Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality (25 page)

BOOKS AND RESOURCES

David, Marc.
The Slow Down Diet: Eating for Pleasure, Energy, and Weight Loss
. Rochester, Vt.: Healing Arts Press, 2005.

Honoré, Carl.
In Praise of Slowness: Challenging the Cult of Speed.
New York: HarperCollins, 2005.

Lloyd, J. William.
The Karezza Method or Magnetation: The Art of Connubial Love.
Charleston, S.C.: Forgotten Books, 2008. (Originally printed privately for the author in 1931.)

Richardson, Diana.
The Heart of Tantric Sex: A Unique Guide to Love and Sexual Fulfillment.
Alresford, Hants, United Kingdom: “O” Books, 2002. (Originally published in 1999 as
The Love Keys: The Art of Ecstatic Sex.
)

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Tantric Love Letters: A Collection of Experiences, Questions, and Answers.
Alresford, Hants, United Kingdom: “O” Books, 2011.

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Tantric Orgasm for Women.
Rochester, Vt.: Destiny Books, 2004.

Richardson, Diana, and Michael Richardson.
Making Love: What You Should Always Have Known About Sex.
DVD of a live talk. Voice tracks in English and German. Cologne, Germany: Innenwelt Verlag, 2011. Available at
www.livingloveshop.com
.

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MaLua Light Meditation for Women.
Guided breast meditation CD with music, available in English and German. Cologne, Germany: Innenwelt Verlag, 2009.

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Tantric Love: Feeling versus Emotion—Golden Rules to Make Love Easy.
Alresford, Hants, United Kingdom: “O” Books, 2010. (Originally published in German in 2006.)

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Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation.
Rochester, Vt.: Destiny Books, 2010.

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Time for Touch: Massage Using Awareness and Relaxation.
Instructional DVD. Voice tracks in English and German. Cologne, Germany: Innenwelt Verlag, 2010. Available at
www.livingloveshop.com
.

Robinson, Marnia.
Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships
. New York: Random House, 2009.

Rosenberg, Marshall.
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
. Encinitas, Calif.: Puddle Dancer Press, 2003.

Stockham, Alice Bunker.
Karezza: Ethics of Marriage.
Charleston, S.C.: Forgotten Books, 2008. (Originally published in 1903.)

Versluis, Arthur.
The Secret History of Western Sexual Mysticism: Sacred Practices and Spiritual Marriage.
Rochester, Vt.: Destiny Books, 2008.

“MAKING LOVE”

A Tantra Meditation Retreat for Couples

The author and her partner, Michael, offer weeklong retreats in Switzerland that guide couples into the art of slow, conscious sex. For more information about their work please visit their websites listed below.

www.livinglove.com
www.love4couples.com

You may contact Diana and Michael by e-mail at the following address.

[email protected]

About the Author

Diana Richardson
is the author of
Tantric Sex for Men, The Heart of Tantric Sex
and
Tantric Orgasm for Women
and is a teacher and practitioner of holistic body therapies. Born in South Africa, she became the disciple of tantric Master Osho in India in 1979. She is now based in Europe and travels extensively with her partner, hosting weeklong retreats for couples in tantric lovemaking.

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BOOKS OF RELATED INTEREST

Tantric Sex for Men
Making Love a Meditation
by Diana Richardson and Michael Richardson

Tantric Orgasm for Women
by Diana Richardson

The Complete Illustrated Kama Sutra
Edited by Lance Dane

Healing Love through the Tao
Cultivating Female Sexual Energy
by Mantak Chia

Sexual Reflexology
Activating the Taoist Points of Love
by Mantak Chia and William U. Wei

The Alchemy of Sexual Energy
Connecting to the Universe from Within
by Mantak Chia

Taoist Foreplay
Love Meridians and Pressure Points
by Mantak Chia and Kris Deva North

Tantric Secrets for Men
What Every Woman Will Want Her Man to Know about Enhancing Sexual Ecstasy
by Kerry Riley with Diane Riley

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Copyright © 2011 by Diana Richardson
Art in chapters 4 and 5 copyright © 2004, 2010, 2011 by Diana Richardson
Art in chapter 10 copyright © 2011 by Gabriel Tempesta

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Richardson, Diana.
  Slow sex : the path to fulfilling and sustainable sexuality / Diana Richardson.

p. cm.
  eISBN-13: 978-1-59477-823-0

 1. Sexual intercourse. 2. Sex instruction. I. Title.
  HQ31.R48 2011
  613.9’6—dc22

2010042853

Artwork in chapters 4 and 5 prepared by Alfredo Hernando, Madrid, Spain.

Artwork in chapter 10 (with the exception of fig. 10.3) prepared by Gabriel Tempesta, Wolcott, Vermont,
www.tempestart.homestead.com

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www.livinglove.com
or
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.

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Table of Contents

Dedication

Epigraph

Acknowledgments

Introduction: Curing the Speed Disease

Slow Sex: A Physical and Spiritual Revolution

The Sexual Power of Relaxation

THE BREVITY OF THE SEX ACT

RELAXATION IS VITAL FOR THE SEXUAL METABOLISM

THE GOAL OF ORGASM INTERFERES WITH RELAXATION

DEEP SLOW BREATHING INVITES RELAXATION

LINING UP THE BONES

CREATE TIME FOR SEX

The Sexual Power of Awareness

AWARENESS IS THE MISSING LINK

IT’S NOT WHAT YOU DO BUT HOW YOU DO IT

BEING CONSCIOUS INSTEAD OF MECHANICAL

USE AWARENESS TO REMAIN IN THE NOW

ENERGY FOLLOWS ATTENTION

COME HOME TO YOURSELF

The Sexual Power of Quality

GENITAL INTELLIGENCE

MALE DYNAMIC FORCE, FEMALE RECEPTIVE FORCE

EMBRACING POLARITY HERALDS A CHANGE IN DIMENSION

LUBRICATION OF THE GENITALS

SLOW CONSCIOUS ENTRY

STILLNESS AS AN ASPECT OF SLOWNESS

ROTATING POSITIONS AROUND THE GENITAL CONNECTION

SOFT PENETRATION, ENTRY WITHOUT ERECTION

SPONTANEOUS ERECTION

QUALITY IS BASED ON SLOWNESS ARISING FROM CONSCIOUSNESS

The Sexual Power of Rhythm

MAN AND WOMAN HAVE DIFFERENT RHYTHMS

WOMAN’S LOSS OF INTEREST IN SEX

THE OPPOSITE POLE IS CARRIED WITHIN EACH INDIVIDUAL

ALLOWING TIME

REGULARITY AND FREQUENCY

RHYTHM AS BREATH

The Sexual Power of Pleasure

SENSITIVITY, THE SOURCE OF PLEASURE

SLOWNESS ENHANCES SENSITIVITY

THE SHIFT FROM SENSATION TO SENSITIVITY

SLOW SEX IS COOL SEX

INCREASING THE CAPACITY TO PERCEIVE THE SUBTLE

The Sexual Power of Thought

THOUGHT AS DISTRACTION

THOUGHT AS SEXUAL CONDITIONING

THOUGHT AS DESIRE FOR ORGASM

THOUGHT AS SEXUAL FANTASY

POSITIVE THOUGHT AS VISUALIZATION OR IMAGINATION

RIGHT THOUGHT AS INTENTION