. Padilla-Walker, Randal D. Day, James Harper, and Laura Stockdale, “Social Parenting: Teens Feel Closer to Parents When They Connect Online,”
Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking
, January 2014, 17(1): 8–13.

3.
Brad Howell, “Using Social Media to Strengthen Family Bonds: A Practical Guide for Parents,” Fuller Youth Institute, July 8, 2013,
www.fulleryouthinstitute.org
.

4.
Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane,
Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2014), 280.

5.
Jill Savage and Kathy Koch,
No More Perfect Kids: Love Your Kids for Who They Are
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2014), 199.

6.
Content included on typical contracts is posted at
www.ScreensAndTeens.com
if you want to use this to guide your conversations.

7.
Adapted from John Stonestreet, “Cultivating Character: Connecting Right Belief to Right Behavior,” Great Homeschool Convention, Ontario, CA, June 14, 2014.

8.
Adapted from Cara Joyner, “5 Questions to Ask Before Posting to Social Media,”
Relevant
, January 14, 2014,
www.relevantmagazine.com
.

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have the best staff! Nancy, Linda, Randy, and Tina are passionate, skilled, and humble team members. Their support of me and the vision of Celebrate Kids, Inc., is humbling. They're among my favorite thought leaders, and I'm a better person for knowing them. I'm especially thankful for the care Nancy and Randy took to discuss the content of these pages with me and to edit my writing. This book is much better because of them. I'm grateful for others who reacted to some of my ideas, especially those who critiqued the chart in chapter 7.

I've learned much from Scott Degraffenreid and Brad Sargent regarding our younger generations, technology, and our culture. I'm grateful for their choice to invest in me.

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Screens and Teens
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I'm certainly grateful for my partnership with Jill Savage and Hearts at Home. Jill is supportive and wise. Hearts at Home conventions and publications are among the best things available for moms. I'm glad this book is a Hearts at Home imprint.

The team at Moody Publishers was easy to work with—and so supportive! This book is what it is because of their editorial expertise. I'm glad and grateful to be a Moody author.

Celebrate Kids is all about influence, so I'm glad to be connected with those who open doors so we can encourage and equip parents, grandparents, teachers, volunteers who work with kids, children of all ages, and others. My gratitude for God's love,
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. is dedicated to helping especially parents, educators, and children of all ages meet their core needs of security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence in healthy ways. Through a problem-solving framework of these integrated needs, our programs and products provide solution-focused strategies that improve their intellectual, emotional, social, physical, and spiritual health.

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