Sun Sign Secrets (18 page)

Expectations in Love

The sign of Libra is one of the most positive for relationships, both romantic and committed partnerships of all kinds. If a Libra is in a relationship, he needs to be supported and cared for as well as admired and even exalted.

If a relationship is new, a Libra should make sure his partner is someone whom he likes a lot and who is willing to wait awhile before moving the relationship to the physical stage. When a Libra finds that person, you can rest assured that a wonderful time in his life is at hand and that his fabulous love life will be with someone positive whom he loves and trusts. Faithfulness and loyalty are essential to a Libra.

A Libra also needs a partner to have her own separate interests, as it is important to him to be free to get on with his work.

What Libras Look For

While Libras have a reputation for being attracted only to good-looking people, they are really looking for much more. They appreciate someone who is intelligent and has a pleasing personality. Most of all, they are dazzled by a person who can hold his own in conversational banter. While they are happiest when they can find someone who has all of these attributes, brains will always win out over looks with the clever people of this sign.

If Libras Only Knew

If Libras only knew that any trouble in a relationship with a Libra will come from one or both partners not fulfilling their obligations with honesty and a giving heart. Libra may have learned from others whom she looked up to and respected that this unequal and disappointing tendency was the way to act in a relationship. Libras believe deeply in the power of communication in any relationship. They feel that issues, good and bad, can be handled and solved as long as the talking doesn't stop.

Marriage

The person who partners Libra can expect the marriage to be happy and successful. Libra is the zodiac sign of partnerships, and typical Libras cannot imagine life without a relationship. A Libra will work hard and thoughtfully to make the partnership a harmonious balance of two personalities, but she needs plenty of encouragement.

The person who contemplates becoming the marriage partner of a typical Libra must realize that Libra forms partnerships to escape the loneliness that is always present inside her heart.

Libra wants a partner who has some good business or social connections, too. Libra has plenty of talent and energy and is ambitious to be successful in her marriage, business, and social life.

In a partnership, Libra generally takes charge of the financial planning, making sure that there is always a good bank balance.

Libra's Opposite Sign

The opposite sign of Libra is Aries. Although relationships between them can be difficult, they can also become extremely complementary. From Aries, Libra can learn to take the initiative and stand up for his beliefs. Libra can also learn from Aries how to become self-sufficient and how to gain a greater sense of personal identity, apart from his partner. In this way, Libra, the sign of partnership, may be able to enjoy a separate identity while in a partnership.

Pairing Up

In general, if people display the characteristics typical of their sign, intimate relationships between a Libra and another individual can be described as follows:

If Things Don't Work Out

Because of their dedication to a life partnership, Libras don't like to end a relationship. Not only is there the feeling of disappointment for a dream that has faded, but there is also the prospect of being alone. Libras are not happy alone, so ending a relationship takes a great deal of courage on their part. Thankfully, most of them have the good sense and self-confidence to prefer living solo to staying in a relationship that no longer works as a positive force in their life.

Libra at Work

Libras work very hard to attain the goal of resolving conflict, either through compromise and diplomacy or by fighting the good fight if they are forced to. They are constantly trying to balance the scales of justice regarding practically everything, and that can be very trying, not only personally but also for others. Their desire to make the perfect decision can sometimes prevent them from acting decisively until it is too late to do so. A Libra can be a bit bossy but uses charm and reasoning to convince people of the value of her side of an issue. Libras find it easy to associate and work with others. At work they can serve as good managers, counselors, and collaborators.

People often misread Libra's amiable personality for reticence or weakness, but this is not the case. Anyone who has ever gone up against Libra in a power play knows that she is not only determined but also extremely well versed in the art of arguing a point of view. Libras don't like being manipulated and are unlikely to stoop to this tactic themselves. But they do have the ability to defuse a challenger's argument with wit and charm. For the most part, they get along famously with others.

Typical Occupations

Libras are liable to be involved with any aspect of the law, politics, or diplomacy. Their eye for design may lead them into areas such as fashion, interior decoration, art dealership, and graphics. Naturally creative and artistic, some Libras are gifted fine artists, composers, and musicians. Others may find success as critics, writers, or managers in various areas of entertainment. They also enjoy working in jobs that involve talking and presentation, such as promotional work. Many Libras are good at planning business ventures. Finance is also a fair field, as Libras are trustworthy in handling other people's money.

In a profession or business, Libras often succeed as administrators, lawyers, doctors, antique dealers, or civil servants. Those with a gift for finance sometimes make good speculators, for they have the optimism and ability to recover from financial setbacks.

It is a good idea for a Libra to be doing work that involves interaction with the public or coworkers. Jobs that work best could involve publicity, negotiations, and working in the support industries that service weddings and parties.

Behavior and Abilities at Work

In the workplace, a typical Libra:

• is a great resource for ideas
  
• knows how to compromise
  
• likes to make contracts
  
• builds a good network of contacts
  
• takes time to do things properly
  
• looks for ways to advance her career
  

Libra As Employer

A typical Libra boss:

• doesn't like to be pushed too far
  
• is an extremely good analyst
  
• takes everyone's opinion into consideration
  
• suggests that she is an expert
  
• can argue both sides of an issue
  
• has a strong opinion about neatness
  
• is financially savvy
  

Libra As Employee

A typical Libra employee:

• makes good presentations
  
• has good manners
  
• is an effective mediator
  
• can be moody at times
  
• expects and gives a fair deal
  
• belongs to an organization
  
• needs a long vacation
  
• dresses well and appropriately
  

Libra As Coworker

Sometimes, fearful of discord, Libras become paralyzed with indecision. They easily see the value of another person's point of view. But often, if they do not hold a definite opinion of their own, they fail to take a stand. If they lose confidence in their own views and try to reconcile them with what others may think, they can become confused, vulnerable, and aggressive.

Details, Details

When it comes to life's day-to-day details, Libras have the ability to handle them with ease. But that doesn't mean they always do. They sometimes overlook details, especially if they involve suffering or cannot be resolved elegantly.

They need to fulfill their part of all agreements, rules, and regulations. A Libra must find a way that he can work with others without feeling that he has had to still his own unique voice to do it. Because this isn't always easy for him, he can become frustrated and unnecessarily argumentative. Similarly, working within time constraints or a budget can frazzle him and stifle his creative instincts.

In their continual search for balance, Libras strive to see both sides, even when that turns out to be an exercise in futility. Sometimes just for argument's sake they take an opposing viewpoint. This is their way of familiarizing themselves with all the possible details involved in a project or endeavor. But while it is important for a Libra to be acquainted with this information, he actually works much better as the “idea person,” delegating the detail-oriented work to others.

Money

If Libras are uncommunicative about any area of their life, that area is likely to be money. They usually handle their financial affairs with discretion, preferring to keep such things to themselves. It is also typical for Libras to refrain from telling people how much they spent for a particular item, since to them, it sounds like bragging.

Libras have the ability to be practical about money, but that doesn't mean that they always succeed. They have very extravagant tastes and can find it hard to live on a budget. Immediate gratification can be a problem for them, since when they see something beautiful they want to own it.

Beauty is as important to Libras as money, so if they are surrounded by beautiful things they count themselves wealthy. The best of them measure success by the harmonious elements working in their lives, not by how much money they have in the bank.

At Home

If an individual has the personality that is typical of those born with a Libra Sun sign, home is a place to retire to for rest and recuperation, to prepare for the next period of sustained activity.

Librans find home the one place where it is difficult for them to compromise. They simply have to have things their way, especially when it comes to their home's appearance, design, and decoration.

Behavior and Abilities at Home

Libra typically:

• uses good taste to make the decor beautiful
  
• offers good food and wines to guests
  
• keeps the home clean and tidy
  
• spends time just lounging around
  
• creates a healing environment
  
• makes a very gracious host
  
• takes an active role in redecorating
  

Leisure Interests

A Libra loves a luxurious home where she can be totally lazy. While at rest, the Libran mind is rarely still, always planning ahead, and at times that is enough activity for her. She likes to have sensual bed linens and sophisticated colors surrounding her.

The typical Libra enjoys the following pastimes:

• listening to music
  
• reading poetry
  
• dancing classes
  
• spending time in romantic settings
  
• shopping for fashion
  
• gourmet cooking
  
• interior design as a hobby
  
• going to parties
  

Libra Likes

• getting flowers
  
• having friends around
  
• working with a partner
  
• well-made, expensive clothes
  
• a stimulating discussion
  
• planning a party
  
• having help
  
• attending to the finest details
  
• beautiful surroundings
  
• soft color schemes
  
• being admired
  

Libra Dislikes

• injustice
  
• disharmony
  
• sloppiness
  
• arguing in public
  
• ugly clothes
  
• having to make big decisions
  
• being alone
  
• bad manners
  
• taking out the garbage
  
• vulgarity
  

The Secret Side of Libra

Inside any Libra is a person who is terrified of being alone. The fear is usually well controlled, so the typical Libra always looks calm, collected, and in charge of any situation.

Good-natured and loving, Libras can also be petulant, and even objectionable, when asked to take orders. Similarly, they are extremely intelligent, yet sometimes gullible; they enjoy talking to people, yet can also be very attentive listeners. Although they believe in equality, they sometimes yearn to be subservient to their partners.