Sun Sign Secrets (28 page)

Aquarians often have a distant, dreamy look in their eyes. At other times their gaze is darting and anxious. They are likely to be taller than average, often with a lanky build that gives them a shambling walk. If their coloring is light, they are likely to be sandy haired. Aquarians may have an attractive, almost classic profile. Even if they are dressed expensively, their clothes never seem to fit quite right.

Aquarius' Typical Behavior and Personality Traits

• is friendly and easygoing
  
• likes groups and organizations
  
• can be totally eccentric
  
• is an intuitive thinker with a practical side
  
• has a wide variety of interests
  
• is involved with humanitarian causes
  
• has a mind of his own
  
• is detached at times
  
• has a very ethical, moral code
  
• is attracted to the mystical and the occult
  
• seeks to develop ideas and communicate them
  
• has a wide circle of friends from all walks of life
  
• accepts the many differences among people
  

What Makes an Aquarius Tick?

Aquarians are here to learn how to make real the future they can so easily see in their mind's eye! This is why their life does not provide them with as many opportunities as they would like to enjoy the freedom and other resources necessary to turn their innovative ideas into reality. In fact, they sometimes make such extreme changes that in their enthusiasm to get rid of the old ways they can destroy valuable things from the past that still have great usefulness.

The Aquarius Personality Expressed Positively

At their best, Aquarians are brilliant and engaging people who make friends with individuals from all walks of life. Despite being broad-minded, an ideal Aquarius has fixed ideas and stays true to them, even while being tolerant of other people's lifestyles, beliefs, and habits. Aquarius is often happiest when alone, so she can devote single-minded attention to her pet projects.

On a Positive Note

Aquarians displaying the positive characteristics associated with their sign also tend to be:

• inventive and original
  
• thoughtful and caring
  
• cooperative and dependable
  
• intensely interested in humanity
  
• strong supporters of political reforms
  
• independent thinkers
  
• loyal friends and advocates
  
• scientific and intelligent
  
• communicative
  

The Aquarius Personality Expressed Negatively

Frustrated or unhappy Aquarians may be rather crotchety, melancholy, and eccentric. They can be emotionally cold people and find it hard to show affection even for those closest to them. Despite their brilliant intelligence, negative Aquarians can be set in their ways and ideas. In extreme cases, they may even become hermits, unwilling to have their opinions assailed by other people.

Negative Traits

Aquarians displaying the negative characteristics associated with their sign also tend to be:

• unwilling to compromise
  
• fanatical and unpredictable
  
• stubborn and tactless
  
• preoccupied with curiosities and weird obsessions
  
• perverse, with eccentric habits
  
• surprisingly lacking in confidence
  
• likely to shake up the status quo
  

Ask an Aquarian If...

Ask an Aquarian if you want a simple answer to a complex problem. It helps if your problem is not too emotionally based, but even if it is, an Aquarius will give it a try. The Aquarian mind is highly analytical and skilled at making quick assessments; turning a myriad of information into easy-to-follow directions is never difficult for the people of this sign. Also, if you don't get it the first time, an Aquarius never tires of explaining things, and never condescends.

Aquarians As Friends

An Aquarius friend is a constant source of mental stimulation, information, and practical help. Aquarians make many friends but few confidantes. Aquarius likes a friend who has intellectual interests and enjoys the unusual and the radical. She rarely passes judgment on the ethical codes of friends. Aquarius is friendly to anyone and tends to regard any relationship as platonic. An Aquarius takes great interest in her friends' ideas and projects, and enjoys giving advice and creative input. If an Aquarius wants to have the kind of friendships she has always dreamed of, she must avoid letting her tendency to go to extremes cause her to imagine that she must make radical changes that are really too much to ask of herself and others—changes that are bound to be too difficult to maintain.

Looking for Love

Getting involved with groups of people who have come together for a common goal will help an Aquarius find love. Aquarians can often find their soul mate through a circle of friends, or by getting involved with people who are in fraternal organizations, societies, clubs, trade unions, trade associations, environmental groups, political activist groups, chat rooms, theme cruises, tour groups, group therapy, and all other ways that people get together for mutual support. Going to a place established to help people meet potential partners is favored for this sign. Aquarians have a natural talent for turning their eyes on an individual and seeming to create the basis of a close relationship after only a few days, so long as there are shared opinions, ideas, and aims. An Aquarian may seek to combine love and activism, since she is likely to fall for an individual who is equally socially conscious and politically aware.

Going to completely different kinds of places to meet people—even places an Aquarian might previously have thought were too bizarre—and being open to new and different types of people, the exact opposites of the kind an Aquarius may have been associating with in the past, would be good ways to find love. It is not unusual for Aquarians to be brought together with a potential love interest through unusual circumstances, since the sign itself rules coincidences.

Finding That Special Someone

People do not usually have to make sweeping, radical changes in their lives to bring in the love that they desire, especially the kind of extreme changes that an Aquarian would be willing to make without a second's thought. For Aquarius, radical change is usually less complicated than for other signs, simply because Aquarians don't choose to do things according to plan. Aquarians don't question if a love interest comes into their life; they just accept it as a blessing from the universe.

First Dates

Because Aquarians are up for virtually anything at any time, a first date can be whatever they or their dates choose. Plans for a first date could range from activities as disparate as taking a ride on bumper cars, to an evening volunteering at a shelter or soup kitchen, to a night spent gambling at a private club. There really aren't any no-no's when it comes to taking out an Aquarius for the first time. Aquarians can enjoy themselves in any number of ways, so long as the person they are with is as open, accepting, and spontaneous as they are.

Aquarius in Love

Aquarians attract the opposite sex by their friendly, open manner, though they sometimes may try to seem glamorously aloof. Aquarians can be afraid of a deeply emotional involvement but genuinely want a real friendship with their loved ones. An Aquarian guards her independence and could even enjoy a living-apart relationship. A partner who makes too many demands, becomes jealous, or tries to put limitations on Aquarius' freedom is sure to be dropped quite suddenly.

Undying Love

Often, Aquarians don't get involved in a love relationship, believing that it will become the be-all and end-all to them. Alas, Aquarians may misread or even second-guess their own emotions. Once they are deeply in love, however, they understand that it was only fear that was holding them back. They may not commit in the typical or conventional way. They are not always comfortable showing the depth of their love through sentimental behavior, but they will profess it often with sincere words and kind deeds.

Expectations in Love

Aquarians expect their personal freedom of movement and action to be respected. They need total understanding and tolerance of their eccentricities. Aquarians are completely loyal and faithful to their partners. They expect their partners to enjoy frequent visits from a wide variety of friends from every walk of life.

Both people in any relationship must feel free and independent. This may sound like a contradiction in terms, but people in successful relationships can tell you that they have actually found the freedom to be themselves fully through their relationships. Being true to herself is a spiritual quest for an independent Aquarian thinker. If a partner can be supportive of that goal, he will improve his relationship with an Aquarius. Nothing is more enjoyable for an Aquarius than to be appreciated for who she really is.

An Aquarian's life is filled with unexpected events that cause her, eventually, to feel liberated. These events disrupt the status quo in her life and the lives of those she loves. Every relationship can change for the better. That is what makes her so attractive in the first place.

What Aquarians Look For

Aquarians do not look for someone who will support them in every way or someone they can support in the same manner. More than anything, they want an equal—a person who will walk beside them, rather than lead or follow. Aquarians don't necessarily look for a love interest who will agree with their rather radical opinions. They appreciate people who have strong convictions of their own and who follow their own paths. Aquarians know that the better the friendship is, the better the love relationship will be.

If Aquarians Only Knew...

If Aquarians only knew the deep love and affection their friends and others have for them, they would feel secure and not be worried about or take issue with emotional intimacy in their relationships. They would give themselves a chance to explore the ups and downs of emotional involvement without worrying that it would complicate life for them. Aquarians, once they open the floodgates, can come to terms with both past and present life events that have been awaiting resolution.

Marriage

Once Aquarius has settled into a marriage, he does not like the idea of divorce and often wants to remain friends with a past partner. An Aquarian's relationships would benefit from actions calculated to improve his marriage. Joining, supporting, and advising a group or organization dedicated to relationships might strengthen an existing relationship or bring a new one into his life.

It is important to keep any relationship new and exciting. If Aquarius has done that, then his relationship is stronger than ever and ready for any unexpected challenges that might arise. If Aquarius has allowed things to get stuck at the same level with no growth or change, then he must get to work fixing it or his relationship will be tested by one or both partners acting rebelliously, out-of-the blue challenges, or both.

Aquarius' Opposite Sign

Leo is the complementary opposite sign of Aquarius. Although relations between them can be difficult, Leo can show Aquarius how to make choices to please the self, rather than for an ideal. In this way, Aquarius can build emotional self-confidence. Also, the ease with which Leos handle their emotions can be a real eye-opener for Aquarians, who sometimes hide their true feelings under layers of logic and analytical assessments. In the same way, Aquarius can teach Leo self-control and intellectual discipline.

Pairing Up

In general, if people display the characteristics typical of their sign, intimate relationships between an Aquarius and another individual can be described as follows:

If Things Don't Work Out

If Aquarius wants out and a partner doesn't take the hint, Aquarius is fully capable of doing something to make the partner end the relationship. If the situation is reversed and Aquarius is left in the lurch, there is sure to be a period of emotional mourning, but after that he is ready to move on. Aquarius has way of always looking at life and events from a logical perspective, even when it involves love.