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10. If you could narrow it down to one growth point, what would be your most useful takeaway from spending time in the teaching of this book? Are you hopeful about the changes you plan for your family?

How can we help you? Visit us at
www.ScreensAndTeens.com
for more information, more tools, and a place to share ideas with other parents of teens.

1.
“Read Schuchardt on Media, Tech, and Religion,” The Christian Leadership Center Blog, University of Mary (November 29, 2011).
www.clcumary.com
.

2.
We find our security in God. See John 14:6, 1 John 5:18, and Romans 8:1–2.

3.
“I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship” (Romans 12:1).

4.
On belonging to God: John 1:12, Colossians 2:10, Colossians 3:3.

5.
Our purpose is to glorify God: Isaiah 43:7, John 15:16.

6.
Unique purpose: John 15:5, Ephesians 2:10.

7.
I look forward to interacting with you on the website designed for this book, answering questions and hearing your stories. Look for information, updates, and resources at
www.ScreensAndTeens.com
.

1.
Alan Kay,
Brainyquote.com
.

2.
“Making Connections—Wiring the Brain,” Better Brains for Babies, University of Georgia (2014).
http://spock.fcs.uga.edu
.

3.
Ibid.

4.
Scott Degraffenreid,
Understanding the Millennial Mind: A Menace or Amazing?
(Dallas: N2Millennials, 2008), 14.

5.
Transformed minds: Romans 12:2, Colossians 3:10, Ephesians 4:22–24.

6.
Alisa Harris, “Technology: Online Tools Are Reshaping the Way Young Americans Go about Trying to Change the World,”
World
24, no. 2 (January 31, 2009).

7.
“What Is Addiction? What Causes Addiction?” Medical News Today Blog (March 2009).
www.medicalnewstoday.com
.

8.
Sarah Cassidy, “The Online Generation: Four in 10 Children Are Addicted to the Internet,”
The Independent (
May 9, 2014).
www.independent.co.uk
.

9.
Ibid.

10.
Chris Rowan, “10 Reasons Why Handheld Devices Should Be Banned for Children under the Age of 12,”
Huffington Post (
March 6, 2014).
www.huffingtonpost.com
.

11.
National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse, “Adolescent Substance Use: America's #1 Public Health Problem,” New York: The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University, 39, table 99, June 2011,
www.casacolumbia.org
.

12.
Ibid.

13.
Sarah Cassidy, “The Online Generation.”

14.
Rebecca Hiscott, “8 Ways Tech Has Completely Rewired Our Brains,”
Mashable
, March 14, 2014,
www.mashable.com
.

15.
Chris Rowan, “10 Reasons.”

16.
Barry Schwartz, “The Paradox of Choice,” Ted Talk (July 2005).
www.ted.com
.

17.
“Stress Statistics,” Statistic Brain, July 8, 2014,
www.statisticbrain.com
.

18.
Josh James, “Data Never Sleeps 2.0,” Domosphere, April 23, 2014,
www.domo.com
.

19.
Laura Kann, Steve Kinchen, Shari Shanklin, et al., “Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance—United States, 2013,”
Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report
(MMWR) 2014; 63 (no. 4: 13, 72).

20.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Suicide Prevention: Youth Suicide,” January 9, 2014,
www.cdc.gov
.

21.
Ibid.

22.
Laura Kann, et al., “Youth Risk Behavior,” 2.

1.
Sherry Turkle, “The Documented Life,”
New York Times
, December 16, 2013,
www.nytimes.com
.

2.
Jenae Jacobsen, “The iPad Is Stealing My Son's Childhood,”
I Can Teach My Child Blog
, June 8, 2014,
www.ICanTeachMyChild.com
.

3.
Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane,
Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2014
)
, 171.

4.
Randi Zuckerberg, “Randi Zuckerberg Discusses the Hazards of Social media,”
New York Daily News
, November 5, 2013,
www.nydailynews.com
.

5.
Catherine Steiner-Adair and Teresa Barker,
The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood And Family Relationships in the Digital Age
(New York: Harper, 2013), 4.

6.
Renee Robinson, “A Letter to My Boys (The Real Reason I Say No to Electronics),” blog repost, May 27, 2014,
www.renee-robinson.com
.

7.
Archibald D. Hart and Sylvia Hart Frejd,
The Digital Invasion: How Technology Is Shaping You and Your Relationships
(Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 2013), 72.

8.
Personal story from Jill Savage.

9.
Jenae Jacobsen, “The iPad is Stealing My Son's Childhood.”

10.
Mark Memmott, “Picture This: Selfie Is ‘Word of the Year,'” National Public Radio, November 19, 2013,
www.npr.org
.

11.
CPYU Parent Page
(Elizabethtown, PA: Center for Parent/Youth Understanding), November 2013, 3.

12.
Richard C. Anderson, Elfrieda H. Hiebert, Judith A. Scott, and Ian A. G. Wilkinson,
Becoming a Nation of Readers
(Washington, D.C.: National Institute of Education, 1985).

13.
Archibald D. Hart and Sylvia Hart Frejd,
Digital Invasion
, 67.

14.
Catherine Steiner-Adair and Teresa Barker,
Big Disconnect
, 275.

15.
Lesley Brown (Ed),
The New Shorter Oxford English Dictionary on Historical Principles
, vol. 2 N–Z (New York: Oxford University Press, 1993).

1.
Sue Bohlin, “What Is a Worldview?” Probe Ministries, 2011,
www.probe.org
.

2.
Ibid.

3.
Marshall McLuhan, “Biography,”
www.marshallmcluhan.com
.

4.
Jill Savage and Kathy Koch,
No More Perfect Kids: Love Your Kids for Who They Are
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2014), 107.

5.
Ibid.

6.
The world is about God and for Him: Isaiah 41:18–21, Colossians 1:16.

7.
To explore types of intelligence, see my book
How Am I Smart? A Parent's Guide to Multiple Intelligences
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2007) or look for the pocket guide about the “smarts” at
www.CelebrateKids.com
.

8.
Jill Savage and Kathy Koch,
No More Perfect Kid
s, chap. 5.

9.
Catherine Steiner-Adair and Teresa Barker,
The Big Disconnect
(New York: Harper, 2013), 201.

10.
Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane,
Growing Up Social
, 36.

11.
To read more on this subject, see chapter 6 of my book
Finding Authentic Hope and Wholeness
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2005) or look for more information at
www.ScreensAndTeens.com
.

12.
For more help with friendship levels, go to
ScreensAndTeens.com
for sample questions to use when determining if someone should be moved to a new level of intimacy.
CelebrateKids.com
also offers a pamphlet
Relationships to Friendships
.

13.
To learn more about body language cues, check out the chapter called “People Smart” in my book
How Am I Smart?
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2007).

14.
There are 41 one-another commands in the New Testament about how to relate. You can find their references at
www.ScreensAndTeens.com
.

15.
Patricia Hersch,
A Tribe Apart: A Journey into the Heart of American Adolescence
(New York: Fawcett Columbine, 1998), 222.

1.
Scott Degraffenreid,
Understanding the Millennial Mind
(Dallas: N2Millenials, 2008), 28.

2.
Ibid., 58.

3.
Galatians 5:22–23.

4.
Philippians 4:13 ESV.

5.
University of Kentucky, “But They Did Not Give Up,”
www.uky.edu
.

6.
Psalm 5:3, Psalm 33:20, Psalm 37:7, Psalm 38:15, Psalm 40:1, Micah 7:7, Ephesians 3:20.

7.
Jill Savage and Kathy Koch,
No More Perfect Kids: Love Your Kids for Who They Are
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2014), 186.

8.
Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane,
Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2014), 29.

9.
See explanation of the core needs in chapter 1. My book
Finding Authentic Hope and Wholeness: Five Questions That Will Change Your Life
(Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2005) unpacks these five core needs in great detail.

10.
The topics of correcting and complimenting are covered in chapters 6 and 9 in
No More Perfect Kids
. I offer a CD on this topic on my website and a booklet that explains how to compliment effectively and teaches the difference between
correcting and criticizing. This also includes more than 400 words to use to help you transition from “good” and “bad” to adjectives that are much more helpful.

11.
God will equip us to fulfill our purpose and finish our work (Philippians 1:6). We're created in advance to do good works (Ephesians 2:10) and empowered by His wisdom (James 1:5), strength (Isaiah 40:29), and love (Joshua 23:11).

12.
Jill Savage and Kathy Koch,
No More Perfect Kids
, 185–86.

13.
“High School Dropout Statistics,” Statistic Brain, January 1, 2014,
www.statisticbrain.com
.

14.
Pat Higgins, “National College Dropout Rate Increases,”
The Duquesne Duke
, January 30, 2013,
www.theduquesneduke.com
.

15.
Marc Graser, “Animated Hit Breaks Digital Record,” March 19, 2014,
www.variety.com
.

16.
Daniel Nye Griffiths, “Activision Boasts $1 Billion ‘Call of Duty: Ghosts' Day One Sales,”
Forbes
, November 6, 2013,
www.forbes.com
.

17.
Jill and Mark Savage,
Living with Less So Your Family Has More
(Guideposts Books, 2010).

18.
Download a free Financial Notebook for Parents and Teens at
www.jillsavage.org
.

19.
Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane,
Growing Up Social
, 55.

20.
Erin Long, “6 Small Habits to Increase Contentment When Life Isn't Easy,”
Red and Honey Blog
, July 11, 2014,
www.redandhoney.com
.

21.
Anonymous, “Students and Video Game Addiction,”
Inside Higher Education
, December 12, 2012,
www.insidehighered.com
. See also Nicholas Carr,
The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains
(New York: Norton, 2010), 17–35.

22.
Maria Popova, “Presence, Not Praise: How to Cultivate a Healthy Relationship with Achievement,”
BrainPickings
, May 23, 2013,
www.brainpickings.org
.

23.
Ibid.

24.
Cara Joyner, “5 Questions to Ask Before Posting to Social Media,”
Relevant
, January 14, 2014,
www.relevantmagazine.com
.

25.
Sarah Brooks, “Parents: A Word About Instagram,”
Life as of Late Blog
, April 28, 2013,
www.lifeasoflate.com
.

26.
Ibid.

27.
You can find a helpful list of emotions at the back of
No More Perfect Kids
. A teen can make a copy of this list and circle the words that best describe how they are feeling. This helps teens assess themselves and communicate with parents.